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Need Help With This Girl...

Certinfy
04-29-2012, 11:05 PM
Seeking help from the love gurus Bilbo, Johnny Groove, 2003 and everyone else. :tape:

My love life is a mess and I totally suck with asking girls out, especially in places like uni, just seems a lot more awkward with other people you know around you and what not. It's harder considering the place I see her the most is full of like 50 girls and only me and around 5 other guys.

Anyway back in like November time I noticed this girl and couldn't take my eyes off her, was just so beautiful, beautiful voice, everything about her was beautiful but I just left it like that as she was with her friends and I didn't want to embarrass myself or anything by going and saying hi.

So I'm in a room with her and 2 girls I know and I ask them what her names is and they tell me and tell me she's from the same ethnicity as me and that they think she's single and that's she's really nice and everything else, and they also tell me they'll speak to her about 'this'. I didn't disagree but I guess that was the wrong decision? I mean I doubt she even knows who I am.

So all this happened before Christmas and from then onwards I just thought of her a little but didn't even do anything as I was just too afraid as she's always with her friends. Then last week this other girl I know mentions her and if I've done anything and I was like no, then while walking out she was walking out of the library and my friends told me to pretend to bump into her. Seeing she was in a rush I didn't bother and just saw her walk by me and I guess I wasted a massive chance considering she was alone. Then yesterday she was telling me just to go be friends with her, but I'm way to shy and scared of doing that.

The thing here is I don't even know why exactly I like her but I just do and I'm really not interested in anyone else the way I am about her. Really I would like to get knowing her a shot but I can't get her alone when she's free or I would even like to forget about her, just causing me too much stress. Never really felt like this about someone I don't know and it's just fucking pathetic. Also we've both got exams in May, so I assume if I were to do anything it should be after them?

I know I'm fucking pathetic. :o

Li Ching Yuen
04-29-2012, 11:08 PM
Just put your finger in there and jiggle it.

Certinfy
04-29-2012, 11:14 PM
Just put your finger in there and jiggle it.
:facepalm: I'm not even that kind of guy, just want to get to know her, not do things like that!

Li Ching Yuen
04-29-2012, 11:22 PM
You're obviously not familiar with that meme.

Anyway, you seem a bit naive with girls and suffering of that too nice attitude. My advice: ditch both.
Girls are not as precious as you think and not as unapproachable either. Just go out there, strike up a conversation, if the nerves are too high just blab about some college stuff and just go from there. I once approached a girl with "So, can I ask you out?...if the answer is no just don't say anything so we can pretend we're still talking about algorithms"...or smth like that. And if it goes bad, just laugh it off and go on, she will too.

If there's anything I can guarantee it's that a lot of girls are not plain mean bitches that will ruin your confidence altogether. The rejection and how it affects you is a pretty internal thing actually, and think about the upside of it, you might end up with a girl that you have the butterflies for. That one is totally worth it.

You know what to do. Be a man.

Certinfy
04-29-2012, 11:25 PM
You're obviously not familiar with that meme.

Anyway, you seem a bit naive with girls and suffering of that too nice attitude. My advice: ditch both.
Girls are not as precious as you think and not as unapproachable either. Just go out there, strike up a conversation, if the nerves are too high just blab about some college stuff and just go from there. I once approached a girl with "So, can I ask you out?...if the answer is no just don't say anything so we can pretend we're still talking about algorithms"...or smth like that. And if it goes bad, just laugh it off and go on, she will too.

If there's anything I can guarantee it's that a lot of girls are not plain mean bitches that will ruin your confidence altogether. The rejection and how it affects you is a pretty internal thing actually, and think about the upside of it, you might end up with a girl that you have the butterflies for. That one is totally worth it.

You know what to do. Be a man.
I'm not. :(

Wow, both those points relate to me so damn much. :eek: Okay, will try to follow this advice tomorrow, but how can I ditch the nice attitude, it's just who I am?

Thanks so much. :D

cobalt60
04-29-2012, 11:27 PM
Jase - if you are that shy how about asking the 2 girls to bring her over to strike up a conversation? Have them introduce the two of you and see what happens.

Corey Feldman
04-29-2012, 11:31 PM
Just put your finger in there and jiggle it.:haha::haha:

Johnny Groove
04-29-2012, 11:34 PM
Li Ching Yuen explained it well, I will add to his quality advice.

Chances are, since her friends have been trying to hook you up all year, that she likes you too. You know that feeling you get when you see her? Channel it. Use it to your advantage. She feels it too.

It doesn't matter so much what you talk about, as how you say it. If you speak in an audible voice, deep, confident, but not trying too hard, slowly, and enunciate words, look into her eyes, you could be talking about the weather and she'll be turned on.

Then, take it from there. Ask about her, figure out what she's all about, and see if there is a future there. If she is cool, you wanna hang out, or if she's crazy and you need to run away :shrug:

Li Ching Yuen
04-29-2012, 11:40 PM
I'm not. :(

Wow, both those points relate to me so damn much. :eek: Okay, will try to follow this advice tomorrow, but how can I ditch the nice attitude, it's just who I am?

Thanks so much. :D

I'm a nice guy too (despite however I might seem in here).

The truth about being nice and just being shy and timid is that it's pretty big difference. A lot of younger folks just resort to be quiet and nice only because it's their only choice(again this is a personal thing), resulted either from the environment they grew up in, the way they grew up or just their character that hasn't had any experience to mature a bit. It's ok, it's very common.
And it can change voluntarily or simply life will do that for you sooner or later.

Don't think of her as the girl you're mad over, just do a bit of an imagination exercise where she "drops" down to your level, almost where your sister might be (bad example, but you get the idea), do this to get yourself out of that day dreaming state and just plant your feet on the ground and get to the reality of it, which so far is only you "sort of" asking about her to some friends and posting a thread about it on a random internet forum. Think about it, is this your best effort?

The tricks are as plain as it gets, get in contact with her, preferably in real life then maybe start off some sort of platonic relationship before you ask her out, see how she sees you, she might indicate you some signs towards liking you, doesn't have to be anything striking either. Students are students man, you're on the same level, which is a precious thing, shitloads of stuff to talk about, age-related stuff and whatever else...

This is not hard, want to imagine having to ask a girl that's 12 years older than you in a public setting? You have it easy, pal.

Deep breaths and an injection of a more active personality and you'll be fine.

clandis
04-29-2012, 11:44 PM
You just need to remember, she is just another person. You don't know her, she doesn't know you. She will probably be flattered that you want to talk to her. Take your chances.

v-money
04-29-2012, 11:58 PM
I won't lie to you and tell you that I'm good at getting girls, because I'm honestly not, but being comfortable enough around them to strike up a conversation is essential. You have to take your friends' advice and man up enough to talk to this girl. This has at least helped me to meet a lot of interesting people and make new friends, and once in a while I get lucky enough where they do want to have a deeper relationship.

