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04-27-2012 12:04 AM
Topspindoctor
Re: Daddy why dont you love me?

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Originally Posted by viruzzz View Post
Really Doc? Here?
You've reached a new low.
It was a sarcastic response to a double account whose posts got deleted and account banned.
04-26-2012 09:02 PM
Ben.
Re: Daddy why dont you love me?

Don't worry Dee, that was apparantly the new account of a notorious troll who was here before you joined.
04-26-2012 08:52 PM
Naudio Spanlatine
Re: Daddy why dont you love me?

Hello everyone, and yes i heard and read the banned users' posts, i think to myself how can you not have a heart and think that what my dad did was right. Yes he is my father and i still love him, but that doesnt mean that he was right in anyway of what he did. And thanks to the others who have defended me with this banned user. I really appreciated. But anyways, thanks again for your wonderful posts and tips and suggestions and goodreps, i really do appreciate it.

And if you dont like me or have a problem with my thread than stop posting and just dont say anything at all, thank you.
04-26-2012 08:23 PM
Time Violation
Re: Daddy why dont you love me?

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Originally Posted by viruzzz View Post
Really Doc? Here?
You've reached a new low.
Some posts were deleted from the topic/user was banned, so this page has little sense now
04-26-2012 06:58 PM
viruzzz
Re: Daddy why dont you love me?

Really Doc? Here?
You've reached a new low.
04-26-2012 10:21 AM
Topspindoctor
Re: Daddy why dont you love me?

Don't dare joke about serious issues like connectivity problems. Sometimes I have problems posting here from my bedroom because my phone wifi connection drops
04-26-2012 10:05 AM
Time Violation
Re: Daddy why dont you love me?

Lol, like you know anything of this world. Some student who thinks he has everything figured out, just because he had a couple of first world problems. Did your iphone lose reception or something?
04-25-2012 11:01 AM
Time Violation
Re: Daddy why dont you love me?

I don't see mentioned anywhere that he provided, quite the contrary. And what does it mean to support someone who is into drugs? Buy him dope? Anyway, it's nice and easy to preach to someone in theory, the reality is something else.
04-24-2012 09:14 AM
Mimi
Re: Daddy why dont you love me?

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Originally Posted by BroTree123 View Post
That was tough to digest (in more ways than one) . I really don't know what to say except....sorry . I like, literally, have no words. I can relate to this.

I have a dilemma too with my parents as well in regards to "loving" their own sons and daughters . All I can say is, I have this massive rift between me and my parents. It's a shame they don't understand the real nature of parenting. They are (my dad especially) obnoxious, uncivilized, dirty and shows no respect or curtesy whatsoever. All my mum does is yell at me and keep reminding me of irrelevant shit, thinking that I'm still like 3 years old. There's never a time my parents believed in me, just berated me for everything I did....I even got abused when I was 5-6. It's incredible tough to say but I really do hate my dad with a passion. My mum, not so much, but my fury with her exists. I've tried suggesting counselling with them but they just I'm a stupid, crazy fool who thinks that's more evidence of my "stupidity" and my "uselessness". I wish they'd love me, but they can't accept it. And neither can I. That's why I am who I am today.

But I try and shrug it off, keep fighting through everyday no matter how hard it is to deal with these sick people. Sometimes I feel like they aren't even my parents...I'm probably a foster child...but I guess that's how things are. To be honest, I'm learning a good lesson in this and I'm taking positives out of it. Helps me with my patience, helps me to become kinder, more of a listener. They are models of who no one else SHOULD be. Anyways...like Rafa says "It's the moment to keep fighting".

I cherish the day when I finally find independence and start a whole new life on my own. Because sadly, I've given up on them[/.
sorry for your situation, but you are so wise with the bolded red words, keep the faith, that day will come soon

I wish i were as wise as you, i made a wrong decision for not moving far away from my dad, now i have to eat the bad fruit ......
04-24-2012 08:55 AM
Mimi
Re: Daddy why dont you love me?

