[Punky]

Originally Posted by Garson007

I've broken so many hearts in my life because I'm incapable of falling in love or being intimate. It's just not my thing.

but do u feel Attraction? do u feel the need for Body to body contact?

[Ben.]

Originally Posted by Punky

its very hard, but you know what makes me feel better.
be a friend and help me

Yeah, I missed the chance for some sexual innuendo there, didn't I?

[Punky]

Originally Posted by hat__boy

Yeah, I missed the chance for some sexual innuendo there, didn't I?

indeed macho men

[Garson007]

Originally Posted by Punky

but do u feel Attraction? do u feel the need for Body to body contact?

I am slightly attracted, I guess. It depends. Introspection and only having myself as a reference point and all that. Do I masturbate? Yes. It's complicated I guess. At the root of it all, it's just that I'm uncomfortable with intimacy and that with multiple attempts I've never fallen in love. Sex also gets old really fast. Sex to me is okay, I guess, if it's something new; something you do every day (i.e. intimacy) - no way.

[Punky]

Originally Posted by Garson007

I am slightly attracted, I guess. It depends. Introspection and only having myself as a reference point and all that. Do I masturbate? Yes. It's complicated I guess. At the root of it all, it's just that I'm uncomfortable with intimacy and that with multiple attempts I've never fallen in love. Sex also gets old really fast. Sex to me is okay, I guess, if it's something new; something you do every day (i.e. intimacy) - no way.

thanks for sharing, its brave in my eyes.
do u think ur more Close emotional or its a physiological thing?

[Garson007]

Originally Posted by Punky

thanks for sharing, its brave in my eyes.
do u think ur more Close emotional or its a physiological thing?

Internet and all that...

I'm a pretty unemotional person and I do think that physiology is partly to blame. Again introspection is all I've got; I've never been to a psychologist or anything like that. I'm confused by many social things and likely suffer from some autism spectrum something. I don't really care.

[Litotes]

According to reports I've read, about 1% of the general population is thought to be asexual. So it's not as rare as one might think. But it's probably not something asexuals discuss often. Unlike homosexuals, they've never had problems in the society at large and there is no legislation that will help them they want to make into law, so they're more likely than not to maintain a low profile. If the asexual person was my friend I'd tell him he's not as unusual as he probably thinks he is. As your friend is the other part of the relationship, I have no suggestion to offer. Sounds like she just have to decide if the physical intimacy is essential to the relationship or not. Must be a tough situation, though, she has my sympathy.

[Garson007]

The only thing I need out of a relationship (man, woman, whatever) is to eat and have conversation with them. Just someone to argue with; have fun with (whatever that might be).

[vucina]

Originally Posted by Punky

One of my closest friends told me last night that she and her 18 months boyfriend are breaking up b/c she cant take it anymore.
anyway after a few minutes she told me that its been more then a year that they had sex in fact only in the first Three months of the Relationship they had sex and even then it was cold and strained from his part.

He is a great guy and she sleep at his Apartment at least twice a week, they spend a lot of time together and with friends, she is very pretty, They even had a romantic trip to Prague, Spa and beach house and nothing.

He told her he think he is Asexual but he doesnt want to talk about it or open up.


what do u think?

Not to worry, Dr Vucina is here. Tell your "friend" there's a small chance he's gay, miniscule chance he's not attracted to her, and a huge chance he's addicted to masturbation/internet porn. Such people feel that real, physical contact is inferior to artificial stimulation. If it's not that, I pay you money.

Originally Posted by Garson007

I am slightly attracted, I guess. It depends. Introspection and only having myself as a reference point and all that. Do I masturbate? Yes. It's complicated I guess. At the root of it all, it's just that I'm uncomfortable with intimacy and that with multiple attempts I've never fallen in love. Sex also gets old really fast. Sex to me is okay, I guess, if it's something new; something you do every day (i.e. intimacy) - no way.

^Prime example of what I was telling you about.

[Punky]

Originally Posted by Garson007

The only thing I need out of a relationship (man, woman, whatever) is to eat and have conversation with them. Just someone to argue with; have fun with (whatever that might be).

dont u need ppl to hug u? u dont need to put ur head on someone else?
i guess its hard for me b/c im a very touching person.

the truth is that the moment she told me i told her listen he is gay, theres no such thing but now i feel sorry i told her that, maybe i Disrespect their problem.

thanks for sharing, the truth is, i still dont fully get it but i hope he will find anther girl and my friend will find another love

[Punky]

Originally Posted by vucina

Not to worry, Dr Vucina is here. Tell your "friend" there's a small chance he's gay, miniscule chance he's not attracted to her, and a huge chance he's addicted to masturbation/internet porn. Such people feel that real, physical contact is inferior to artificial stimulation. If it's not that, I pay you money.


^Prime example of what I was telling you about.

it is hard for me to answer u b/c i dont know him that much, yes we hang around, went to movies, travels, pubs atc atc but it was always with everyone, i never got to talk to him one on one so From what I saw he is not gay but i dont have a Radar or something and as much as u love a person i cant understand how she can sleep near him for so long and accept it.

the only time i would accept it is if my bf had emotional trauma or physical problems to function.

p.s u can still pay me lol

[Time Violation]

Originally Posted by Punky

dont u need ppl to hug u? u dont need to put ur head on someone else?
i guess its hard for me b/c im a very touching person.

the truth is that the moment she told me i told her listen he is gay, theres no such thing but now i feel sorry i told her that, maybe i Disrespect their problem.

Well, it's still possible that he really is gay, too bad Filo was banned, he's expert on that subject

[nick the greek]

When I think or tripwires I do.

[Punky]

Originally Posted by Taejin

Well, it's still possible that he really is gay, too bad Filo was banned, he's expert on that subject

how the song goes, 'Crazy Little Thing Called Love'

[Mark Lenders]

Originally Posted by Punky

One of my closest friends told me last night that she and her 18 months boyfriend are breaking up b/c she cant take it anymore.
anyway after a few minutes she told me that its been more then a year that they had sex in fact only in the first Three months of the Relationship they had sex and even then it was cold and strained from his part.

He is a great guy and she sleep at his Apartment at least twice a week, they spend a lot of time together and with friends, she is very pretty, They even had a romantic trip to Prague, Spa and beach house and nothing.

He told her he think he is Asexual but he doesnt want to talk about it or open up.


what do u think?

It's impossible to make any judgement from such limited information. For starters, how old is the guy (and the girl)?