I actually have never ditched the nice guy act, which is probably why my conversion ratio is so low, but I feel like putting on an act of this badass persona may be difficult to pull off in the long run. Sure, girl go for the badboys, but girls like confidence even more. There is nothing to say that a person can't be nice and confident at the same time. You just have to approach her and strike up a conversation about something simple like school. Also don't feel hesitant to throw in a compliment, because as long as you say it with confidence and in an honest manner, the girl will be flattered and it will get across the message that you find her attractive.

My other go to move lately with girls has been to ask if they happen to have similar interest to me. Besides watching tennis I also play tennis and I have talked to girls about whether they follow or play tennis. Most of the time they give you the answer of "I've played with my family on a few occasions, but I'm not very good...ets, ets" and this is the perfect opportunity to invite her to play some tennis with you. I have done this with several girls and they are usually willing and we end up having a lot of fun (although this does require that you are relatively good at tennis and can chase arrant shots and hit them back fairly close to her, preferably to the forehand). If tennis doesn't happen to be your thing you can invite her to go on an walk or out for a lunch. I recently invited a girl to go on a hike through the mountains here in upstate NY and we had a really nice time.

You just have to make some kind of move and preferably about something that you feel very comfortable with. I won't guarantee that this will get you a new girlfriend, but it has at least made me some good friends.

Certinfy
04-29-2012, 11:59 PM
Firstly thanks so much to everyone here, much appreciated. :awww: :hug: :)Jase - if you are that shy how about asking the 2 girls to bring her over to strike up a conversation? Have them introduce the two of you and see what happens.
That's a good way, but then wouldn't she feel awkward that I needed them for us 2 to meet?
Li Ching Yuen explained it well, I will add to his quality advice.

Chances are, since her friends have been trying to hook you up all year, that she likes you too. You know that feeling you get when you see her? Channel it. Use it to your advantage. She feels it too. I feel like she doesn't even know me at all though, but yes I'll try to use it to my advantage.

It doesn't matter so much what you talk about, as how you say it. If you speak in an audible voice, deep, confident, but not trying too hard, slowly, and enunciate words, look into her eyes, you could be talking about the weather and she'll be turned on.I've never been confident my whole life though, but I mean now would be a good time to start.

Then, take it from there. Ask about her, figure out what she's all about, and see if there is a future there. If she is cool, you wanna hang out, or if she's crazy and you need to run away :shrug::lol: I'm sure she's not crazy, but even just having her as a friend would make me feel better.
I'm a nice guy too (despite however I might seem in here). You seem nice. ;)

The truth about being nice and just being shy and timid is that it's pretty big difference. A lot of younger folks just resort to be quiet and nice only because it's their only choice(again this is a personal thing), resulted either from the environment they grew up in, the way they grew up or just their character that hasn't had any experience to mature a bit. It's ok, it's very common.
And it can change voluntarily or simply life will do that for you sooner or later.
Well it's weird because around certain groups of people I'll either be really nice or an asshole, just depends on who they are. But it just seems assholes are the ones who get the girls.

Don't think of her as the girl you're mad over, just do a bit of an imagination exercise where she "drops" down to your level, almost where your sister might be (bad example, but you get the idea), do this to get yourself out of that day dreaming state and just plant your feet on the ground and get to the reality of it, which so far is only you "sort of" asking about her to some friends and posting a thread about it on a random internet forum. Think about it, is this your best effort?
Will do that then, and well I'm far too scared of doing anything else. :(
The tricks are as plain as it gets, get in contact with her, preferably in real life then maybe start off some sort of platonic relationship before you ask her out, see how she sees you, she might indicate you some signs towards liking you, doesn't have to be anything striking either. Students are students man, you're on the same level, which is a precious thing, shitloads of stuff to talk about, age-related stuff and whatever else...

This is not hard, want to imagine having to ask a girl that's 12 years older than you in a public setting? You have it easy, pal.
Never really thought of it that way, guess it could be far worse, but now I will.

Deep breaths and an injection of a more active personality and you'll be fine.
Yeah I definitely need a more active personality, going to hope I have that tomorrow. :D
You just need to remember, she is just another person. You don't know her, she doesn't know you. She will probably be flattered that you want to talk to her. Take your chances.Never thought of this either, will think like that. :D

Certinfy
04-30-2012, 12:06 AM
I won't lie to you and tell you that I'm good at getting girls, because I'm honestly not, but being comfortable enough around them to strike up a conversation is essential. You have to take your friends' advice and man up enough to talk to this girl. This has at least helped me to meet a lot of interesting people and make new friends, and once in a while I get lucky enough where they do want to have a deeper relationship.

I actually have never ditched the nice guy act, which is probably why my conversion ratio is so low, but I feel like putting on an act of this badass persona may be difficult to pull off in the long run. Sure, girl go for the badboys, but girls like confidence even more. There is nothing to say that a person can't be nice and confident at the same time. You just have to approach her and strike up a conversation about something simple like school. Also don't feel hesitant to throw in a compliment, because as long as you say it with confidence and in an honest manner, the girl will be flattered and it will get across the message that you find her attractive.Thanks, I guess I'll keep away my badass side from this then, no need to even get into that then if this will work every now and then, just want to be myself. And I can definitely be confident about compliments as she really is beyond beautiful.

My other go to move lately with girls has been to ask if they happen to have similar interest to me. Besides watching tennis I also play tennis and I have talked to girls about whether they follow or play tennis. Most of the time they give you the answer of "I've played with my family on a few occasions, but I'm not very good...ets, ets" and this is the perfect opportunity to invite her to play some tennis with you. I have done this with several girls and they are usually willing and we end up having a lot of fun (although this does require that you are relatively good at tennis and can chase arrant shots and hit them back fairly close to her, preferably to the forehand). If tennis doesn't happen to be your thing you can invite her to go on an walk or out for a lunch. I recently invited a girl to go on a hike through the mountains here in upstate NY and we had a really nice time.

You just have to make some kind of move and preferably about something that you feel very comfortable with. I won't guarantee that this will get you a new girlfriend, but it has at least made me some good friends.That's actually really good! Never even though about getting tennis involved because no one I really know likes it, but definitely worth a shot it seems then. :D

Well I suppose I need good friends more right now, so many of my good friends from last year aren't really my good friends anymore, I really do just need to start fresh.

Li Ching Yuen
04-30-2012, 12:10 AM
No, I'm not saying be the asshole. Never. There's a huge difference here.

