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Sex before marriage/children before marriage

2003
02-13-2012, 09:09 PM
What are your thoughts?

GO.

Things to consider;

On the plus side of waiting for marriage;

Whether the world functioned better when more people waited for marriage to have sex.

Whether we could have stopped STI's/Aids in its tracks if 30-40 years ago we haddnt been so promiscuious.

People who wait generally marry younger. They are at prime breeding age and dont have to worry about getting "too old" to have a child.

There would be more "family unit". Children generally turn out best with both a mother and a father, this is more likely to be the case if people marry, or religious people tend to stay together for the kids more perhaps, though many feel thats wrong.

Eliminates the "need" for contraception.

On the negative side;

Your dream honeymoon is most likely going to be a 30 second explosion if your both virgins on your wedding night.

No try before you buy.

People might marry younger and faster than they should because theyre horny and cant wait :worship:

Some people feel humans just arent hard wired to have one sexual partner their whole life.

I know there will be many that might feel sex before marriage is okay, but children should wait for marriage or vice versa. I know its two very different things, but I feel they are interlinked and a seperate thread for both would be overkill.

Vilnietė
02-13-2012, 09:18 PM
"Sex before marriage is not okay, but a child before marriage is"

:lol: :rolls: :lol: :rolls: :lol:

Certinfy
02-13-2012, 09:39 PM
Definitely wrong. I hope all of you that have had sex before marriage go and rot in hell.

(please don't ban me, it's not my fault I'm such a religious man)

Johnny Groove
02-13-2012, 09:48 PM
My only wish is for tolerance of other people's decisions whether to marry, not marry, have kids, not have kids.

What other people do in their bedroom is their business. I hate societal pressure to force people to do this or do that.

I have no problem with any of it. The only thing that matters is that people are happy.

Personally, I want to have kids, at least 1, if not 2 or 3, however many kids I can support financially. And from 1 woman, 1 wife. All this baby momma 1, 2, and 3 that some athletes get themselves involved with is so stupid and expensive. 1 woman.

Federer, Djokovic, and Nadal all have one thing in common. One long term woman.

Gagsquet
02-13-2012, 09:51 PM
"Sex before marriage is not okay, but a child before marriage is"

:worship:

Lopez
02-13-2012, 11:03 PM
I think sex before marriage is just smart, because it's an important part of any relationship and you should test it out before committing more seriously... And besides, it helps to avoid situations where people get married too quickly because they're not comfortable waiting for years to let their passion for each other show.

EliSter
02-13-2012, 11:04 PM
2003 delivers again.

Capuccino
02-13-2012, 11:06 PM
it's a sin

emotion
02-13-2012, 11:12 PM
My parents weren't married when I was born. And I'm 16 and have had sex, so... hope not a problem!

leng jai
02-13-2012, 11:13 PM
Sex is fine but cuddling before marriage is definitely not on IMO.

Ajde.

Jimnik
02-13-2012, 11:16 PM
Poll option #5 "Sex before marriage is not okay, but a child before marriage is".

In fairness this could mean adoption or artificial insemination. Nowadays, virgins can give birth. :p

EliSter
02-13-2012, 11:17 PM
U need to test few rids before marrige ffs, u dont wanna end with lamest one.

Certinfy
02-13-2012, 11:18 PM
My parents weren't married when I was born. And I'm 16 and have had sex, so... hope not a problem!
At least you and your parents will be reunited in hell one day now.

emotion
02-13-2012, 11:20 PM
Thank god i get to see daddy again! but no, i'm an atheist...

Certinfy
02-13-2012, 11:21 PM
Thank god i get to see daddy again! but no, i'm an atheist...
Doesn't matter, you're all going to that evil place wherever it may be for you.

2003
02-13-2012, 11:36 PM
Poll option #5 "Sex before marriage is not okay, but a child before marriage is".

In fairness this could mean adoption or artificial insemination. Nowadays, virgins can give birth. :p

Could also mean if the woman or man had a child from a previous relationship or marriage, and they were a solo parent (or the other parent was nowhere to be found) and you sort of took on that child as your couples own child.

Hewitt =Legend
02-14-2012, 12:05 AM
Sex is fine but cuddling before marriage is definitely not on IMO.

Ajde.

Fuck we're naughty mate..