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Originally Posted by Gagsquet View Post
You need to talk to a psychologist. We are not.
I think if you don't want to show some compassion, better not to post here.
04-24-2012 08:36 AM
Mimi
Re: Daddy why dont you love me?

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Originally Posted by Rafarta&Grigorior♥ View Post
I feel like the more i want my dad to realized how much i want to love him more and to appreciate him, the more i just realized that he will never be the loving dad i always wanted him to be. Ever since i was in my mom's belly my dad was on drugs, i was born impaired which was the fact that i had a speech delay. My dad was so controlling and so demanding that he thinks that what he did to my mom and to my brothers and to me this only girl and disabled child that he was right and all but the truth is, it has left this family living a lie and scarred for life. My mom told me that my dad has messed up so much in our lives. That he really didnt want to take care of you, he wasnt there for you for 2 years of your life. So thats why i was sent to my auntie Vanessa's house to live with her for 3 years because of the fact that my dad never wanted to take care of me and to love me. In elementary i kept begging him to help me with homework and begging him to take me to the park with him to play basketball, but all he wants to do is do drugs and hang out with his friends. And here i am as a disabled child dont have daddy to love me and support me the way a daddy should do. Here my mom is doing all the work and trying her best to love me and support me more while my daddy doesnt wanna do anything for anybody but himself. In middle school and high school my anger with him escalated. Hes yelling at me calling me names telling me stupid things that i should not here. He was so harsh to me at times where i was trying to tell him that im not feeling well mentally. I would wanna rebel against him. But i wasnt the type of person to do that. Im more of a person who lets the other person win instead of me defending myself. I didnt have that many friends in school, people look at me weird. Even in church i wasnt really liked there at all by people because i was too quiet and too weird. So in middle school and high school i would isolate myself from the world, i didnt wanna do anything with anybody. I was becoming more suicidal year after year, being negitive to myself and harming myself mentally and let others ruin me and letting them control me with their pity foolishness. I wanted my dad to be there for me. But even though he would hug me, i knew it was a lie, the moment he hug me i knew it was a lie, he never hug me like this when i was young. He would treat my mom with disrespect and do it in front of me and my brothers and my grandparents too. But in 2003, when i was 14, my auntie whom took care of me when i was 3-5 years old, died of cancer when i was 14. She was like a second mother to me and took care of me better than my dad. My auntie hated my dad for what he did to his family, and put them through suffer of his dirty deeds. At the time of my auntie's death i didnt think it was real, i always loved my auntie, but i never thought that she would die the way she did. I was sad very sad. I then isolated myself from my friends and family. I remember that i was told by my counselor in 2007 that i couldnt walk the stage because i didnt have enough credits to walk the stage. That was one of my dreams was to walk the stage with a cap and gown and say i achieved something in my life. I had to do so much work because of my fall back in 11th grade that put me behind in credit, i injured my ankle for stupid reasons. My dad wasnt there of course to understand what i was going through, he never asked me what happen to you in school did anybody treat you ok or just how are you feeling? It makes me so frustrated that this guy sits in the house not doing anything for us and hasnt even said sorry. But in March of 2011, we decided to leave him for good. My mom was sick and tired of his nonsense and his foolishness and his disrespectfulness towards the whole family. Today this day my mom was on the phone with my dad because he called to just talk to my mom. I was in my mom's room trying to help her out with something. Mom told me to say hi to your dad. I did say hi to him, but he replied and said "You didnt wanna say hi to me, if you did you wouldve said hi to me a long time ago". Yes i didnt say hi to him in a long time, but its hard for me to talk to him because of the pain and suffering i had to endure with this man. He and i relationship has crumbled. I wanted to say that you dont know what its like to be in my shoes, you dont know how much you hurt my family and me especially, im the only girl with a disability that you have and you never loved me the way i wanted you to love me. You never supported me in the hard times i had. You never even thought about me. My mom told me that when you called her you never asked how the whole family including me was doing. How the hell am i suppose to talk to a person if you dont ask how a person is doing? How the hell am i suppose to talk to you about my situation and the depression that i have right now and you fire back at me with a disrespectful response. I had to tell myself, "Dee maybe you should expect your father to not say hi to you in a nice way, your father doesnt love you. He said to people that his family was living a perfect life and we love each other so much. But it was all a lie and you will never be healed from the pain and lie we lived."

