Do you consider flirting cheating?

Filo V.
07-29-2011, 06:31 PM
The oral sex thread that was created a couple of days ago made me think of this to ask, I'm curious to see what others think.

If you're in a committed, exclusive relationship with a person, is is cheating to flirt with someone else, even if it's extremely casual? If a person is a natural flirt but means nothing by doing it than being friendly, is that cheating? Or do you all think that, when you're in a relationship, that person you are committed with should be the sole object of any affection?

Vote up!

Filo V.
07-29-2011, 06:34 PM
Just to clear any potential confusion:

Circumstances=Type of flirting, where it's done, who it's done with, etc.

Filo V.
07-29-2011, 06:36 PM
Personally, I love to flirt and be flirted with, and if I were in a relationship and I knew a guy I was with was flirting, I would probably ask for a 3-some if he was hot.

07-29-2011, 06:38 PM
I think your views of relationships are a bit different from most posters on here, Filo. (Judging by the "What are you looking for in a partner"-thread for example.)

OT: I don't know if I would call it cheating, but I don't flirt with another girl when I'm in a relationship. I don't consider that fair play towards my partner.
Though I also think it's a matter of intentions, so if a person is flirting without thinking about it then I wouldn't blame them.

07-29-2011, 06:39 PM
depend how strong is the "flirting"
i think no1 is happy to know his/her partner is flirting with another one :rolls:

07-29-2011, 07:04 PM
Personally, not even a little bit.
I don't see the problem. :shrug:

07-29-2011, 08:04 PM
A lot of daily flirting is just being nice, especially to a long time friend, more like telling someone compliments (sometimes purposely over the top and more looking like a joke). It's so casual and insignificant.

Other types of flirt, I wouldn't like to witness from my partner and I wouldn't perform myself.

07-30-2011, 06:46 AM
This is really highly circumstantial. Each couple should decide for themselves what the rules in their relationship are. The problem with many couples seems (for me) to be that people really don't talk about stuff like this and set up ground rules and then somebody gets hurt because different people have different conceptions of what is ok in a relationship.

As for me, I don't do it.

07-30-2011, 07:02 AM
then all men are cheaters.

07-30-2011, 08:01 AM
As long as it doesn't go anywhere I don't have a problem with it. As for 3 somes they are highly over rated.

07-30-2011, 10:52 AM
Depends on circumstances of course.

07-30-2011, 11:32 AM
Personally, not even a little bit.
I don't see the problem. :shrug:

Same here.

08-07-2011, 05:59 PM
only if you mean more than a jk/compliment

Filo V.
08-08-2011, 01:21 AM
Today I had the most awkward of flirting situations :tape: I don't want to talk about it here.

Keep voting bitches, thanks :wavey:

08-08-2011, 02:44 PM
Most of the time, no. I've been in a situation for the last 17 years with a friend's husband, who is a total massive flirt. He comes over, puts his arms around me, gets me drinks, is very very flirty, and usually his wife is right there, which makes me very uncomfortable. She knows he's a big flirt, but I think that sometimes it makes her feel bad and he IS a bit over the top about it. He is very handsome (well, at least before he grew that butt ugly handlebar mustache) and he knows it. We make fun of him all the time about how he's constantly getting hit on by men, he's got that pretty boy look.

Filo V.
08-08-2011, 03:53 PM
First they're getting hit on by men, next they're going over their house to get their cocks sucked. I'd tell your friend to watch out for her husband. He sounds slutty.

08-08-2011, 05:10 PM
Flirting isn't cheating, no

08-08-2011, 09:07 PM
First their getting hit on by men, next they're going over their house to get their cocks sucked. I'd tell your friend to watch out for her husband. He sounds slutty.

Yeah, we have discussed this. He keeps her on a short leash, makes her dress all slutty for him and all, but what does he do when he's not at home? I wonder...

*And yes, clandis, that IS what it is. I said he looks like a 70s porn star now, that or a pedophile. I think he's overcompensating for his receding hairline, which is a bad idea. You have no idea how long my Dad attempted the comb-over, which just made it look 1000x worse. Seriously, it doesn't matter guys.

08-09-2011, 01:52 AM
It's cheating. I would never tolerate my GF flirting with another man and I would go to any length to waste the fucker trying his moves on my GF. I am not a hypocrite so I would not do the same. When I am dating someone, I don't look at other girls, period.