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partygirl
03-13-2007, 04:03 AM
I just want to be clear one more time. What I am upset about is the way Renata and Carole were treated for doing what they thought was helping us all, not the fact that the thread was bumped. If you disagreed with them, fine. if you don't want to change your behavior because of what might happen, fine, but at the end of the day they were trying to help and didn't deserve the reaction they got.In the same vein i wish they had said something because (personally) i had no intention of making them uncomfortable or unhappy...i had no idea until now they even felt as such, they are special and valued.

I might think they took it a little to hard but if someone feels something i always choose to treat it as truth and respect that so, my apologies ladies:kiss::kiss:

Deboogle!.
03-13-2007, 04:06 AM
In the same vein i wish they had said something because (personally) i had no intention of making them uncomfortable or unhappy...i had no idea until now they even felt as such, they are special and valued.

I might think they took it a little to hard but if someone feels something i always choose to treat it as truth and respect that so, my apologies ladies:kiss::kiss:Yes, fair enough, and i'm sure they will see this and consider it accordingly. And no, this is not a huge deal and there's no need for us to make it into one and that wasn't my intent by responding. But I also don't feel like it could go by ignored. :)

tangerine_dream
03-13-2007, 04:07 AM
This thread was dead and gone and completely irrelevant. You bumped it. I know you meant no harm and were just being funny but to put the blame on me and say I can just change the thread title, knowing full well i was away and couldn't do that even if I wanted to
I wasn't putting any blame on you. All I was saying was that if my goof bothers you so much then move the thread.

I will say it again, if you have a problem with the way I am moderating, come to me, or talk to a supermod, but I think you will find that I actually do less than in other forums here. Moreover, not one person complained to me months ago when i closed that thread. If people were unhappy about that, you can't bring it up now and try to use it in a discussion months later.
I have no idea what you're talking about here. I didn't have an issue with your closing that other thread where the fight broke out in.

That's just unfair. And none of this excuses treating Renata and Carole like people who were trying to ruin any fun or cause any trouble. they were not acting on my behalf, they were acting on their own accord, and if you don't like something I have said or done, it doesn't make it okay to treat them so rudely. Disagree with them, fine. But they were truly offended.
Are you even talking to me? What did I say that offended Carole or Renata so much? And why couldn't they talk to me directly about it instead of running to you? :confused:

I just want to be clear one more time. What I am upset about is the way Renata and Carole were treated for doing what they thought was helping us all, not the fact that the thread was bumped. If you disagreed with them, fine. if you don't want to change your behavior because of what might happen, fine, but at the end of the day they were trying to help and didn't deserve the reaction they got.
Again, you've completely lost me. I don't recall treating Renata or Carole in a bad way and if I did or said something to offend them then they should've come to me instead of running to you because, as you say, I can't read minds.

We're all adults here.

Deboogle!.
03-13-2007, 04:10 AM
Are you even talking to me?No, apologies, just addressing everything in one post.

tangerine_dream
03-13-2007, 04:22 AM
Oh sorry, I had quoted the part you meant for partygirl. :o

Anyway, with regards to this part you directed toward me:
And none of this excuses treating Renata and Carole like people who were trying to ruin any fun or cause any trouble. they were not acting on my behalf, they were acting on their own accord, and if you don't like something I have said or done, it doesn't make it okay to treat them so rudely. Disagree with them, fine. But they were truly offended....so you'll just have to forgive me for having a hard time with the fact that two really well-liked people were treated very poorly in this thread for simply trying to help and the fact that this upsets me.
To be honest, I have absolutely NO idea what I said or did to offend them so greatly and frankly, if I did say something that bothered them so much then they should have said something directly to me about it instead of running off to you.

Deboogle!.
03-13-2007, 04:33 AM
Oh sorry, I had quoted the part you meant for partygirl. :o

Anyway, with regards to this part you directed toward me:

To be honest, I have absolutely NO idea what I said or did to offend them so greatly and frankly, if I did say something that bothered them so much then they should have said something directly to me about it instead of running off to you.I didn't mean any of it for anyone specific. Sorry!! my use of "you" was not clear enough, damn english for not having a different version for singular and plural ;) I was just trying to say a more general thing to everyone like if people aren't happy with something I'm doing, fine, but it really made me sad to hear that people maybe took it out on them. That was all. My fault for not being clear enough.

Look we all love each other, that's clear. We don't need to agree, but something I like most about this forum and something we have all worked so very hard for is that we will all always respect each other. That's just the most important thing. Group hug everyone :) :hug:

partygirl
03-13-2007, 04:38 AM
Look we all love each other, that's clear. We don't need to agree, but something I like most about this forum and something we have all worked so very hard for is that we will all always respect each other. That's just the most important thing. Group hug everyone :) :hug:
Rrrrrrrespect:yeah:

snaillyyy
03-13-2007, 04:51 AM
Well this certainly got out of hand in a hurry. First of all, my impression was this was a forum where as long as we were respectful to each other, then we could express an opinion regardless of whether everyone agreed with it.

I can't and will not speak for Renata, but I just expressed an opinion about what I felt in regards to the posts being bumped, and obviously my opnion was in the minority and I am going to leave it at that. It is over and done with. I appreciated Deb's post as a whole and not just in regards to my comments, but what I do not appreciate is being accused of "running" to her. To set the record straight I did not "run" to Deb and complain about any specific poster or post. You can rest assure if I have a problem with a person I will take it up directly with them. Hope I have not offended anyone :) and finally I am done with this issue.

Tytta!.
03-13-2007, 12:35 PM
Well this certainly got out of hand in a hurry. First of all, my impression was this was a forum where as long as we were respectful to each other, then we could express an opinion regardless of whether everyone agreed with it.

I can't and will not speak for Renata, but I just expressed an opinion about what I felt in regards to the posts being bumped, and obviously my opnion was in the minority and I am going to leave it at that. It is over and done with. I appreciated Deb's post as a whole and not just in regards to my comments, but what I do not appreciate is being accused of "running" to her. To set the record straight I did not "run" to Deb and complain about any specific poster or post. You can rest assure if I have a problem with a person I will take it up directly with them. Hope I have not offended anyone :) and finally I am done with this issue.

Couldn't have written it better myself. :yeah:

tennis lover
03-13-2007, 02:51 PM
OK, first of all, the post of mine that you quoted was a joke and I thought that was quite clear, but obviously I must have a really bad sense of humour or something! :o
So it's like, you can say whatever you want, but you can't also be the first to complain to me about the ramifications. THAT's what upset me about it. And if you don't like something I'm doing here, please talk to me about it, don't take it out on people who were just trying to help.
Secondly, if this is aimed at me then I apologise if I caused any offence. I didn't think my posts were rude, I was just trying to be diplomatic because I hate arguments but if I made the situation worse then maybe I should have just kept my big nose out of it. :shrug:

:hug: Re and Carole, I'm sorry for whatever part I had in this. I hope you both know that I like you very much and respect you and your opinions. :)