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http://hushmagazine.ca/sex/im-a-happy-hooker-my-entrance-into-the-sex-industry/#.U21iBPldVqW

You know she makes some good points here. Not just about the economics of it all, but also the empowering 2014-era feminism that pervades her argument that is impressive.

I fully support this woman.

Even if the title of this article is only skimmed, it’ll surely evoke strong feelings. Prostitution is a profession that people have strong and vocal opinions for.

“Three common reasons women fall into this industry are daddy issues, drug addiction and student loans.” — Sylvery Gray, “Escorting is Fucking Stupid”

You’re probably wondering how anyone thinks sex work is a good idea. Assumptions that my past is sordidly wrought with negligence, abuse, and being tricked into my current sob story usually cross people’s minds when I break the news that I’m a sex worker, a high-class escort and a genuine GFE courtesan. That being said, I’ve shared my profession with a few others and have received supportive reactions — in a breaking-societal-norms kind of way.

When writing this, I wanted to discuss my upbringing and minor letdowns I have experienced in my past, and then I thought, “Fuck that.” Those things don’t define me in my present life.

I have never been abused. I am not a drug or alcohol addict, but I do drink wine twice a week and admit to partaking in MDMA at non-work related orgies once a month. My parents are divorced, as many people’s are. My childhood wasn’t perfect, but it was light-years away from being miserable. I was loved. There are other unfair and unavoidable situations that caused me to grow up quickly — aspects of my life that might pigeonhole me as a sex worker.

I suffer from bouts of depression. I have a somewhat absentee father. I lost my virginity at a young age, I was promiscuous in high school, and a self-proclaimed slut by the time I was 25. Yet I don’t attribute any of these factors to my current profession. Sex has always been a fascination of mine, not something I was doing to fill a void. When I realized that the hot guys I was lusting after wanted me back, it was exhilarating. Why wouldn’t I fuck them? Isn’t sex supposed to be fun? As for my mental health, sex work allowed me to dig myself out of the hopelessness of poverty induced depression. It was a relief.

I think the biggest factor that led me to this profession was simply being born female on a planet that grooms girls from a young age to believe they are only worthy if they are coveted by men. Regardless of the yearned for explanations that come with a woman’s choice to be a sex worker, I don’t buy it. The shitty things that happened to me didn’t drive me to some melancholy existence. They made me the strong-willed, autonomous, empathetic, and caring person I am.

Moments before entertaining the idea of becoming a professional tart, I was feeling powerless and depressed about my financial situation. I had opted out of university because I knew my program wasn’t the right choice, but I still had giant student loan debt. I had a job and student loan residual, but every month, had to call my parents to borrow money for rent or food. Money I couldn’t pay back, because I could never catch up. Welfare was never an option for me, but escorting was never not an option.

Even from an early age, I identified with left-wing ideology, freedom of choice, and feminism. If two parties were consenting and no one was getting hurt, what exactly was the issue? I’m also a total perv who likes sex. The same night I was wallowing in self-pity for my hand-to-mouth existence, I found myself cruising the casual encounters section of Craigslist. I had been single for months and I was building the courage to follow through with meeting someone or a couple. But instead, I found an ad titled, “$tudents wanted”.

I messaged instantly, asking what he was looking for. He replied, I named my price, and 20 minutes later, he was walking out the door of my tiny apartment, and I was able to pay the rest of my rent. It was easy for me. No other job had made me feel financially secure. Thus began my career in the sex trade.

It’s ironic that I found myself as a working girl. When I was an adolescent, I was against using looks or sex appeal to get ahead in life. Enter the world of food service, where you’re encouraged to flirt and look nice. Essentially, I gleaned my craft at customer service, but the treatment from ungrateful customers made my skin crawl. My mental health was done after so much shit and abuse at minimum wage after 15 years in food service.

Escorting really is just like any other job. Now, I work for myself, I’m treated like a goddess, I make more money than I ever have and I work less. But it’s the same fake smile, same sneaky countdown until I’m off, same annoying necessity that gets in the way of plans. Here, critics might exclaim, “it’s not like other work!” Well, obviously, not in the physical sense. Every job in a different field is physically different. I’m not suggesting that sex is comparable to bringing people food. That’s ludicrous.

I understand that some people view sex as a sacred act or experience you share only with a select few. If the idea of sex work freaks you the fuck out, maybe take a pass. Common sense, people. Don’t get me wrong, I would always prefer to be lying on the couch in my PJs, eating cereal and watching cable. I would rather be doing that than work of any kind. I used to contemplate crashing my car on my way to work with hopes of breaking my legs so I’d be incapacitated, unable to work. I don’t get that feeling anymore.

After a year and a half in the business, I’m confident and empowered. Now I can afford rent, food, hobbies, a once-a-year vacation, and peace of mind. I don’t live an affluent lifestyle, despite the other assumption that escorts live like characters in “Scarface.” I know my choice seems crazy to people, but scraping by and living in uncertain misery was crazy for me.

