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Is it a burden?

  • No way, im not a narcisist, im always happy if a guy likes me!

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  • Yes, a real burden, just ruins the friendship a lot of the time

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  • No guy friend has ever told me that

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I didnt ask the question in reverse because, as far as im concerned, im thrilled if a girl im friends with tells me she likes me, cause I like pretty much all of them anyway.

I think guys like it, but if you dont, contribute freely.

Girls, does this become a burden? Id imagine it happens a lot to some girls. Especially given todays prevelant female - male friend zoning practise.

I mean do you dread the day a guy friend tells you he wants things to go further, id imagine it must happen so much more often than the reverse?
 

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I didnt ask the question in reverse because, as far as im concerned, im thrilled if a girl im friends with tells me she likes me, cause I like pretty much all of them anyway.

I think guys like it, but if you dont, contribute freely.

Girls, does this become a burden? Id imagine it happens a lot to some girls. Especially given todays prevelant female - male friend zoning practise.

I mean do you dread the day a guy friend tells you he wants things to go further, id imagine it must happen so much more often than the reverse?
:awww: This makes me sad somehow

Anyway, it's the same for guys as for girls... if you like them too, you'll be thrilled. Otherwise, welcome to awkward central.
 

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2 words is enough. Bilbo just gave his masterclass :worship:
 

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Nice contribution from the ladies so far.

Ajde.
 

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I have no friends. This makes it a bit easier.
 

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Are you writing a book, 2003?
It will be released the same day as Bilbo's ultimate sex bible. Wonder who will sell more copies in the opening week...?

Ajde.
 

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I voted "No guy friend has ever told me that"

Must be my bed hair and lack of make up..
 

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Harmless, I have to let you know that I like you as a woman, and would love to go all Barry White on you.
Thank you. :hatoff:
And if you saw me on the week before waxing appointments, unclogging the drains in paint-stained sweats, you'd probably like me as a man, too.
I believe in all-encompassing love, just the kind of person I am. :p ;)

I voted "No guy friend has ever told me that"

Must be my bed hair and lack of make up..
I don't think so. There must be other factors.
 

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depends how good looking he is :lick:

anyway, if i dont feel safe enough in someone's presence, that person won't become my friend for sure
so, he already must possess all traits i need in a guy
apparently the few people i reached most intimate friendship level with were all in my bed :facepalm: but they were all good looking, yes

for all the time i did believe in friend zone, until now, when i actually realized the pattern in my life :lol: friendzoned are the worse looking ones and i'm not that totally close with them

i only had one very good looking and very true friend that i wasn't in bed with, but probably because we nearly grew up together and it felt more like incest issue than friendzone issue :lol:
 

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It is a mistake to make blanket statements one way or the other.

It all depends on the person. From a male point of view, which is all I can give, it all depends on how you do it and whether you sense she digs you or not as well.

If you two are friends and she is single, and she is always flirty with you, etc, go ahead and make the move. But it all depends on how you make the move. You gotta make it as if you could care less whether she says yes or no. If you make the move sheepishly, defensively, passively, then for sure she'll stick you in the friend zone.

It all depends on the man reading the woman, sensing whether she would be receptive or not, and then making the move boldly, confidently, with style.
 

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Well I was pretty close to this girl as friends and after I told her I liked her things got quite bad, she ignores my texts and just isn't the same person when I see her, but it's as if she's trying to act like nothing's different.

She was a bitch anyway so good on me she didn't like me back.
 

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It all depends on the man reading the woman, sensing whether she would be receptive or not, and then making the move boldly, confidently, with style.
I agree with you. That is why reading body language is more important than anything else. The best way to make the move is a direct approach.
 

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Well I was pretty close to this girl as friends and after I told her I liked her things got quite bad, she ignores my texts and just isn't the same person when I see her, but it's as if she's trying to act like nothing's different.

She was a bitch anyway so good on me she didn't like me back.
I hear you, this situation does suck.

Its like when you talk, they pretend nothings wrong, but theres this giant elephant in the room and its like shes oblivious to it, but at the same time, she treats you like a prick.
 

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I hear you, this situation does suck.

Its like when you talk, they pretend nothings wrong, but theres this giant elephant in the room and its like shes oblivious to it, but at the same time, she treats you like a prick.
:worship: You put it absolutely perfectly.

I actually see this girl tomorrow too, any way to counter it? :lol:
 
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