Never go there, even though it may seem like there are some guys that are assholes and still pull girls like crazy it's mostly just because of their great looks (remember that girls are after aesthetics just as much as guys are). If it seems like those guys are the only ones that are successful, you're just experiencing tunnel vision. Snap out of it. Quick.

Find the right balance and in your way into doing this don't put too much pressure on yourself. Just relax and when the nice girls come around you'll even have some funny stuff to talk about regarding asking girls out.
Be smart about it, and also be friendly enough. Other than looks, girls love confidence and a friendly boy with connections and aspirations. (more on that latter part when you grow older)

Lee
04-30-2012, 12:18 AM
That's a good way, but then wouldn't she feel awkward that I needed them for us 2 to meet?


She may actually feel more comfortable with her friends as a buffer.

arm
04-30-2012, 12:21 AM
Seeking help from the love gurus Bilbo, Johnny Groove, 2003 and everyone else. :tape:

My love life is a mess and I totally suck with asking girls out, especially in places like uni, just seems a lot more awkward with other people you know around you and what not. It's harder considering the place I see her the most is full of like 50 girls and only me and around 5 other guys.

Anyway back in like November time I noticed this girl and couldn't take my eyes off her, was just so beautiful, beautiful voice, everything about her was beautiful but I just left it like that as she was with her friends and I didn't want to embarrass myself or anything by going and saying hi.

So I'm in a room with her and 2 girls I know and I ask them what her names is and they tell me and tell me she's from the same ethnicity as me and that they think she's single and that's she's really nice and everything else, and they also tell me they'll speak to her about 'this'. I didn't disagree but I guess that was the wrong decision? I mean I doubt she even knows who I am.

So all this happened before Christmas and from then onwards I just thought of her a little but didn't even do anything as I was just too afraid as she's always with her friends. Then last week this other girl I know mentions her and if I've done anything and I was like no, then while walking out she was walking out of the library and my friends told me to pretend to bump into her. Seeing she was in a rush I didn't bother and just saw her walk by me and I guess I wasted a massive chance considering she was alone. Then yesterday she was telling me just to go be friends with her, but I'm way to shy and scared of doing that.

The thing here is I don't even know why exactly I like her but I just do and I'm really not interested in anyone else the way I am about her. Really I would like to get knowing her a shot but I can't get her alone when she's free or I would even like to forget about her, just causing me too much stress. Never really felt like this about someone I don't know and it's just fucking pathetic. Also we've both got exams in May, so I assume if I were to do anything it should be after them?

I know I'm fucking pathetic. :o

Please, you're not pathetic! May seem like you're the only shy guy out there, but you're not. :hug:

The bad-ass act mostly works if you want to hook up with a girl. You seem serious about her, so just be yourself! If you're going to eventually have something serious, it would be pretty hard to keep pretending to be someone that you really aren't.

So I suggest you either have her friends introduce you, or get the next chance you got to reach her. And be yourself! You have nothing to lose, so there isn't really any reason why you shouldn't just go for it! Good luck :hug:

Oh and do it before the exams! Because then you're all studying, focused, busy, and then summer comes and the momentum is gone. ;)

Certinfy
04-30-2012, 12:26 AM
No, I'm not saying be the asshole. Never. There's a huge difference here. Oh okay, wouldn't be being me if I did become one, so I guess that's good.

Never go there, even though it may seem like there are some guys that are assholes and still pull girls like crazy it's mostly just because of their great looks (remember that girls are after aesthetics just as much as guys are). If it seems like those guys are the only ones that are successful, you're just experiencing tunnel vision. Snap out of it. Quick.
I do need to snap out of it as that's exactly how I think. Weird thing is me and my mate are there and literally all the girls love him, but yet my guy friends tell me I'm better looking than him which just makes it weird. But then he is really confident and inbetween nice and asshole I guess.

Find the right balance and in your way into doing this don't put too much pressure on yourself. Just relax and when the nice girls come around you'll even have some funny stuff to talk about regarding asking girls out.
[quote] Okay I'll do that, don't even know why I'm getting so stressed about one girl anyway.

[quote]Be smart about it, and also be friendly enough. Other than looks, girls love confidence and a friendly boy with connections and aspirations. (more on that latter part when you grow older)
Well I can connect with her as she's the same age and from the same ethnicity and apparently we're studying a few things that are similar, so that's a good start.
She may actually feel more comfortable with her friends as a buffer.
Ah, I guess both ways are good then, guess I need to see if my friends are bothered to help me on this though.

Certinfy
04-30-2012, 12:30 AM
Please, you're not pathetic! May seem like you're the only shy guy out there, but you're not. :hug: :awww: Thanks, makes me feel a lot better.

The bad-ass act mostly works if you want to hook up with a girl. You seem serious about her, so just be yourself! If you're going to eventually have something serious, it would be pretty hard to keep pretending to be someone that you really aren't.Yeah I don't want to hook up with her, want to be with her, love her and for her to love me back, just seems no girl can accept me as I'm clearly too nice, not confident at all or something.

So I suggest you either have her friends introduce you, or get the next chance you got to reach her. And be yourself! You have nothing to lose, so there isn't really any reason why you shouldn't just go for it! Good luck :hug:Thanks :D Just don't want to get rejected, but yeah I'm not losing anything so vamos!

Oh and do it before the exams! Because then you're all studying, focused, busy, and then summer comes and the momentum is gone. ;)
That gives me 3 days of seeing her (2 days of 20 mins, 1 day of 2hrs) to do something, at least if I get somewhere within this time with her it'll be good though for after summer just to keep some momentum I suppose.

Thanks so much everybody. :hug:

shotgun
04-30-2012, 12:31 AM
You're going to have to force a situation where you two are together alone. I don't know, stalking her until you get the perfect situation may be a good option. :lol:

When this moment arrives, you just gotta take the initiative and start a conversation, no matter how painful and embarassing it may seem. It's going to be a lot more painful in the long run if you let it pass by. :shrug:

After this first step it will be easier to build a "friendship" and then eventually ask her out. Be careful not to be too nice so she ends up seeing you as a friend only.

Johnny_Bravo
04-30-2012, 12:35 AM
if you ask me then honestly going around with her girls setting you up aint the way. from what i read about your personalitty id say you already blew it there

relax dude, their just...girls.maybe drink a couple of shots before approaching, will ease down all the braining :cool:

arm
04-30-2012, 12:37 AM
:awww: Thanks, makes me feel a lot better.

Yeah I don't want to hook up with her, want to be with her, love her and for her to love me back, just seems no girl can accept me as I'm clearly too nice, not confident at all or something.

Thanks :D Just don't want to get rejected, but yeah I'm not losing anything so vamos!