A “normal” existence, the American dream — the kind with marriage, a mortgage, and a Facebook profile photo of my toddler would make me bananas. If sex work is the problem that Canadians are being led to believe, shouldn’t the fact be addressed that most female-oriented, entry-level jobs have wages below the poverty level? This assumptive cycle of compartmentalizing those in the sex trade is as broken, tired and ignorant as gay bashing. It’s time to accept that women like me exist, and we’re finally, gratefully, able to win at life. I’m a happy hooker.
 

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Even from an early age, I identified with left-wing ideology, freedom of choice, and feminism. If two parties were consenting and no one was getting hurt, what exactly was the issue?
I'm not sure she understands what those terms mean. It is a slightly self-contradictory position, it seems to me.
 

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Can tell u from my own history that this business is absolutely disgraceful and destroys women every time , sooner or later , and if they are fucked in their head they trie to fuck u with some bad lies at the police.... No need to respect this women at all

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Was about to ask if you wrote that yourself JG, but only 4 uses of the word 'fuck' told me otherwise..
 

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"I suffer from bouts of depression. I have a somewhat absentee father = I lost my virginity at a young age, I was promiscuous in high school, and a self-proclaimed slut by the time I was 25."

She sounds troubled. It's an interesting subject from a sociological angle. Some argue that a dysfunctional family life/past abuse is the root cause of most women entering the sex industry. Would like to look at some serious studies. I'm sure there are some who enter it casually but I'd bet that most have been damaged in some way.

BTW Groove looks like a porn star :lol:
 

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JG just posting the first article about empowered prostitutes he could find.
 

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he's trying to ease his conscience :rolls:
 

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Must be extremely dumb not to find any job to pay your rent except being a hooker... Even After one and half years of hookering she doesn't have money to open a shop, work as a secretary,etc .. No she has to **** strangers every week for 20 years to be able to pay her rent!!!
 

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She sounds troubled. It's an interesting subject from a sociological angle. Some argue that a dysfunctional family life/past abuse is the root cause of most women entering the sex industry. Would like to look at some serious studies. I'm sure there are some who enter it casually but I'd bet that most have been damaged in some way.
I think that's mostly a stereotype. A woman has to be level headed and mentally well balanced to enter this as a career. The dysfunctional women with daddy issues, I think, are the ones having unprotected sex with strangers and giving birth to welfare babies.

If you really are interested in this subject, here I link you to a very educated blogger, who is a former sex worker due to financial issues such as debts, and not because of any kind of abuse or mental issues:

https://maggiemcneill.wordpress.com/about/


Also, here's one of my favorite articles of hers, though she has many informative/thought provoking blogs.


https://maggiemcneill.wordpress.com/2010/10/17/no-other-option/
 

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Must be extremely dumb not to find any job to pay your rent except being a hooker... Even After one and half years of hookering she doesn't have money to open a shop, work as a secretary,etc .. No she has to **** strangers every week for 20 years to be able to pay her rent!!!
Be honest, have you ever banged for material compensation?
 

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I'm not sure she understand what those terms mean. It is a slightly self-contradictory position, it seems to me.
Krep lad, no offense meant, but it's you who doesn't understand, as it is. Absolutely nothing contradictory there. Unless you think feminism is what our dear goat=fed says, of course... :p You won't find many feminists who lean to the "right" anywhere, and freedom of choice is a pretty big tenet for feminism. So... it's pretty logical all in all.

And kudos to the girl. I would never do this, but as long nothing bad happens to her and she can sustain her -pretty decent, btw- lifestyle, then well done. I haven't gone on holiday for... nine years maybe I should think about this :haha:
 

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Krep lad, no offense meant, but it's you who doesn't understand, as it is. Absolutely nothing contradictory there. Unless you think feminism is what our dear goat=fed says, of course... :p You won't find many feminists who lean to the "right" anywhere, and freedom of choice is a pretty big tenet for feminism. So... it's pretty logical all in all.
I prefer to keep my debates non-personal, but as you wish.

Left-wing ideologies are very loathe to accept statements of the "if both parties consent, then it's a free exchange" sort.

Anyone who has read any left-wing theorists in depth (Marx, Foucault, MacKinnon, the latter being a prominent feminist writer, etc.) knows that a central tenet of their ideas is that freedom of contract and freedom of exchange are often an illusion as there are other mechanisms of coercion at play in society. It's exactly those mechanisms that force people to make choices which appear to be on their surface free, but are often actually coerced by economic or social factors. That's why I say it appears contradictory to claim that an ideology which freely accepts "freedom of choice" at face value is truly left-wing.
 

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has nothing to do with politics or society norms or feminism etc..

she described herself and in her own words she is easy, she has been described as a slut and she wants money.. it might be the perfect "job" for her, but it doesn't change the digusting reality of hookering.. and i insist she is dumb she could be saving money to use it for securing a real job, instead she keeps working this disgusting thing that brings infection and self destruction.. she even thinks men treat her as a goddess.. she cant dance she cant write she cant sell she cant clean she cant baby sitting she cant teach she cant be a model she cant cook etc..

how is sleeping with different countless unkown people for money a job? i can understand young teens forced by pimps or addicted or transient extreme poverty, but how can an educated woman accepts working as a hooker?
 

