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Old 05-22-2014, 12:22 AM   #46
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Default Re: Are women turned off by men who are not enough socially active?

does it matter some women will be turned off or on if you're not being yourself and happy?
would you do things you don't like just to impress someone that doesn't really care?
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I tend to agree with you, but I'm one of those people who have a hard time to recognize they would really love to have a more interesting social life and specially meet more women ( I have had couple of gf on the past) but thats has been too few and far in between to fulfill my desires.
Well, from this message, it seems that you're not completely content with your current social life. In that case, I think you need to make a change or some changes in your life so that you can improve your social life. I know that it won't be easy but you have to do something about it. If you feel like you can't make the right changes by yourself, then I think you should try and get some help from other people who you know. I'm sure they would be happy to assist you.

I understand that it can be hard sometimes to change things. I'm autistic and I like doing things that are familiar to me. I can follow a routine for a long time without feeling the need to change anything. However, I realise that I need to try new things and face new challenges if I'm to develop as a person. My biggest issue with this is finding the motivation and desire to try something new. I, though, have been very fortunate in that my parents have helped me by suggesting different things that I could try out. Anyway, I hope that you can sort out your issues and have a better and more fulfilling social life in the future.
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Just wonderin how confident became synonymous with 'social'.

Some of the most social people I find are also the most insecure.
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Just wonderin how confident became synonymous with 'social'.

Some of the most social people I find are also the most insecure.
Insecure in what way?
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Insecure in what way?
Their need to be accepted is what makes them social.
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Their need to be accepted is what makes them social.
As long as you exude confidence, you may not feel that confident but it will still attract girls.
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This is an interesting topic I think. I have Asperger's Syndrome and I would consider myself to be an introvert. I'm quite shy but I believe that I'm more of a confident person now than when I was in my mid-teens and I'm currently 23. I feel uncomfortable in certain kinds of places such as certain bars and pubs. I have never been to a nightclub and I never want to. I know quite a few people and I have a fair few Facebook friends. I get on with all of them as far as I'm aware but I wouldn't consider them all to be true friends of mine. I would consider most of them to be more like acquaintances to me. I would, however, be happy to have chat with any of them and I try to make sure that I post at least a birthday message to all of my Facebook friends on their walls when their birthday comes around. I do, though, have a few proper friends who I see every now and then. At the moment, I feel content with the situation I'm in. I'm not a very outgoing person but this might have something to do with me being rather reserved as a person and my disability.

I think it's difficult to define what a poor social life is. People are different and not everyone is an extrovert who likes going to big parties every weekend. I think it's up to you what you want for yourself personally. blueclay, if you're happy yourself with your current social life, then I don't see why you should change anything. However, if you're unhappy with it, then you should try to do something about it. These are just my personal opinions and you can ignore them if you want to. As for your theory about women being turned off by men who don't appear to have a great social life, I can't really comment on that as I don't know if that is the case with most women. I'm not the most confident man when it comes to talking to girls but one of my friends is a girl, so I guess that's good.
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This is me! Great post bro.
Oh, thank you! I know that life can be challenging with Asperger's Syndrome. However, I'm fortunate in that my case is quite mild and I'm not severely autistic. I hope things are good with you, mate.
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Default Re: Are women turned off by men who are not enough socially active?

A socially active man means he probably is of a higher standing in society. Or is at least trying to get there. Women are attracted to men in high positions of society, obviously.

If you are not as socially active, well then yes it may be a turn off for some women. Other women would prefer. It all depends.
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Default Re: Are women turned off by men who are not enough socially active?

By being socially active surely that in itself increases the odds of meeting someone even without factoring in personalities/whatever Goat=Fed states as important.
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Yeah.

You're right, most of women like men with highest social skills.
I don't see anything wrong with that.

It's not that there's no women for men without social skills.
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Yeah.

You're right, most of women like men with highest social skills.
I don't see anything wrong with that.

It's not that there's no women for men without social skills.
Your last sentence us where the problem lies.

Women's preference in men is very narrow and nearly all women like the same qualities in men. The converse is not true; men have a huge variety of tastes.

So although there may be 1 in 200 women who like introverted men, the chances if meeting her for an introverted man are very low.
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Your last sentence us where the problem lies.

Women's preference in men is very narrow and nearly all women like the same qualities in men. The converse is not true; men have a huge variety of tastes.

So although there may be 1 in 200 women who like introverted men, the chances if meeting her for an introverted man are very low.
GOAT = Fed is spot on.
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This is an interesting topic I think. I have Asperger's Syndrome and I would consider myself to be an introvert. I'm quite shy but I believe that I'm more of a confident person now than when I was in my mid-teens and I'm currently 23. I feel uncomfortable in certain kinds of places such as certain bars and pubs. I have never been to a nightclub and I never want to. I know quite a few people and I have a fair few Facebook friends. I get on with all of them as far as I'm aware but I wouldn't consider them all to be true friends of mine. I would consider most of them to be more like acquaintances to me. I would, however, be happy to have chat with any of them and I try to make sure that I post at least a birthday message to all of my Facebook friends on their walls when their birthday comes around. I do, though, have a few proper friends who I see every now and then. At the moment, I feel content with the situation I'm in. I'm not a very outgoing person but this might have something to do with me being rather reserved as a person and my disability.

I think it's difficult to define what a poor social life is. People are different and not everyone is an extrovert who likes going to big parties every weekend. I think it's up to you what you want for yourself personally. blueclay, if you're happy yourself with your current social life, then I don't see why you should change anything. However, if you're unhappy with it, then you should try to do something about it. These are just my personal opinions and you can ignore them if you want to. As for your theory about women being turned off by men who don't appear to have a great social life, I can't really comment on that as I don't know if that is the case with most women. I'm not the most confident man when it comes to talking to girls but one of my friends is a girl, so I guess that's good.
I'm in a similar position to you bro
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What about socially inactive women? Are they turned off too?
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