Ajde.

tripwires
02-14-2012, 01:32 AM
"Sex before marriage is not okay, but a child before marriage is"

:haha: How does this option make sense?

arm
02-14-2012, 01:43 AM
"Sex before marriage is not okay, but a child before marriage is"

:haha: How does this option make sense?

artificial insemination. :haha:

!VamosRafa!
02-14-2012, 02:14 AM
Option 5 :spit: :rolls:

I'm for option 2 though.

I'm almost 19 and I last year had sex with the guy that I've been in a relationship for 4 years and that I truly love more than anyone :shrug:

ballbasher101
02-14-2012, 05:02 AM
I have ignored the poll :rolls:. The institution of marriage has failed and continues to fail. You can just have a long term partner without getting married. If you want to get married then that is fine also. Sex before marriage is fine as long as young people take the right protective measures. Educating young people about STIs and unplanned pregnancies is very important.
Some people are saying you will go to hell if you have sex before marriage :superlol:.

Nole Rules
02-14-2012, 11:46 AM
Definitely wrong. I hope all of you that have had sex before marriage go and rot in hell.

(please don't ban me, it's not my fault I'm such a religious man)

+1.

MariaV
02-14-2012, 11:48 AM
"Sex before marriage is not okay, but a child before marriage is"

:haha: How does this option make sense?

2003 hardly ever makes sense with his threads. :shrug: :o

gulzhan
02-14-2012, 12:34 PM
Where is another option-- sex before marriage is a MUST? And I mean it. Stupid to get married before having sex with that person. Marriage is too important and should be taken seriously.

With children it is not that clear. I personally think children should come first too. Young parents are better, way better! Old parents suck, they ruin children's self-esteem and never let children to have fun! At the same time, young people tend to make more mistakes with marriage. So, it usually works better when you have a child while you are young but get married when you are mature.

Garson007
02-14-2012, 04:35 PM
What's the definition of marriage here? Does it include common-law marriage? You'll have to be more specific before I can vote. If you mean religious ceremony, then 1, if you mean common-law marriage then it's probably a good idea to stick together after having a child, the alternative seems stupid - unless of course you want to be a single parent.

Pirata.
02-14-2012, 05:03 PM
Sex before marriage is not okay, but a child before marriage is

How does this work? In-vitro or what? :lol:

August
02-14-2012, 08:02 PM
I voted I don't care. Sex before marriage is OK for me, for some people it may be not. And when it comes to having children, I think the most important thing is a stable relationship. There may be nan-married couples who have a long-lasting relationship and children whereas many marriges end up into a divorce. And I think it's better to have an unmarried couple as parents rather than a divorced couple.

Felipe Abe
02-14-2012, 10:03 PM
I think should wait to have children. Two is easer to pay everything the child needs.

Jimnik
02-15-2012, 12:22 AM
A girl would have to be pretty asexual to get AI before having sex.

_maxi
02-15-2012, 12:47 AM
Why should people get married in the first place. Why don't we consider other alternatives?

emotion
02-15-2012, 04:51 PM
Legal benefits?

Seingeist
02-15-2012, 05:07 PM
Even if we strip the issue of all of its moral trappings, it's better to wait on both counts. :shrug:

Garson007
02-15-2012, 06:41 PM
It's like you people didn't even read my post. Common-law marriage is the alternative to marriage when it comes to two people living together and sharing their lives.

Sham Kay
02-15-2012, 08:34 PM
I follow Nike's way of thinking: Just do it

Pirata.
02-16-2012, 12:05 AM
Why should people get married in the first place. Why don't we consider other alternatives?

Lots of tax and insurance benefits from legal marriage in the US.

tripwires
02-16-2012, 02:34 AM
Even if we strip the issue of all of its moral trappings, it's better to wait on both counts. :shrug:

Children I agree, but sex? Why?

It's like you people didn't even read my post. Common-law marriage is the alternative to marriage when it comes to two people living together and sharing their lives.

Are common law marriages recognised in civil law countries?

Garson007
02-16-2012, 11:17 AM
Are common law marriages recognised in civil law countries?
It depends, but there generally are legal classifications for people who live together as spouses but never married.

Waterfox
02-23-2012, 06:56 AM
First option.
Never plan to marry aynway.