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I prefer to keep my debates non-personal, but as you wish.

Left-wing ideologies are very loathe to accept statements of the "if both parties consent, then it's a free exchange" sort.

Anyone who has read any left-wing theorists in depth (Marx, Foucault, MacKinnon, the latter being a prominent feminist writer, etc.) knows that a central tenet of their ideas is that freedom of contract and freedom of exchange are often an illusion as there are other mechanisms of coercion at play in society. It's exactly those mechanisms that force people to make choices which appear to be on their surface free, but are often actually coerced by economic or social factors. That's why I say it appears contradictory to claim that an ideology which freely accepts "freedom of choice" at face value is truly left-wing.
please, don't take it personally. You were being patronizing, and I meant it half-tongue in cheek, half calling you out. But I didn't mean to offend you.

First, "left" is not only Marxism. This is pretty important. I don't like these labels, left/right, seem so old, and a bit useless by now. I don't know your views on this, but surely you accept that "left" implies many different ways of seeing politics, not just Marxism.

Implying that MacKinnon and her ilk (Dworkin, any radfem author) are representative authors on feminism... massive massive, massive LOL. Many views they hold (their anti-pornography work, their views on intercourse, flagrant transphobia, long etc) are definitely not popular for most of us. There's a reason they're called radical after all haha.

You should realize than, there's many kinds of Marxism (if there's something they love, it's fighting among themselves ;) haha). I feel you're just throwing everything-Marxist related in the same bag when they're just not the same thing. Many very important marxists have identified feminism as a big part of their activism, so, yeah. Luxembourg, Beauvoir, knew their Marxism a little bit. They aren't incompatible at all. Hell, the basis for Marxist-Feminism is in one of the big dudes himself, Friedrich fucking Engels! (it's in the Origin of the Family). Now, you can disagree with their positions, but if you say that holding both is contradictory, well, they have a good lot of theoretical work behind, to support their positions, so it's certainly not so easy as your first post "I'm not sure she understands what those terms mean" meant. They're a little bit complex, don't you think?
 

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Implying that MacKinnon and her ilk (Dworkin, any radfem author) are representative authors on feminism... massive massive, massive LOL. Many views they hold (their anti-pornography work, their views on intercourse, flagrant transphobia, long etc) are definitely not popular for most of us. There's a reason they're called radical after all haha.
All I am hearing is a lot of name dropping and not very much argument. I don't know who this all-powerful "us" are, but if you're going to appeal to authority, at least try to name it first.

Luxembourg, Beauvoir, knew their Marxism a little bit. They aren't incompatible at all.
I never said Marxism and feminism are incompatible. I said left-wind ideologies and feminism on one hand and accepting statements of the sort "If both parties are consenting and nobody gets hurt then it's fine" do not go easily together. Any strand of feminism which embraces female prostitution for the sake of escaping poverty (which is the author's situation) with open arms is a very strange beast indeed.
 

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has nothing to do with politics or society norms or feminism etc..

she described herself and in her own words she is easy, she has been described as a slut and she wants money.. it might be the perfect "job" for her, but it doesn't change the digusting reality of hookering.. and i insist she is dumb she could be saving money to use it for securing a real job, instead she keeps working this disgusting thing that brings infection and self destruction.. she even thinks men treat her as a goddess.. she cant dance she cant write she cant sell she cant clean she cant baby sitting she cant teach she cant be a model she cant cook etc..

how is sleeping with different countless unkown people for money a job? i can understand young teens forced by pimps or addicted or transient extreme poverty, but how can an educated woman accepts working as a hooker?
She said she is doing something she enjoys. Having sex. Is that not what we are taught to do? Find something we enjoy doing and find a way to make money of it, no?

She went to school, found it wasn't for her, and now she is making what appears to be a decent living, and appears to be happy.

Shouldn't we be happy for her?
 

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All I am hearing is a lot of name dropping and not very much argument. I don't know who this all-powerful "us" are, but if you're going to appeal to authority, at least try to name it first.



I never said Marxism and feminism are incompatible. I said left-wind ideologies and feminism on one hand and accepting statements of the sort "If both parties are consenting and nobody gets hurt then it's fine" do not go easily together. Any strand of feminism which embraces female prostitution for the sake of escaping poverty (which is the author's situation) with open arms is a very strange beast indeed.
It's a strange beast for you, but you appear only to know about radfems and pretty restricted views of marxists :confused: I'm not going to write a thesis (heh) just for you, darling, when the entire internet is at your disposal. "Us" as in, every feminist that doesn't have the "radical" part in, which is, quite simply, most feminists. there are a -lot- of feminist blogs that can do for showing you, feel free to do some google.
I'll play it short. See what I boldened? well, no to that, and why? Because you're over-simplifying lefty views! ... which, is what I said before. It's just much, much more than what you said before. But if you're going to stick with "left is what I say, and nothing more", then yes, it's pretty contradictory.
 
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