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Are men and women compatible with each other?

Filo V.
03-01-2012, 05:34 PM
So, I'm looking through some of these threads and seeing a lot of questions about women and men and their thoughts on relationships and shit. My question is very simple. Are men and women really compatible? Because whenever questions such as these are asked, it generally ends in an argument, mostly with men talking among themselves debating what turns women on, and why they are ladies men and why other guys are not............basically being braggarts. All the while, women are perplexed and mystified. And at the end of the day, there is absolutely no common ground achieved by the two sexes, and between the individuals within the two sexes, particularly men.

I know for a fact that I am more compatible with men than I ever was with women. Because men know what men are thinking. If I want sex, I can have it. In relationships, it's the same, men know what men are thinking. Yes, there is tons of drama, but there is less pure emotion involved, it's more petty, childish banter than rage. I think this is why opposite-sex couples separate at an over 50% rate, because it's like trying to fit a round peg into a square hole. I don't think people are meant to be in relationships with each other.

Anyway, what do you all think? Vote up!

munZe konZa
03-01-2012, 06:26 PM
I don't know where you are going with this but the point of life is not getting along or having good time but only to survive and to procreate and the nature is driven only by those basic instincts. Men want to spread the seed, women want to choose the best of the best and this is why when someone gets in a sex relationship they have to give up something, men give up chasing and women stop choosing. Men are obsessed by sex while women are obsessed about the good environment as in money to provide for their baby. Men want women to stay monogamous so he doesn't raise someone else's children while women want to make sure he can provide everything for her baby and not spend it somewhere else. But only those who give up something get to spread their genes into the future and raise children with 2 parents.

Men are pursuers and providers, women are care givers and gatherers.This is why men are natural hunters and women are cooks. Men are driven, women are picky. This is why men seek sex, women seek comfort and commitment. This is why men and women are different and if it were any different or if men and women were the same and had the same tactics, there would be little drive to procreate and the life would disappear. So you can celebrate the differences or you wouldn't be here.

Another thing is sex, men can like a woman in 10 seconds or less, women take much longer like 10hours, days and even months, hence they are choosers. Also there comes a point of sexual satiation where you get disgusted by the other partner and this is nature's way of spreading genes as well. Satiation comes after certain amount of time or that goal driven hard sex. Too much sex leads to satiation and separation even if people live together. Satiation is seen in increased aging like when you see people after 5 years of marriage just getting fat, slow and with poor skin and hair. Basically there is no free lunch and the nature will play a trick on you if you try to fool it.

Filo V.
03-01-2012, 07:31 PM
Everything you've described is more about natural drives, evolution, I was thinking more along a philosophical/logical line, however with that said, saying the "point in life" is to procreate is not true. Sex is not solely for procreation and there is absolutely zero to back that statement up, which is a moral classification anyway. There are other reasons why sex is necessary. In humans, procreation is a result of sex. Most people DO NOT have sex with the intent to make a baby. Humans have a sex drive for reasons outside of the basic principle of procreation.

Seingeist
03-02-2012, 12:20 AM
There is something bizarrely and childishly solipsistic about these threads of yours.

"I am a homosexual nymphomaniac, therefore:

1. Monogamy is disgusting/invalid
2. Men and Women are not compatible with each other"

Filo V.
03-02-2012, 12:43 AM
Oops, sorry for not being the perfect picture of traditional morality, and not making "life choices" that fit with what someone with an upright character would do. I sincerely apologize.

Sunset of Age
03-02-2012, 01:24 AM
You've had 'bad' experiences with ladies, eh Filo?

I don't know what your experiences are, but you appear to have some rather biased opinions yourself. Not ALL women are fashion-driven, money-hunting empty heads, you know.
Even some ladies rather enjoy to have a friendly, steadily relationship with a rather nice guy in stead of hooking up with some kind of a self-proclaimed 'sex god'. :angel:
Rather the contrary - those are the kind of men I most usually BARF at.

It all comes down to true friendship eventually. The nice, friendly folks who understand that it's all a matter of getting along well together.
As of that, I enjoy friendships with men and women equally. Yes, that IS possible.

Not everything in this world revolves around sex. At least not in MY world - and I'm rather happy about that. :wavey:

Johnny Groove
03-02-2012, 02:20 AM
Yes, men and women are compatible with each other.

Otherwise none of us would be here :shrug:

_maxi
03-02-2012, 02:56 AM
Yes, men and women are compatible with each other.

Otherwise none of us would be here :shrug:
nope. most of us are here because our parents had sex. Which does not determine that they were compatible or that they had a true connection.

Arkulari
03-02-2012, 05:45 AM
It's not about men and women as gender but it's a case by case scenario, not every woman is compatible to every man, just like not every man is compatible with every other man out there :shrug:

You just have to find your fit, nothing is perfect and every relationship takes an effort to work but if you do it's highly rewarding because you're not so alone in the world.