That gives me 3 days of seeing her (2 days of 20 mins, 1 day of 2hrs) to do something, at least if I get somewhere within this time with her it'll be good though for after summer just to keep some momentum I suppose.

Thanks so much everybody. :hug:

It doesn't have to be before the exams, just don't wait until it's over. Might be too long! If you two study in the same library that will create dozens of chances for you to approach her! :)

cobalt60
04-30-2012, 12:55 AM
She may actually feel more comfortable with her friends as a buffer.

Exactly what I was going to say :lol: She may be shy as well Jase! And it would ultimately be less awkward.

cobalt60
04-30-2012, 12:56 AM
You're going to have to force a situation where you two are together alone. I don't know, stalking her until you get the perfect situation may be a good option. :lol:

When this moment arrives, you just gotta take the initiative and start a conversation, no matter how painful and embarassing it may seem. It's going to be a lot more painful in the long run if you let it pass by. :shrug:

After this first step it will be easier to build a "friendship" and then eventually ask her out. Be careful not to be too nice so she ends up seeing you as a friend only.

Oh you can never be too nice; just don't be too boring;) Which you Renato would never be:p

BroTree123
04-30-2012, 05:18 AM
Good luck man :)

Topspindoctor
04-30-2012, 05:33 AM
just walk up and talk to her, she's a human not a monster, ffs. Women love confidence, so just step over your imaginery boundaries and go for it. If you get rejected, who cares? There are about 3 more billion women in the world to choose from. I guarantee that eventually a girl you like will also like you. But nothing will happen if you put zero effort into it and can't even talk to her. It's like wishing to win a lottery without ever buying a ticket.

EddieNero
04-30-2012, 07:24 AM
Stop hating Federer and things will go well automatically.

GOAT = Fed
04-30-2012, 11:15 AM
Just don't be a white knight beta brah and all will be fine.

Gagsquet
04-30-2012, 12:24 PM
Difficult situation. I'm shy too and unable to ask out girls in uni. I did it once, it was fucking awkward but it worked. (But I made so much eye contact before, a normal girl would have called the police).

Second option, meet her in party --> way more easy.

Kiedis
04-30-2012, 02:36 PM
Seeking help from the love gurus Bilbo, Johnny Groove, 2003 and everyone else. :tape:

My love life is a mess and I totally suck with asking girls out, especially in places like uni, just seems a lot more awkward with other people you know around you and what not. It's harder considering the place I see her the most is full of like 50 girls and only me and around 5 other guys.

Anyway back in like November time I noticed this girl and couldn't take my eyes off her, was just so beautiful, beautiful voice, everything about her was beautiful but I just left it like that as she was with her friends and I didn't want to embarrass myself or anything by going and saying hi.

So I'm in a room with her and 2 girls I know and I ask them what her names is and they tell me and tell me she's from the same ethnicity as me and that they think she's single and that's she's really nice and everything else, and they also tell me they'll speak to her about 'this'. I didn't disagree but I guess that was the wrong decision? I mean I doubt she even knows who I am.

So all this happened before Christmas and from then onwards I just thought of her a little but didn't even do anything as I was just too afraid as she's always with her friends. Then last week this other girl I know mentions her and if I've done anything and I was like no, then while walking out she was walking out of the library and my friends told me to pretend to bump into her. Seeing she was in a rush I didn't bother and just saw her walk by me and I guess I wasted a massive chance considering she was alone. Then yesterday she was telling me just to go be friends with her, but I'm way to shy and scared of doing that.

The thing here is I don't even know why exactly I like her but I just do and I'm really not interested in anyone else the way I am about her. Really I would like to get knowing her a shot but I can't get her alone when she's free or I would even like to forget about her, just causing me too much stress. Never really felt like this about someone I don't know and it's just fucking pathetic. Also we've both got exams in May, so I assume if I were to do anything it should be after them?

I know I'm fucking pathetic. :o

You are a hugue 'pagafantas'. I don't think there is a proper English translation for that term.

Harmless
04-30-2012, 04:00 PM
I think there's something you might want to think about before you make this such a big deal in your own head - what do you really want out of this? And why do you think it's so difficult?
You might never know her thoughts, but you can work on understanding yours.
Question your own feelings/thoughts first. When you're clear about what you want with yourself, things have a tendency of falling into place and being much easier.

Also, since you have exams coming up, why don't you ask her to study together? There are few things that bring people closer together than a shared stressful experience, and exams definitely fit into that category. :p
Maybe ask her opinion about a problem that you genuinely don't understand from your studying material. If she gets it, ask her to explain it to you, if she doesn't, laugh about it together. Either way, you can ask her if she wants to study together some time.

Certinfy
04-30-2012, 05:27 PM
You're going to have to force a situation where you two are together alone. I don't know, stalking her until you get the perfect situation may be a good option. :lol:

When this moment arrives, you just gotta take the initiative and start a conversation, no matter how painful and embarassing it may seem. It's going to be a lot more painful in the long run if you let it pass by. :shrug:

After this first step it will be easier to build a "friendship" and then eventually ask her out. Be careful not to be too nice so she ends up seeing you as a friend only.Well I tried to 'stalk' her today but I couldn't even find her in the first place.

How can I not be too nice though? I mean what do I have to do to not seem too nice?

if you ask me then honestly going around with her girls setting you up aint the way. from what i read about your personalitty id say you already blew it there

relax dude, their just...girls.maybe drink a couple of shots before approaching, will ease down all the braining :cool::lol: I guess you're right, really just need something to calm me down.

It doesn't have to be before the exams, just don't wait until it's over. Might be too long! If you two study in the same library that will create dozens of chances for you to approach her! :)
I only have 2 other chances to see her again now before my exams. If I don't see her then the next time I would see her would be mid June and even then I'm questioning whether I want to go back after my exams, so maybe never even see her again. We do study in the same library but I'm only in that library for around 20 minutes on Monday and about 2 hours on Wednesday while she's there. :(
Exactly what I was going to say :lol: She may be shy as well Jase! And it would ultimately be less awkward.
Well I've heard she's quite a shy person but still I doubt she's as shy as me, but yeah I think that's the way I'll go about it next week if I see her.
Oh you can never be too nice; just don't be too boring;) Which you Renato would never be:p
I guess boring would be talking about myself? I suppose just being myself and talking about her wouldn't be boring?
Good luck man :)
Thanks mate.
just walk up and talk to her, she's a human not a monster, ffs. Women love confidence, so just step over your imaginery boundaries and go for it. If you get rejected, who cares? There are about 3 more billion women in the world to choose from. I guarantee that eventually a girl you like will also like you. But nothing will happen if you put zero effort into it and can't even talk to her. It's like wishing to win a lottery without ever buying a ticket.
I don't see her as a monster but more of a princess, so it's hard as I don't feel I'm worthy enough to even talk to her. That's a nice way of putting the situation, just the last girl I told I liked at Uni didn't like me back and people took the piss and now she doesn't even talk to me, don't want the same happening here.
Stop hating Federer and things will go well automatically.
If supporting Federer for the rest of the year got this girl to be my girlfriend, I would do it. :p
Just don't be a white knight beta brah and all will be fine.
:lol: Okay I won't... I think.
Difficult situation. I'm shy too and unable to ask out girls in uni. I did it once, it was fucking awkward but it worked. (But I made so much eye contact before, a normal girl would have called the police).

