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Old 01-06-2012, 05:27 PM   #1
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Classic wisdom says not to dip one's pen in company ink, not to fuck where you eat, and so on.

I think that it can cause issues, especially when people date and then break up and then have to go back to work again, but is that any worse than a mountain of sexual tension in the air every time I go to work? I think workplace romance is inevitable, really, if two people spend a long time with each other.

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do you have a job, john?
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2, actually.
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It ain't easy, mate.

But back on topic, any girls you fancy at your workplace, abraxas?
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I think workplace romance is inevitable, really, if two people spend a long time with each other.
This is how most couples get together at workplaces or at uni, spending a lot of time with each other. It is because trust gets built, which is the base for any relationship. But don't forget that these relationships usually are not the most healthy ones because for most people it is the only way to get into a relationship, and thus they take what they can. Picking up girls on the street gets you less trouble and makes much more fun.
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Have to agree with all you said, Bilbo.
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For me the most interesting question is why these relationships break up so often. I believe it is because most men only get to know women at their workplaces (or being drunk at parties), and therefore only have a very limited choice of women. Consequently, their chance to end up with the wrong partner is very high.

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Yes I think it is inevitable for the most part. You are with these people the majority of the week, it is only natural that one starts to know others better, and soon afterwards they start getting to know each other more personally and it goes on from there. At the same time, it certainly doesn't help that people try to make such a connection with two employees when they feel employee x is giving employee y more than normal for perhaps what they is some "favor."

Obviously either way, a relationship or not can cause tension and it can be very awkward for those who end a relationship, which is why many companies require notification so that the two can be placed in separate departments. However, I think companies should be less naive about this, as it happens all the time even with people who are married, and put policies in place that would make it easier to allow relationships while not interfering with work rather than trying so hard to prevent and discourage. At my previous job as a Windows Server Admin at Motorola, the organization I worked for actually tries to hire couples to work for them, especially if they are married. That way I guess the two will be satisfied emotionally since they always get to see each other for lunch and whatever. I remember a husband and wife that actually worked in the same department for like 20 years and I guess it worked out for them very well and they were both considered great employees of the company.
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What HKz says.

A workplace romance is a very common thing (actually, in my country it's the #1 place where couples meet each other! ), and it can work out very well indeed. You already have quite something in common which is very important in one's life (if it's a serious job I mean), you work together, you go to the same social meetings, etc. From my time working as a PhD student in a university lab, I remember AT LEAST two couples 'meeting' one another while staring down at their respective test tubes, agar plates, & DNA blots - both of them couples now married-with-children for over 20 years.

Perhaps it makes a difference if you're just out for the 'pussy hunt' in stead of looking for a steady relationship, I dunno.
But these folks didn't know it was as serious as it would turn out to be either, when they first became drunk together at a promotion party...
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For me the most interesting question is why these relationships break up so often. I believe it is because most men only get to know women at their workplaces (or being drunk at parties), and therefore only have a very limited choice of women. Consequently, their chance to end up with the wrong partner is very high.

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The couple gets sick of each other. That should be the main reason. You see a person 24/7. It's only normal that the relationship starts degrading.
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I think that it can cause issues, especially when people date and then break up and then have to go back to work again, but is that any worse than a mountain of sexual tension in the air every time I go to work? I think workplace romance is inevitable, really, if two people spend a long time with each other.

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The couple gets sick of each other. That should be the main reason. You see a person 24/7. It's only normal that the relationship starts degrading.
True, but not always you see each other so often even when you work at the same place. How Sunset of Age described it can also work, but it's the worst case solution imo. However, I still believe it is just the extension of something bigger what I explained before.

By the way, about all workplace romances that I know, all have failed.
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By the way, about all workplace romances that I know, all have failed.
That's sad. But have you compared that to the number of drunk-pub-romances that have also failed?

I think the BIG difference is decided by whether you're out for just a nice one-night-stand, or for something longlasting & serious.
BTW, lest-we-forget, some 30-50% of ALL relationships fail in the long run (at least in the Western world), wherever the couple happened to meet in the beginning.
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