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Old 06-19-2014, 06:13 PM   #1
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I was just wondering how you all feel about certain age gaps. My friend, who is my age, has recently told me he is dating an 18 year old girl Personally I think this is creepy as hell and it's making me question our friendship. Am I being too harsh or am I right?
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Old 06-19-2014, 06:19 PM   #2
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I was just wondering how you all feel about certain age gaps. My friend, who is my age, has recently told me he is dating an 18 year old girl Personally I think this is creepy as hell and it's making me question our friendship. Am I being too harsh or am I right?
Depends on how old your friend is. I personally go for (n/2)+7 where n=your age.
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Old 06-19-2014, 07:12 PM   #4
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My friend is 39 like me.
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Old 06-19-2014, 07:15 PM   #5
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Yeah, I would find that rather creepy, given that the mindset of an 18 y.o. is much different and more prone to manipulation than that of a 39 y.o.
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The acceptable age gap is the one where both the parties are of legal age, all the rest is moralistic, arbitrary, puritanism.

To OP if you question your friends choices considering he isn't doing anything illegal i'd suggest to break the friendship since i'd surely wouldn't like a friend who'd judge and find me creepy for no apparent reason except some beliefs he may hold, sure you can't approve of his choices but i'm sure he wouldn't approve of some of yours too right?

All in all friendships aren't perfect and we can't all have the same point of view on different subjects, in that case dating.

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If I was 18, I would NEVER date a 39 years old woman.
18 years old is still immature with almost 0 life experience, compared to a 38 years old.

Anyway, if she really likes him, who cares about the age.
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Half your age + 7 usually applies
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Generally this. Only exception would be that I'd find anyone past their mid-twenties or so dating a teenager (18-19) a bit creepy.
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The acceptable age gap is the one where both the parties are of legal age, all the rest is moralistic, arbitrary, puritanism.

To OP if you question your friends choices considering he isn't doing anything illegal i'd suggest to break the friendship since i'd surely wouldn't like a friend who'd judge and find me creepy for no apparent reason except some beliefs he may hold, sure you can't approve of his choices but i'm sure he wouldn't approve of some of yours too right?

All in all friendships aren't perfect and we can't all have the same point of view on different subjects, in that case dating.
So the law isn't arbitrary? Or even influenced by morality?
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I was just wondering how you all feel about certain age gaps. My friend, who is my age, has recently told me he is dating an 18 year old girl Personally I think this is creepy as hell and it's making me question our friendship. Am I being too harsh or am I right?
it is creepy. also considering your forum image, i'd rather expected you to high five him or smth lol

But yeah, that's BS normally, it looks kinda desperate and irresponsible.

we all fantasize about these ladies, but for a one time stand, not for actual GFs (i know it's hypocritical, but let's be real)
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So the law isn't arbitrary? Or even influenced by morality?
Yes it is but morals is something entirely subjective, not every one can share the same values, the common denominator in which citizens should abide is law, nothing else, in OP case that is definitely the case so i don't see any problem with it myself and even if i didn't approve(And i do of most things which are legal)i would accept his choice cause since he's my friend i'd want the best of him.
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It's tough for me because we have been good friends for years. I don't want to lose that but I do find it bizarre. I would never date a girl so young. I know she is legal but still...
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39 and 25/26 would be fine imo. 18 is a bit crazy.
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It's tough for me because we have been good friends for years. I don't want to lose that but I do find it bizarre. I would never date a girl so young. I know she is legal but still...
I see what you mean, but that's his problem for now. My utterly uninformed guess is that it will not last, and you shouldn't do or say anything you'll regret until you see something that unambiguously crosses your moral line.
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