Originally Posted by Jessyka
Especially if it was sex, drugs and rock and roll.
Steffi always had some kind of a 'naive girl' image. Very focused on tennis, no time for anything else.
Sometimes I don't really believe that people were so shocked about Andre's revelations because he's always been the rebel, the bad boy. I'm not saying that I wasn't shocked, because I was a little bit, and I think that's funny.
First, "Open" is pretty darned good. I only wish Andre had spoken more of his sister, Rita, who I've always wondered about--but I suspect that Rita Agassi Gonzalez is even MORE private than Stefanie Graf!
I have one question about the book -- why doesn't Andre mention that December 1998 chance meeting between him and Stef in that German airport?! I always thought that (along with how he handled his renaissance in 1998) was key in her changing her mind about him as a person. They never mention it. Not in interviews,nothing. It makes me wonder...
I never saw Stef as "niave," but rather as a dark and troubled inward personality. At least before Andre(now she's blossomed and HOW!). Maybe a little bit self conscious, because even though she is self educated, I sense perhaps she had the same pain of her lack of formal education that Andre has.
But there is so much I'd like to know beyond the matches. Like, how she managed to hide her first ever romance over several years with the Jewish photographer from NYC starting when she was about 18!!! About dealing with her father's problems while she was trying to concentrate on her gamel, and how they managed to keep what must have been an "open" secret secret until the "baby mama" drama exposed it all. About how most people wrote back in the day that Stef was immature until the mid 90's when she was forced to emotionally mature when separated from Peter, and how she did it so very well. Her anger at how people saw her dad. Her relationships with her mother and brother. Mostly, her relationship with Alfans Graf (or was there one...),himself a former nationally admired athlete. So many interesting things I'd like to know about Stef.
My favorite interview ever with Stef is of her talking about her depression and her dark side in 1992. Her dark room, her fascination with the color black. I didn't really like Graf very much until I read that interview just a year ago. Reading that, I changed my entire perception of her as a woman and as a player, and it started my current fascination with her career. Before reading that one interview, I thought she and Monica were cold fish, and the death of women's tennis for me (really, Chrissie retiring was the death...until the WS came along).
Reading between the lines of what is out there, I bet Stef couldn't write the book that Andre wrote because she couldn't stand to hurt and out her family. Her dad's story alone (I WISH I could see that documentary on him aired in Germany not long ago) is filled with dark angst from being the child of a troubled marriage during and after the Nazi era. Strangely (or maybe not so), Peter Graf nearly did the SAME thing to Heidi and his own children that his father did to his own wife and son. THAT I find really interesting from a psychological point of view.
If one has read that great interview with Heidi where she opened up on how the destruction of her family nearly did her in...
Frankly, Stef's story would probably be JUST as moving as Andre's if not more so because of the angst of family having gone through the war and it's aftermath in Germany, and what I personally perceive is a girl stuck inside herself (loved the title that D assigned her). Locked in and unable to get out...that's how I see Graf for many years. I remember reading articles where the writers said there was no way to know if Stef would have a happy ending...boy, has her life evolved lovingly and positively. Her success (for me) is more about her evolution off the court than on. The same with Andre.
But in the Spiegel interview, Dre clearly says that he only shared things of Stef that she was somewhat comfortable with, and that he held what she holds dear and private, private. So, we can forget any kind of books I think.
But, I often write Pete Bodo and beg him to write Stef's autobio. She wouldn't have to be so "open" to please me, but could be "closed" and write a bio like Sampras'. IT would be enough to read about the time line and her feelings about tennis (of course, her personal life would have effected that...but she could skim as much as she liked...others have and do!). But, maybe in Stef's case it wouldn't be honest. No way she can talk about certain things without sharing the pain of disappointment of her father and her mother and her grandparents before them. No way.
I'm so proud of Andre. I've read many a tennis story and autobiography, and this one is by far one of the most revealing. Even though, I find some inconsistencies in the book.
One thing, I'm betting the farm that Brooke Shields will write "openly" one day about her point of view of that marriage (now that Andre has opened that particularly "honesty" door). There's always two sides to a marriage story.
Regardless of what Andre writes about Brooke that is negative, she has to be one HELL of a good sport to agree that Dre share his feelings about her and their marriage as "openly" as he has. It has to pain her to read some of that stuff. He also leaves out a lot of the pain Brooke felt at Mike's rejection of her (which explains why she didn't particularly like to visit Vegas too often!!!!).
Also, Brooke was RIGHT about Perry it seems. Now Andre and Perry are "divorced" with (apparently) no love lost between Stefanie and Perry! Brooke wasn't all wrong it seems.