In my case, I love football, sex, riding bikes so many guys have liked me for it but my husband is not so crazy about sports or motorbikes as I am, we work because we share other things and we have set up common goals.

Monogamy is shit for those who have failed at it, at the end of the day we all want to have someone to love us, no matter how much "I sleep with everything that moves" macho bullshit so many men try to show to the world.

And it's really funny to see people judging marriage when they can't even have a serious relationship for more than a month :lol:

Filo V.
03-02-2012, 01:48 PM
You've had 'bad' experiences with ladies, eh Filo?No :) I love the ladies, just not what I need in my life in terms of a mate, however. Not because women are women............but because men are men.

I don't know what your experiences are, but you appear to have some rather biased opinions yourself. Not ALL women are fashion-driven, money-hunting empty heads, you know.Oh, I definitely know this. I wasn't bashing women at all. I don't see any problem with a woman who is fashion-driven and money hunting, either. It's not a crime to shop 'til you drop and seek a man who has his life together with a secure lifestyle. Nothing I have said is meant to attack women or blame women for why relationships fail. With that being said, the reality is, that most relationships do fail and those that don't, often times, are hectic and riddled with drama, up-and-downs, and leave people questioning their relationship status. There is no coincidence when straight folk make the statement (and I hear/read this REGULARLY) "gay people should be allowed to be miserable and get married too".

Even some ladies rather enjoy to have a friendly, steadily relationship with a rather nice guy in stead of hooking up with some kind of a self-proclaimed 'sex god'. :angel:Most ladies would prefer that. That's why I prefer men. Women are more relationship driven, which runs 100% counter to what I desire.

It all comes down to true friendship eventually. The nice, friendly folks who understand that it's all a matter of getting along well together.
As of that, I enjoy friendships with men and women equally. Yes, that IS possible.I agree, that to make a relationship work, you need to be friends with that person to. You have to enjoy that individuals' company. But..............one can be friends with someone, and maintain a strong friendship with people, regardless of gender, and not jump into a relationship with them and put a title on the friendship.

Not everything in this world revolves around sex. At least not in MY world - and I'm rather happy about that. :wavey:As long as you're happy, that's great and I'm happy for you. But great sex undoubtedly makes the life of anyone who isn't asexual even better! Sex is just so beautiful, and symbolizes so many things in so many ways; engaging in intercourse with a human who you are inherently attracted to is so incredibly fulfilling.

Filo V.
03-02-2012, 01:51 PM
nope. most of us are here because our parents had sex. Which does not determine that they were compatible or that they had a true connection.

Exactly right. Sperm+egg=baby, we all know the math, but that means little when it comes to true connections and maintaining a relationship with the person who you engaged in sex with to create that life. In America, given the fact less than half of married households have a child in the residence and around half of children are NOT parented by both their mother and father, it's clear that making a baby has little to do with compatibility.

Filo V.
03-02-2012, 02:01 PM
It's not about men and women as gender but it's a case by case scenario, not every woman is compatible to every man, just like not every man is compatible with every other man out there :shrug:I agree overall............it's a chemistry thing. But is that chemistry a friendship chemistry or relationship chemistry? Is chemistry enough to maintain a long-term relationship? Is the chemistry even real? It takes more than chemistry to be and stay in a relationship.

You just have to find your fit, nothing is perfect and every relationship takes an effort to work but if you do it's highly rewarding because you're not so alone in the world.This is where I have a problem, and I don't want to offend anyone but I'm just going to be blunt, this sounds needy as hell to me. People like relationships because they "don't want to be alone". That indicates a lack of independence. Why does anyone need someone? If you feel like you need someone on your hip to complete you then you're not a complete person internally, and a relationship will not change that.

In my case, I love football, sex, riding bikes so many guys have liked me for it but my husband is not so crazy about sports or motorbikes as I am, we work because we share other things and we have set up common goals.

Monogamy is shit for those who have failed at it, at the end of the day we all want to have someone to love us, no matter how much "I sleep with everything that moves" macho bullshit so many men try to show to the world.Well, people can love sex and be very sexual, without adhering to the gender-discriminatory views of how men and how women are "supposed" to behave. A man can love sex and love to have a lot of sex, without the macho mentality that leads them to believing that it makes them more of a man by engaging in a significant number of sexual encounters.

We all do love to be loved, that's natural. But you can love someone without being in a relationship with them. If I love someone, why would I or anyone put a title on it and create ANY sort of potential pitfalls by entering a relationship with them? Like everyone says, it's work to maintain a relationship, and in my eyes, it's unnecessary work that ultimately destroys a lot of great friendships, when you can enjoy time with that individual without the stress and ups-and-downs of a relationship.

