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I was just wondering how you all feel about certain age gaps. My friend, who is my age, has recently told me he is dating an 18 year old girl :eek: Personally I think this is creepy as hell and it's making me question our friendship. Am I being too harsh or am I right?
 

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I was just wondering how you all feel about certain age gaps. My friend, who is my age, has recently told me he is dating an 18 year old girl :eek: Personally I think this is creepy as hell and it's making me question our friendship. Am I being too harsh or am I right?
Depends on how old your friend is. I personally go for (n/2)+7 where n=your age.
 

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My friend is 39 like me.
 

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The acceptable age gap is the one where both the parties are of legal age, all the rest is moralistic, arbitrary, puritanism.

To OP if you question your friends choices considering he isn't doing anything illegal i'd suggest to break the friendship since i'd surely wouldn't like a friend who'd judge and find me creepy for no apparent reason except some beliefs he may hold, sure you can't approve of his choices but i'm sure he wouldn't approve of some of yours too right?

All in all friendships aren't perfect and we can't all have the same point of view on different subjects, in that case dating.
 

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If I was 18, I would NEVER date a 39 years old woman.
18 years old is still immature with almost 0 life experience, compared to a 38 years old.

Anyway, if she really likes him, who cares about the age.
 

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The acceptable age gap is the one where both the parties are of legal age, all the rest is moralistic, arbitrary, puritanism.

To OP if you question your friends choices considering he isn't doing anything illegal i'd suggest to break the friendship since i'd surely wouldn't like a friend who'd judge and find me creepy for no apparent reason except some beliefs he may hold, sure you can't approve of his choices but i'm sure he wouldn't approve of some of yours too right?

All in all friendships aren't perfect and we can't all have the same point of view on different subjects, in that case dating.
So the law isn't arbitrary? Or even influenced by morality?
 

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I was just wondering how you all feel about certain age gaps. My friend, who is my age, has recently told me he is dating an 18 year old girl :eek: Personally I think this is creepy as hell and it's making me question our friendship. Am I being too harsh or am I right?
it is creepy. also considering your forum image, i'd rather expected you to high five him or smth lol :D

But yeah, that's BS normally, it looks kinda desperate and irresponsible.

we all fantasize about these ladies, but for a one time stand, not for actual GFs :rolleyes: (i know it's hypocritical, but let's be real)
 

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So the law isn't arbitrary? Or even influenced by morality?
Yes it is but morals is something entirely subjective, not every one can share the same values, the common denominator in which citizens should abide is law, nothing else, in OP case that is definitely the case so i don't see any problem with it myself and even if i didn't approve(And i do of most things which are legal)i would accept his choice cause since he's my friend i'd want the best of him.
 

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It's tough for me because we have been good friends for years. I don't want to lose that but I do find it bizarre. I would never date a girl so young. I know she is legal but still...
 

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It's tough for me because we have been good friends for years. I don't want to lose that but I do find it bizarre. I would never date a girl so young. I know she is legal but still...
I see what you mean, but that's his problem for now. My utterly uninformed guess is that it will not last, and you shouldn't do or say anything you'll regret until you see something that unambiguously crosses your moral line.
 

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It's not like I think it makes him a bad person, after all she is two years over the age of consent. But I do find it a bit odd. 18 is just so young!
 

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OP how does the girl's in question age affect you in any way exactly, is it the fact that a 20 year age gap isn't common so it deviates from what we mostly see on the streets where most couples have less of an age difference?

Why do you assume that if you wouldn't date one it means the same would be for others?

Maybe instead of age you should focus if this girl is a good person, trustful and cares about your friends feelings instead of the date of her birth.
 

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Maybe instead of age you should focus if this girl is a good person, trustful and cares about your friends feelings instead of the date of her birth.
The girl shouldn't be in focus at all, she probably barely knows what she's doing. Otoh, a 40 yr old bloke knows fully well what he's doing, and that's the creepy part here.
 

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hmm, I don't know about you all, but I certainly knew what I was doing as I approached 18.
I was working, paying rent for a flat. At 18, I would be subject to military draft.

Age is just a number. I've seen many successful May-December relationship/marriages.
I've also seen disasters. Really depends on the people and motives involved.

Some are just looking for fun or different perspective. Some young women are more comfortable with an older man that is more established and mature than some of the clowns closer to her age.

Shouldn't be laws or public contempt really in age gaps.
Everyone should mind their own business, unless something very bad (illegal, forced, etc.) is happening.

Respectfully,
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