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How easy is to go to bed "cassualy" with someone in your country?

_maxi
02-05-2012, 12:39 PM
Hello. How are you all? This is a question for women and men.

I was reading the topic that was about women and men standards when it came to find partners and some responses gave me the idea of making this one.

How "free" is your culture when it comes to liking someone, for example on the street, on the bus, and talking to that person and if both like each other, have casual sex the same day or without too much protocol? I mean, without the need of having feelings involved. Just to have sex to enjoy it. To have that vision of sex if you are for the moment looking for that instead of a long term relationship or if you still didn't find the right person for you so you just want to have some fun meanwhile.

I would say that in my country we are in the middle of both extremes. Usually parents won't let you bring a girl or a boy to the house to have sex with. Though there are exceptions. Generally they won't let you do that. So you have to go to an hotel and pay. Sex is a taboo still but not so much.
On the street if you are kissing your partner its ok, but if you are hugging that person and kissing and the things start to get hotter, people will probably look badly to you and some will say: "go to a motel!!".

But what I dislike in my culture, is that to 90% of the girls, if you approach to her giving signals that you like her and want to have sex with her, which to me is something that can be answered with yes or no, respectfully, the girl tends to think it's offensive and will probably punch your face or tell you some bad words and go away. I think that that comes from the fact that those girls don't want anyone to make them feel their are "easy" or "prostitutes" like some people call here the "easy-going" women. So they have a cultural pressure to somehow see casual sex as bad. Or as they would lose reputation. Even if there's nothing wrong with it. What is more accepted is to have casual sex with someone you like but that you knew before and trusted and blabla.

The point is that I've heard from people that traveled around the world, that they found that other cultures treated the thing much more freely. And that people didn't think sex was some taboo or something that you had to do with a person you knew a lot and trusted. They reported that they had sex with people they knew the same day, without too much protocol other than the mutual intention of give and receive pleasure.
And I also have negatives references about countries like Finland where I was told that sex there is more difficult.

Personally I dislike when I person thinks that sex is something that you can only do to someone you think is going to be the love of your life and that stuff. I think that maybe fifty years ago that was the general view on the matter at least in my country. Due to catholic reasons.

Give your opinion please. Bye!

Hewitt =Legend
02-05-2012, 12:49 PM
Pretty easy here mate, but when I take someone home it is only for a romantic cuddling session.

Ajde.

Johnny Groove
02-05-2012, 02:10 PM
In the USA, it is about status. Like Manny said in Scarface. You gotta make the money, then you get the girls.

When you are broke, your game really becomes crucial, and looks. But when you start makin' some money, your looks begin to matter less, your game is still mad important, and then you get to a point where you are so rich, your game is so good, you can get any girl you want.

Basically, as you make more money, it becomes easier to go out and go to bed "cassualy".

Tulipe
02-05-2012, 02:30 PM
Depends on the girls. There is this type that will be easy to get, and the type that tells you to fuck off or they call the police. It's not that hard to tell which type the girl belongs to. :p

With guys I can't tell. There were some guys who would be easy to get, mainly when drunk, but they were not complete strangers, I knew them at least a little bit from school or tennis club. I've never tried to pick up someone on the street or in the club just like that.

Bilbo
02-05-2012, 02:32 PM
In the USA, it is about status. Like Manny said in Scarface. You gotta make the money, then you get the girls.

Which is actually a bad thing for human development. Even more so when girls love your money and not you.

That's why I prefer girls from emergent countries. They are more into emotional needs and desires and thus more honest about their intentions.

JolánGagó
02-05-2012, 02:41 PM
:rolls:

abraxas21
02-05-2012, 02:57 PM
a lot harder than in most euro countries but a lot easier than in islamic countries

_maxi
02-05-2012, 02:58 PM
Which is actually a bad thing for human development. Even more so when girls love your money and not you.
Yeah, but some might say that the money you make is a part of you. So by loving your status they love you at the same time. I think that the "problem" comes when they want you to make lots of money instead of what you think is necessary for you. Then there are conflicts.

That's why I prefer girls from emergent countries. They are more into emotional needs and desires and thus more honest about their intentions.
Well it depends. If you consider my country an emergent one, I can tell you that the girls here are interested in money too. Not so much maybe as in the USA. But they are more interested in your look than the money.
But I have some friends from some "poor" neighborhoods and people there respect you more and consider you more than some of the people that I know from other social conditions that are more interested in other things such as how you dress what cell phone or how much money you have, etc. So I found that girls from those places fit better with my personality.

Bilbo
02-05-2012, 03:10 PM
Yeah, but some might say that the money you make is a part of you. So by loving your status they love you at the same time. I think that the "problem" comes when they want you to make lots of money instead of what you think is necessary for you. Then there are conflicts.

Status is loved by all women but it's not all about money. Status is mainly shown by your (non-needy) behavior around women.

If you are a high status man with not much money, you'll more likely attract women who really love you for what you are. If you are high status man defined by your money, you'll more likely attract women who are gold-diggers. Both works, but it attracts different types of women. Decide what you like more. I prefer the first option.

Nikki♥
02-05-2012, 04:30 PM
When I'm back in Argentina we should hook up .... 100% casually, of course.

Har-Tru
02-05-2012, 04:53 PM
Which is actually a bad thing for human development. Even more so when girls love your money and not you.

That's why I prefer girls from emergent countries. They are more into emotional needs and desires and thus more honest about their intentions.

Man you are unreal.

shotgun
02-05-2012, 05:40 PM
In the USA, it is about status. Like Manny said in Scarface. You gotta make the money, then you get the girls.

Very true, especially in places like Vegas and Miami. Women in America love splurgers, at least in nightclubs.

MaxPower
02-05-2012, 05:51 PM
In the USA, it is about status. Like Manny said in Scarface. You gotta make the money, then you get the girls.

When you are broke, your game really becomes crucial, and looks. But when you start makin' some money, your looks begin to matter less, your game is still mad important, and then you get to a point where you are so rich, your game is so good, you can get any girl you want.

Basically, as you make more money, it becomes easier to go out and go to bed "cassualy".

It's a bit like that in Sweden too. But many girls drink too much these days. Then it gets very easy...if you got no morals.

angela
02-05-2012, 07:30 PM
So hard...

Nathaliia
02-05-2012, 08:20 PM
In Poland like in every country you'd have some women who look out for money or for an adventure with a foreign tourist (in big cities), also in posh clubs you will find some golddiggers or women with free mind who simply don't care about "opinion" and "reputation", but to be honest in the largest number people here date for quite long before they go to bed. I've read Durex research on that and actually Poland was on top of the countries where is takes the longest to take a woman to bed: on average 8 dates. I think it's true for most women who are not social bottom or golddiggers from Warsaw or Cracow. Although we're presented as a very Catholic country, it's not really true between the young ones, but we still care much about opinion, to be not labeled a slut. So women rather would have adventures away from their city/friends. For the others it's important to feel the man really cares about her, and not her body, so she'd prefer to date for long to be secure about his intentions, and not to get just used and dumped.

Of course it's much easier to take a man to bed :facepalm: You need 5 minutes or so. If someone is hesitant it's only because he's afraid there will be someone to hit him with a hammer and steal his kidney when he goes with you.

_maxi
02-05-2012, 11:00 PM
When I'm back in Argentina we should hook up .... 100% casually, of course.
Why not? :devil:

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