And it's really funny to see people judging marriage when they can't even have a serious relationship for more than a month :lol:Nah.............we're all entitled to our views.

Arkulari
03-02-2012, 07:49 PM
I agree overall............it's a chemistry thing. But is that chemistry a friendship chemistry or relationship chemistry? Is chemistry enough to maintain a long-term relationship? Is the chemistry even real? It takes more than chemistry to be and stay in a relationship.

This is where I have a problem, and I don't want to offend anyone but I'm just going to be blunt, this sounds needy as hell to me. People like relationships because they "don't want to be alone". That indicates a lack of independence. Why does anyone need someone? If you feel like you need someone on your hip to complete you then you're not a complete person internally, and a relationship will not change that.

Well, people can love sex and be very sexual, without adhering to the gender-discriminatory views of how men and how women are "supposed" to behave. A man can love sex and love to have a lot of sex, without the macho mentality that leads them to believing that it makes them more of a man by engaging in a significant number of sexual encounters.

We all do love to be loved, that's natural. But you can love someone without being in a relationship with them. If I love someone, why would I or anyone put a title on it and create ANY sort of potential pitfalls by entering a relationship with them? Like everyone says, it's work to maintain a relationship, and in my eyes, it's unnecessary work that ultimately destroys a lot of great friendships, when you can enjoy time with that individual without the stress and ups-and-downs of a relationship.

Nah.............we're all entitled to our views.

I don't mean just chemistry, of course it is a big part of it and the first thing you see but it's about sharing interests, having fun when you live with someone, in our case enjoying time as a family with our kids.

I know you have a completely different mindset but it doesn't make your choice or my choice less valid, it's a matter of how you feel better and not everyone who's in a relationship is super needy and wants validation, sometimes you just want to share things with someone, to have a partner, maybe you might want that in life further along the way (never say never, specially being as young as you are), if you don't then fine, it's your choice.

you can have views but it is like having some kind of food, you can't honestly say whether it is good or not if you haven't tasted it and some people I see here talk about marriage as if they were experts when they haven't even had a serious relationship in their lifes :lol:

green25814
03-02-2012, 07:55 PM
What do you mean by 'compatible'? My penis is most certainly compatible with most female's vaginas, other than that it differentiates from person to person.

Filo V.
03-02-2012, 10:12 PM
I don't mean just chemistry, of course it is a big part of it and the first thing you see but it's about sharing interests, having fun when you live with someone, in our case enjoying time as a family with our kids.

I know you have a completely different mindset but it doesn't make your choice or my choice less valid, it's a matter of how you feel better and not everyone who's in a relationship is super needy and wants validation, sometimes you just want to share things with someone, to have a partner, maybe you might want that in life further along the way (never say never, specially being as young as you are), if you don't then fine, it's your choice.I'm sorry Nat, but I just don't get it. I'm receptive to everything you're saying, but it doesn't compute in my head. I don't want you to believe I'm saying relationships are invalid, though. I mean, if that's what a person wants, or if two (or more) people are happy within their relationship, that's their business. I can't make anyone not be in a relationship. I just don't think anything that has been stated regarding the positives of being in one actually make being in one any different than just close friends with that person. But, that's my thought process and you're entitled to yours :)

you can have views but it is like having some kind of food, you can't honestly say whether it is good or not if you haven't tasted it and some people I see here talk about marriage as if they were experts when they haven't even had a serious relationship in their lifes :lol:True, but I call it intuition. Sometimes, you just have that feeling inside of yourself that tells you what you should and shouldn't do/think/feel. A lot of times it's that which is most important, rather than experience or what your mind tells you, because your mind can play tricks on you, and we all have different experiences in our lives. One individuals' experience doesn't make them an arbiter on the merits of the entire subject.

Seth82
03-03-2012, 01:33 AM
good to see you're back Filo

Sham Kay
03-03-2012, 01:55 AM
Tick

Order of compatibility IMO:

Women and Women
Men and Men
Men and Sex dolls
Women and Men

But we're logical enough these days to realise that we're considering our compatibility with the actual person rather than what that person represents, which is in this case their gender.

Tock

Filo V.
03-03-2012, 03:58 AM
good to see you're back Filo
Thank you, Seth :wavey:

Filo V.
03-03-2012, 04:01 AM
Tick

Order of compatibility IMO:

Women and Women
Men and Men
Men and Sex dolls
Women and Men

But we're logical enough these days to realise that we're considering our compatibility with the actual person rather than what that person represents, which is in this case their gender.

Tock
I agree with the bolded part, but what a person represents plays a major factor in the potential of compatibility with that individual for others, and cannot be ignored.

As for your order of compatibility...........well, can it be argued against? :angel: I mean, I would give actual humans at least some benefit of doubt and put them ahead of dolls. Then again, dolls don't talk back and are always there when you want to get off.