Second option, meet her in party --> way more easy.
:haha: You joker. But I guess I'll follow your ways. :)

Don't go to the same parties she goes to, and none of my/our friends seem to either.
You are a hugue 'pagafantas'. I don't think there is a proper English translation for that term.Thank you. :rolleyes:

I think there's something you might want to think about before you make this such a big deal in your own head - what do you really want out of this? And why do you think it's so difficult?
You might never know her thoughts, but you can work on understanding yours.
Question your own feelings/thoughts first. When you're clear about what you want with yourself, things have a tendency of falling into place and being much easier.

Also, since you have exams coming up, why don't you ask her to study together? There are few things that bring people closer together than a shared stressful experience, and exams definitely fit into that category. :p
Maybe ask her opinion about a problem that you genuinely don't understand from your studying material. If she gets it, ask her to explain it to you, if she doesn't, laugh about it together. Either way, you can ask her if she wants to study together some time.
Well I guess from getting to know things about her I just somehow realise she's just my perfect girl, she's beautiful, has the same background and what not but maybe it's more of just wanting to get to know her if anything, I don't even know because I've never felt so connected to someone before without knowing them.

Well the next time I'll probably see her is next week and then I would only have a few days more to study, so I guess it might be kind of weird to her leaving it so late. But yeah will definitely try asking her a problem or something and see if she can help me. :)

Thanks so much guys. :D

GOAT = Fed
04-30-2012, 06:54 PM
Difficult situation. I'm shy too and unable to ask out girls in uni. I did it once, it was fucking awkward but it worked. (But I made so much eye contact before, a normal girl would have called the police).

Second option, meet her in party --> way more easy.
Hmmm... so you're not as 'badass' in real life as you like to depict yourself on the 'netz.
http://i1106.photobucket.com/albums/h363/nickmuscletech/intredasting_RE_Toothfairy-s685x567-170917.jpg



:lol: Okay I won't... I think.

Also watch out and don't develop 'one-itis' :lol: Serious, if you can't get her not a single fu*k should be given, instead of trying to pursue her to no avail.

Good luck man and keep us updated.

Sunset of Age
04-30-2012, 07:42 PM
Jase, as said so many times before - you're not even close to being 'pathetic'. ;)

as for attracting the right ladies, well where do I start?
1) Depends on what you want.
A one-nighter? Do whatever you please. :angel:
A serious relationship? Well.. what are her interests, what are her hobbies, what kind of type of person is she? Sort that out before making any further move.

2) In contrary to popular belief, sensible ladies are NOT impressed by 'big talk', you rolling your muscles about, bragging about your fantastic job, fantastic investments or anything the like.
It's all about your personality, and whether it matches with hers - or no. Be honest, be friendly, be courtagious and understanding - without hiding your personal opinions on matters.
Oh. DO NOT EVER STALK anyone! It pisses off the ladies faster than anyone would even be possible to imagine. :tape:

Well uhm - that's how it worked with the two guys I've allowed into my personal life for something like ... 20 years. :angel:

Good luck, Jase! :wavey:

Gagsquet
04-30-2012, 08:06 PM
Hmmm... so you're not as 'badass' in real life as you like to depict yourself on the 'netz.


a "badass" . I don't depict myself like this at all. You on the other hand :angel:.

GOAT = Fed
04-30-2012, 10:03 PM
a "badass" . I don't depict myself like this at all. You on the other hand :angel:.

http://i1.kym-cdn.com/entries/icons/original/000/007/508/watch-out-we-got-a-badass-over-here-meme.png

fast_clay
04-30-2012, 11:16 PM
i think that your next step should be purchasing a couple of prostitutes for a bit of the old in-and-out...

i don't know if it will help you with your current problem, i just feel it is something you should do...

i would also hasten to add that voting with your wallet in this fashion is a vote for your local economy...

hope this helps

Thanos
05-01-2012, 10:35 AM
I think there's something you might want to think about before you make this such a big deal in your own head - what do you really want out of this? And why do you think it's so difficult?
You might never know her thoughts, but you can work on understanding yours.
Question your own feelings/thoughts first. When you're clear about what you want with yourself, things have a tendency of falling into place and being much easier.

Also, since you have exams coming up, why don't you ask her to study together? There are few things that bring people closer together than a shared stressful experience, and exams definitely fit into that category. :p
Maybe ask her opinion about a problem that you genuinely don't understand from your studying material. If she gets it, ask her to explain it to you, if she doesn't, laugh about it together. Either way, you can ask her if she wants to study together some time.

i'm studying for the human anatomy exam and i struggling to find the g spot. how about we study together to find it. a live human specimen would be appropriate for an accurate study, do you volunteer under scientific conditions?

i think that your next step should be purchasing a couple of prostitutes for a bit of the old in-and-out...

i don't know if it will help you with your current problem, i just feel it is something you should do...

i would also hasten to add that voting with your wallet in this fashion is a vote for your local economy...

hope this helps

this is sound advice for any situation.

2003
05-01-2012, 01:18 PM
The good news is you got a lot in your favour. Shes single. You have a repor with her friends. Thats about as good as its going to get.

I was in a similar situation in high school, I did end up asking the girl out, even though I knew she probably had a bf. Just so I could get into her life, crazy huh. Was mad crazy looking for chances though. Getting them alone in a school setting is almost impossible. And doing it infront of their friends just isnt going to work.

So maybe stalk to get that opportunity. Just dont get caught :) Your unlikely to get her alone in the limited chances you have left unfortunately if you dont.

The best advice I could give is 2 things.

1, it really wont seem as hard as you thought once youve done it. Youll wonder what all the fuss was about. And a huge weight will be off your shoulders. Just keep reminding yourself of that.

2. Its impossible to follow the advice of bring her down to the level where shes just a girl, we both know that. But you have to bring her down somewhat. Dont put her on a pedostool. Truth is, we both know, even if she did go out with you, relationships where the guy worships the ground the princess walks on, never work out. They dont want an asshole but they want a man - remember that.