Daddy, why dont you love me, i dont understand, what have i ever done to you?
Oh, poor Dee, hard to believe that you were/are in this bad situation . I always thought you are a girl who lives a good life as you appear to be so lively and happy

I have a bad dad who never paid any attention to us but gambling, smoking and drinking, he is still ruining me (he just lives 5 minutes of walk from me and its not easy for me to sell the house to avoid him). I won't ask why he didn't treat me well or wanted him to love me coz its his problem and many people are just borned evil. I think differently with you as I don't need his love. All I want is for him to disappear completely from my life but sadly I am still waiting for that day. You have your mother and siblings who loved you, and we love you too, why the need of the love of this bastard?
04-23-2012 06:38 AM
Nikki♥
Re: Daddy why dont you love me?

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Originally Posted by Rafarta&Grigorior♥ View Post
Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww you guys thank you so much, i really appreciated

And yes some people say i have to put it in paragraphs, but to me thats too complicated, i didnt get a good grade in english class

But anyways, i usually didnt want to do this at all, i usually keep it within myself, but i realized that it was time for me to let it out, i dunno why i let it out on MTF, but yea i wanted to just let it out, i didnt care really what people thought i didnt want anybody to feel sorry for me because i got use to it, i really have been made front of my whole life. But there is a time where you have to realized that people will feel sorry for you, you cant just say that no one feels sorry for you because you think that people shouldnt.

I read every post in this thread and i wanna give you so many and

May God Bless All of you
Sometimes an anonymous forum is the best place to talk about what bothers you. As it was already said, MTF is not the place where to get psychological advice from but at least you get different opinions on here which can be helpful in one way or another.
The thread title is pretty much self-explanatory so those who just wanna take a piss or complain about what is being said or how it is said (without paragraphs in the first post), don't have to click on it.

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Originally Posted by Gagsquet View Post
You need to talk to a psychologist. We are not.
I'm sure that she knows herself that in some severe cases only a psychologist can help... I'm a psychologist and I can say that sometimes it also helps to talk to someone who is not personally involved in the problem.
04-23-2012 03:05 AM
Topspindoctor
Re: Daddy why dont you love me?

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Originally Posted by djokovicgonzalez View Post
i hate psychologists, imo mtf is one of the best places possible to go for variety of opinions. and more real because they dont feel mysterious aura or goals are needed to maintain business
One of your rare posts I agree with, Seeking an opinion of unpaid and anonymous public can be the best way to get a true solution. Psychologists only say what you want to hear because they get paid $150 per hour. A public opinion will always include cruel and unforgiving responses because they don't care about the emotional damage or have a paycheck to look forward to.
04-23-2012 02:59 AM
emotion
Re: Daddy why dont you love me?

i hate psychologists, imo mtf is one of the best places possible to go for variety of opinions. and more real because they dont feel mysterious aura or goals are needed to maintain business
04-22-2012 06:01 PM
Naudio Spanlatine
Re: Daddy why dont you love me?

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Originally Posted by Gagsquet View Post
You need to talk to a psychologist. We are not.
I know you guys are not, i dont expect you guys to, really i needed to let it out somewhere, so why not here
Im still looking for one, its hard because most of the doctors are very picky, and its sad because i do have issues that i need to fix but some doctors might not see this and others things that i have are an issue which is total BS, but hopefully i will find one soon.

@Betty Dont worry hun, i understand
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