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Like a guy who had ED or someone who was paralysed or disabled or for some reason couldn't have sex or at least if they could was very hit and miss and predictable?

I would because;

A. It's not that important. Sex is a want, a desire, not a need like many describe it as.

B. After the honeymoon period realistically most couples sex dries up anyway or becomes predictable and boring. I'd imagine after having kids and whatnot a lot of couples shut up shop sexually.

C. I believe you can't punish people for things that aren't their fault. Those who say they wouldn't start a relationship with someone in that position, but if that happened to their partner they wouldn't leave them, I believe are full of shit. Either you can be with someone who can have sex or you can't, I don't see how already being with them changes that.

D. I've never in my life had regular sex, was a virgin until 21, and am quite used to not having sex.

Most people I ask the question give an emphatic NO as an answer, but how do MTF'ers feel? Bare in mind this could happen to all of us at any time, a tragic accident or becoming impotent. Most would laugh off this scenario but it really could happen to any of us.
 
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It's never easy but if you love someone enough they will be more attractive than sex itself. And there are 'alternative options' (and no, I don't mean porn). In a way these relationships could be better and more fulfilling at times about enjoying life together and working through hardship together. Not everyone can handle that. Personally I don't think I'd mind.
 

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Tee HEE, how would we guess you would say that? Depends on the individual. A man or woman for example who has a high sex drive, won't get that someone who has a low one. Doesn't live their lives just for sex. And there's always self relief as someone pointed out.

What's actually priceless is to know someone truly loves you, cares about you. And misses you when you're not around. That's where it's at. Sex is just a biological release that way too many people have mistaken for love.
 

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Sex belongs to a relationship (the one talked here), all other opinions are invalid.

deal with it
 

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If we truly love each other, I would. Outercourse would do good enough.
 

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Close thread ban OP.

Why you ask? Because i thought we already clarified 95% members on this forum are virgin addicts, of course they wouldn't have any problem with it.

P.S Method man is a liar i for one wouldn't be half surprised if he would jump out of joy since someone would consider him, her boyfriend.
 

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I know a married (gay) couple. They don't have sex as one has virtually zero sex drive. The other is a horny devil. The have an open relationship and are also open about who they have sex with. It wouldn't work for me at all (jealousy would kill me) but for them it works perfectly - they've been together a decade and are completely in love with each other. I think it really depends on how much a person relates sex with intimacy - for some it's top of the list, others not so much and they can be inmate and close in other ways.
 

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Pretty much this.
Same.
I had a gf over 20 years ago who got TB, and was put on very strong drugs to treat the disease and lost all her libido.
There was no other option other than to ask for a hall pass. Needless to say it ended there and then.
 

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it's very hard to imagine your reactions in such a complicated situation.

It's like asking teens which of their two children they would save in a fire situation, considering they have no idea what to have child means f.e.

Sex is very, very important. It is virtually a need emotionally, so it would be wrong to assume anything at all.

Coz the other question stands - if you're suddenly unable to have anykind of sex, would you grant your spouse/partner hall passes?

Ofc, the angels we all are in virtual situations (starting with OP), we would. Of course, we love them, can't give them what they need, that's the way to make them happy and they would stay with us and everything would be perfect.

So, no problem. If our SO deserves our love, he/she would a) grant us anything we want, b) we'd grant her/him anything he/she'd want, so case closed.
 
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