So bring her down a little. Shes always going to be your princess - but shes a human. Remember that. Despite the sun shining out of her butt, she could also be the worlds biggest bitch deep down too, and then youd be releived you found out and didnt waste any more time.

Oh, maybe write to her if you cant talk? Seems a bit corny but if you wrote a poem or something it might capture her heart. Also the facebook factor, you could always add her and talk on there..just make it out like your not doing it just cause your too chicken to talk to her. Or you could do the FB thing after a short convo in person, its easier to get all this out online, though it would be better coming from you face to face.

Hope this helps.

All the chips are in your favour. Just make it work. Your running out of time. Youll probably chicken out a few times too, so factor that in! If you only got a couple chances left, dont piss around!

takuma
05-01-2012, 04:09 PM
Don't take too close to your heart this advice about 'bringing a girl down a little'. Many guys think that way, but if it's forced and not a genuine, natural behavior, it can turn out to be a real disaster. Sometimes (most of times) this bringing down thing is being perceived as rudeness or mischievousness. It often makes the girl think that the guy who acts like that doesn't really care (or simply that he's a sh*thead). Good luck.

Naudio Spanlatine
05-01-2012, 04:13 PM
Jason, look just try like the other user said get to know them talk to them, take it slow, dont go for the big bang theory. :hug: :hug: :hug:

Just put your finger in there and jiggle it.

:haha::haha:

Of course:rolleyes: :spit:

BroTree123
05-01-2012, 04:32 PM
Tell her you post here and show her all your threads. She will be :inlove:

That's kinda creepy.

GOAT = Fed
05-01-2012, 04:40 PM
A great pickup line (Doesn't apply here since OP is not trying to hook up):

I'd like to make you my girlfriend and cum on your face.

Works 70% of the time, 100% of the time.

asmazif
05-01-2012, 04:48 PM
you could set the library on fire, push a bookcase onto her, wait five seconds and go and save her

but yeh, good luck :yeah:

BroTree123
05-01-2012, 04:53 PM
Or just walk near her with a boner. That works well too.

2003
05-09-2012, 12:26 AM
How did you get on buddy?

Certinfy
05-09-2012, 04:00 PM
This got really weird today. :o

So I was kind of looking for this girl today but couldn't find her so didn't bother. Then went to my other friend to ask her about how she did in her exam and my other friend (don't know her very well though) was there. We just got talking and it led to us talking about education, her past, religion, tennis (hey, she said as a kid she wanted to be a ballgirl at Wimbledon :eek:), work, and whatever else. I was just being myself like everyone here told me to be and I guess by being myself I didn't really think of what I was doing next rather than just asking her questions and being friendly and somewhat confident.

Now the thing here is, I won't see either her or the other girl for about 50 days, but I don't know who I should try to go for. One of them I hardly know while the other I do now but I didn't think it at the time but after our conversation I just feel she's too good for me. :o

No idea how this even happened, but I guess it might just be better off forgetting about both since I have to concentrate on my exams and won't see either in at least 50 days.

BroTree123
05-09-2012, 04:13 PM
Don't give up now man. At least be her friend.

Certinfy
05-09-2012, 04:21 PM
Well I suppose being her friend would be nice.

What I don't get is why I want to be with either though, I'm not desperate for another girlfriend and I don't even see what benefits I'll get out of it. Too much shit playing with my mind as of late.

Johnny Groove
05-09-2012, 04:39 PM
This got really weird today. :o

So I was kind of looking for this girl today but couldn't find her so didn't bother. Then went to my other friend to ask her about how she did in her exam and my other friend (don't know her very well though) was there. We just got talking and it led to us talking about education, her past, religion, tennis (hey, she said as a kid she wanted to be a ballgirl at Wimbledon :eek:), work, and whatever else. I was just being myself like everyone here told me to be and I guess by being myself I didn't really think of what I was doing next rather than just asking her questions and being friendly and somewhat confident.

Now the thing here is, I won't see either her or the other girl for about 50 days, but I don't know who I should try to go for. One of them I hardly know while the other I do now but I didn't think it at the time but after our conversation I just feel she's too good for me. :o

No idea how this even happened, but I guess it might just be better off forgetting about both since I have to concentrate on my exams and won't see either in at least 50 days.

Eliminate the bolded mindset.

BroTree123
05-09-2012, 04:54 PM
Just keep being yourself and bring out the usual charm once in a while. Whether you get her or not is irrelevant at this point. It's just to the point where she respects (and trusts) your presence and enjoys having you around :)

Certinfy
05-09-2012, 05:56 PM
Eliminate the bolded mindset.
It's hard too. This girl went to a private secondary school here and works in Hollister (and people say you have to be really good looking to work there?) so definitely she probably has a boyfriend anyway.
Just keep being yourself and bring out the usual charm once in a while. Whether you get her or not is irrelevant at this point. It's just to the point where she respects (and trusts) your presence and enjoys having you around :)
Will just do that then. :)

Johnny Groove
05-09-2012, 07:28 PM
It's hard too. This girl went to a private secondary school here and works in Hollister (and people say you have to be really good looking to work there?) so definitely she probably has a boyfriend anyway.

Jesus Christ :facepalm:

This is the worst possible mindset you can possibly have, man. You will have ZERO chance to be with her if you have this mentality.

You have to believe that YOU are the prize, that YOU are the catch, that she is lucky to have a great guy like YOU, that YOU are seeing if she is worth being with YOU, not the other way around.

Besides, if she is pretty, chances are she scares off a lot of guys, chances are, many men think like you. As a result, she is lonely and single, just waiting for some guy with the balls to step up and talk to her.

Gagsquet
05-09-2012, 07:51 PM
Listen Groove Jase, he never lies.

BroTree123
05-10-2012, 03:33 AM
Groove is the ladies man. Listen up Jason you mug and harden the fuck up.

Mimi
05-10-2012, 03:52 AM
Jesus Christ :facepalm:

This is the worst possible mindset you can possibly have, man. You will have ZERO chance to be with her if you have this mentality.

You have to believe that YOU are the prize, that YOU are the catch, that she is lucky to have a great guy like YOU, that YOU are seeing if she is worth being with YOU, not the other way around.

Besides, if she is pretty, chances are she scares off a lot of guys, chances are, many men think like you. As a result, she is lonely and single, just waiting for some guy with the balls to step up and talk to her.

wise words from JG :yeah: listen to him Jase :hug:

tripwires
05-10-2012, 04:39 AM
It's hard too. This girl went to a private secondary school here and works in Hollister (and people say you have to be really good looking to work there?) so definitely she probably has a boyfriend anyway.


Not sure whether to laugh or cry at this, so I'll settle for :facepalm:

Come on, how would you know whether she has a boyfriend if you don't even take the step of getting to know her and finding out? Don't be so scared. At the end of the day she's just a girl. :hug:

Lee
05-11-2012, 01:06 AM
This got really weird today. :o

So I was kind of looking for this girl today but couldn't find her so didn't bother. Then went to my other friend to ask her about how she did in her exam and my other friend (don't know her very well though) was there. We just got talking and it led to us talking about education, her past, religion, tennis (hey, she said as a kid she wanted to be a ballgirl at Wimbledon :eek:), work, and whatever else. I was just being myself like everyone here told me to be and I guess by being myself I didn't really think of what I was doing next rather than just asking her questions and being friendly and somewhat confident.

Now the thing here is, I won't see either her or the other girl for about 50 days, but I don't know who I should try to go for. One of them I hardly know while the other I do now but I didn't think it at the time but after our conversation I just feel she's too good for me. :o

No idea how this even happened, but I guess it might just be better off forgetting about both since I have to concentrate on my exams and won't see either in at least 50 days.

If I am that girl, I will smack you for this :p (the bold part). She has a brain so let her do the thinking/feeling for herself.

fast_clay
05-11-2012, 01:12 AM
i can help you Certinfy... i can get to know her for you... i will even throw in a free test drive for free... i'll test drive both of them, it's no problem... no charge... this thread has been pulling on the heart strings a bit lately... that way, when i'm done i can let you know which one goes all right if you know what i mean... you dont have to do a thing, and your shy nature can remain as it is... johnny groove is starting to tell stories again, so i just wanna get this message out there before the trouble starts... i have a feeling he is gonna test a few scripts in here...

Topspindoctor
05-11-2012, 01:44 AM
Fast_clown trying to be witty and failing hard. It's gonna be hard to realize his life goal of getting accepted into clown college if he keeps this up :( :sad:

fast_clay
05-11-2012, 02:09 AM
Fast_clown trying to be witty and failing hard. It's gonna be hard to realize his life goal of getting accepted into clown college if he keeps this up :( :sad:

:rolleyes: come on mate don't be daft, it was a little nudge to get the lad to get his mojo on before someone else steps up in his place...

for sure many people would have had many similar pep talks with you... surely you of all posters could recognise that... don't let the bitterness of erectile dysfunction blind you to what is really going on...

v-money
05-11-2012, 03:28 AM
This got really weird today. :o

So I was kind of looking for this girl today but couldn't find her so didn't bother. Then went to my other friend to ask her about how she did in her exam and my other friend (don't know her very well though) was there. We just got talking and it led to us talking about education, her past, religion, tennis (hey, she said as a kid she wanted to be a ballgirl at Wimbledon :eek:), work, and whatever else. I was just being myself like everyone here told me to be and I guess by being myself I didn't really think of what I was doing next rather than just asking her questions and being friendly and somewhat confident.

Now the thing here is, I won't see either her or the other girl for about 50 days, but I don't know who I should try to go for. One of them I hardly know while the other I do now but I didn't think it at the time but after our conversation I just feel she's too good for me. :o

No idea how this even happened, but I guess it might just be better off forgetting about both since I have to concentrate on my exams and won't see either in at least 50 days.

I'm a bit confused about how this is a bad thing. You approached an attractive girl and had some good conversation with her.

The fact that it wasn't the same girl you originally wrote about doesn't really matter. It's always good to keep your options open and make many friendships.

As others have said, the mentality of "she's too good for me" has to go. There is no point in you thinking that way. Even if she happens to think that she's too good for you, who the fuck cares, just move on to the next girl. That's the nice thing about building a large network of friends and keeping your options open. You know the old saying, "if you throw enough mud at the wall, some of it will stick." You're bound to find someone if you just keep trying and get rid of that attitude.

Also, what is this thing about not being able to see them for 50 days? Are they putting you in solitary confinement?

Certinfy
05-11-2012, 07:06 PM
Jesus Christ :facepalm:

This is the worst possible mindset you can possibly have, man. You will have ZERO chance to be with her if you have this mentality.

You have to believe that YOU are the prize, that YOU are the catch, that she is lucky to have a great guy like YOU, that YOU are seeing if she is worth being with YOU, not the other way around.

Besides, if she is pretty, chances are she scares off a lot of guys, chances are, many men think like you. As a result, she is lonely and single, just waiting for some guy with the balls to step up and talk to her.Well my whole life I've just been the most negative person about anything regarding myself. :(

Wow that's some mindset, not sure I can achieve going into that but will try my best, guess it's finally time for me to be confident.

Listen Groove Jase, he never lies.:lol: :ras:

Groove is the ladies man. Listen up Jason you mug and harden the fuck up.He is, and I'll try, but being 'hard' in these regards isn't exactly me. :o

wise words from JG :yeah: listen to him Jase :hug:
I will then :)
Not sure whether to laugh or cry at this, so I'll settle for :facepalm:

Come on, how would you know whether she has a boyfriend if you don't even take the step of getting to know her and finding out? Don't be so scared. At the end of the day she's just a girl. :hug:
You're right, so yeah I will get to know her more and see what happens.

If I am that girl, I will smack you for this :p (the bold part). She has a brain so let her do the thinking/feeling for herself.:lol: But I bet she doesn't even do any thinking of me whatsoever, it's probably like as soon as the convo ended she forgot who I was again...

i can help you Certinfy... i can get to know her for you... i will even throw in a free test drive for free... i'll test drive both of them, it's no problem... no charge... this thread has been pulling on the heart strings a bit lately... that way, when i'm done i can let you know which one goes all right if you know what i mean... you dont have to do a thing, and your shy nature can remain as it is... johnny groove is starting to tell stories again, so i just wanna get this message out there before the trouble starts... i have a feeling he is gonna test a few scripts in here...
:haha:

Well you know what, you do that mate and report back to me the pros and cons of the both of them. :D
I'm a bit confused about how this is a bad thing. You approached an attractive girl and had some good conversation with her.

The fact that it wasn't the same girl you originally wrote about doesn't really matter. It's always good to keep your options open and make many friendships.

As others have said, the mentality of "she's too good for me" has to go. There is no point in you thinking that way. Even if she happens to think that she's too good for you, who the fuck cares, just move on to the next girl. That's the nice thing about building a large network of friends and keeping your options open. You know the old saying, "if you throw enough mud at the wall, some of it will stick." You're bound to find someone if you just keep trying and get rid of that attitude.

Also, what is this thing about not being able to see them for 50 days? Are they putting you in solitary confinement?
Well maybe not a bad thing but a weird thing for me at least. Never really had a good confident conversation with a girl when I've wanted to be in a relationship with her whereas with hooking up I am a lot more confident as it's also not in school which helps (that life definitely over though).

Nice saying. :yeah: Just it's not really wanting to be with someone, but more like wanting to be with one of them, I don't specifically want a girlfriend or anything, just want one of them, not even I can explain the logic behind that. :o

No :rolls: Just everyone has exams coming up these next 3 weeks and mine are at completely different times so I won't see her (wish I had at least one with her as then I could ask her if she wanted to go do something after). After that I'll probably spend the next week at RG and the 2 weeks after just at the tennis at Queens, Eastbourne and Wimbledon Qualies. Then may even call it a day and just go miss class for the remaining few weeks too and go to Wimbledon near every day. So yeah, I might not ever see her again if I choose that route. :o

Nole fan
05-15-2012, 05:23 PM
The thing is, Jesse, that you cannot fake confidence. It's something you'll only achieve in time. It's a part of becoming more mature, more experienced and more confortable around women. Don't rush it. And it doesn't matter anyway, because 99% chances are that even if you pull that girl she's not going to be the woman of your life. There will be many many more. Finding a soulmate is more important than finding a girlfriend.

Li Ching Yuen
05-15-2012, 05:29 PM
She sounds like quite the catch. Is she a redhead?

Gagsquet
05-15-2012, 05:45 PM
Add her in Facebook first. Then you could invite her easily to watch Gasquet in Eastbourne.

Nole fan
05-15-2012, 06:42 PM
Add her in Facebook first. Then you could invite her easily to watch Gasquet in Eastbourne.

That's a very good advice, as good as someone like Gagsquet can give you.
I think girls are more trustful and comfortable with a guy if they can check him out on facebook first. Even some online talking to break the ice before properly meet up is a good option. Add her on facebook and then send her a private message or in case you don't feel confident enough, you can comment on some of her posts before making your introduction. Make sure you have photos added in your profile. If you don't they'll think you're some kind of troll.
Second part of Gagsquet post, not so sure. :lol:

fast_clay
05-18-2012, 01:15 PM
yep... nothin like a good old Facestalk to get you in the mood they reckon

Certinfy
05-18-2012, 03:51 PM
The thing is, Jesse, that you cannot fake confidence. It's something you'll only achieve in time. It's a part of becoming more mature, more experienced and more confortable around women. Don't rush it. And it doesn't matter anyway, because 99% chances are that even if you pull that girl she's not going to be the woman of your life. There will be many many more. Finding a soulmate is more important than finding a girlfriend.Jason :p You're so right though, but the problem is how do I even know who is my 'soulmate' if I just give up on every one before really trying to get to know them?

She sounds like quite the catch. Is she a redhead?
No, she's Asian. One of a different religion though which makes it harder I suppose.
Add her in Facebook first. Then you could invite her easily to watch Gasquet in Eastbourne.
I don't have Facebook, I know she does though as once my friend forgot to log out on my phone and had her as a friend so I just 'looked'. :o Have her on Twitter though, but she tweets like once every few days...

Perfect idea with the tennis though! Even seeing Gasquet is a good idea, the last time I took a girl on a date (was our 2nd date I think) I took her to Murray vs Federer WTF 2010 and kept saying stuff like "this fucking pusher" "this fucking joke of a #4" "this mug has the worst forehand in the top 1000" and needless to say things didn't end up well as I was so pissed at Andy. :o
That's a very good advice, as good as someone like Gagsquet can give you.
I think girls are more trustful and comfortable with a guy if they can check him out on facebook first. Even some online talking to break the ice before properly meet up is a good option. Add her on facebook and then send her a private message or in case you don't feel confident enough, you can comment on some of her posts before making your introduction. Make sure you have photos added in your profile. If you don't they'll think you're some kind of troll.
Second part of Gagsquet post, not so sure. :lol:I guess I could somehow equivalent that to doing that on Twitter instead. Also when I saw her FB account her email and phone number were there I think, but that's just being stupid to send something to either.

yep... nothin like a good old Facestalk to get you in the mood they reckon:lol:

Johnny Groove
05-18-2012, 05:28 PM
Your self-defeating mentality is your #1 issue here, mate.

Nole fan
05-18-2012, 06:22 PM
Jason :p You're so right though, but the problem is how do I even know who is my 'soulmate' if I just give up on every one before really trying to get to know them?


:lol:

Hey jason, you're shy but it's understandable, once that connection happens it happens for some reason and it's not something you plan. You'll end up falling in love with people you were never attracted to in the first place. Happens all the time. Get to know the person first, even as a friend. Not every girl you befriend has to be your next soulmate or girlfriend, sometimes if we forget about prejudices you get to know people who you thought you could never fall in love with and then you get surprised.

As for twitter I don't think it works like facebook. FB is more personal, you can see pics, friends, etc. I recommend you to open an account and send her a friend request. She will get the hint. ;)

Certinfy
05-18-2012, 08:30 PM
Your self-defeating mentality is your #1 issue here, mate.
It is. :(
Hey jason, you're shy but it's understandable, once that connection happens it happens for some reason and it's not something you plan. You'll end up falling in love with people you were never attracted to in the first place. Happens all the time. Get to know the person first, even as a friend. Not every girl you befriend has to be your next soulmate or girlfriend, sometimes if we forget about prejudices you get to know people who you thought you could never fall in love with and then you get surprised.

As for twitter I don't think it works like facebook. FB is more personal, you can see pics, friends, etc. I recommend you to open an account and send her a friend request. She will get the hint. ;)
I'll keep that in mind, never really been in love or anything like that (I think), just been with some girls and thinking back now I don't even know why I've been in a relationship with them. :o

I'll consider that, but really that might just be too weird, especially if she tells her friends and they start taking the piss, hence the last girl I liked there told her friends and people I don't even know take the piss of her rejecting me. :o

Might just totally leave it and move on, learnt a lot of new things from this thread anyway and hopefully it'll come to good use next time. :)

Thanks all.

tripwires
05-19-2012, 06:57 AM
Perfect idea with the tennis though! Even seeing Gasquet is a good idea, the last time I took a girl on a date (was our 2nd date I think) I took her to Murray vs Federer WTF 2010 and kept saying stuff like "this fucking pusher" "this fucking joke of a #4" "this mug has the worst forehand in the top 1000" and needless to say things didn't end up well as I was so pissed at Andy. :o
:lol:

:haha: Too bad she wasn't an MTF member.

Dmitry Verdasco
05-19-2012, 10:41 AM
Didn't read the thread except for OP, but has anyone stated the obvious? If they haven't, weren't you gay?