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Do you think men or women have higher standards in the opposite sex?

2003
01-28-2012, 08:20 AM
Im split on this one.

It seems men are more judgemental about weight perhaps. Like its okay for a guy to have a gut but a girl not so much so.

On the other hand, I have often been rejected by girls who obviously flat out feel they are out of my league. I might not be very hot but theres nothing outstandingly wrong with me. I feel guys dont do this as much if an average girl talks to them, unless they feel they arent their type.

It is said guys are more shallow.

It is said girls have unrealistic expectations.

Some girls have high expectations but seem to settle more often than not for someone who is quite rugged and whilst exciting, seems to contradict what they often say they look for in guys.

How do you see it?

This is not a question of shallowness per say, though that does come into it. Just who expects more in certain ways and why.

Har-Tru
01-28-2012, 08:31 AM
Men have higher physical standards a priori, but they'll settle for decent in a heartbeat.

Otherwise women have higher standards.

leng jai
01-28-2012, 08:44 AM
I'll settle for anything from any species.

2003
01-28-2012, 08:52 AM
What if it didnt have a pulse anymore?

leng jai
01-28-2012, 08:57 AM
You always take it too far mate.

Kat_YYZ
01-28-2012, 09:20 AM
men have standards? :spit:

shiaben
01-28-2012, 09:27 AM
Not sure about standards, but if it comes to "expectations" I would say women are a lot more strict about it.

A lot more strict about preferring a taller man, one that's in good shape, good income, etc.

I remember seeing a woman that was heavier than her mate dump him because she thought she could get a better looking man. Not sure wth she was thinking because it's not like she was a model herself.

shiaben
01-28-2012, 09:28 AM
Not sure about standards, but if it comes to "expectations" I would say women are a lot more strict about it.

A lot more strict about preferring a taller man, one that's in good shape, good income, etc.

I remember seeing a woman that was heavier than her mate dump him because she thought she could get a better looking man. Not sure wth she was thinking because it's not like she was a model herself.

leng jai
01-28-2012, 09:30 AM
men have standards? :spit:

Not me babe :)

Kat_YYZ
01-28-2012, 09:52 AM
Not sure about standards, but if it comes to "expectations" I would say women are a lot more strict about it.

A lot more strict about preferring a taller man, one that's in good shape, good income, etc.

I remember seeing a woman that was heavier than her mate dump him because she thought she could get a better looking man. Not sure wth she was thinking because it's not like she was a model herself.

I remember hearing about men cheating on their MODEL girlfriends/wives (usually with some much plainer chick) about a million times (Billy Joel, Tiger Woods, etc), so it's clear that being 'physically perfect' isn't really relevant. :wavey:

2003
01-28-2012, 09:59 AM
Not sure about standards, but if it comes to "expectations" I would say women are a lot more strict about it.

A lot more strict about preferring a taller man, one that's in good shape, good income, etc.

I remember seeing a woman that was heavier than her mate dump him because she thought she could get a better looking man. Not sure wth she was thinking because it's not like she was a model herself.

Yeah, once a few years ago I met up with a girl and it went so so.

I later found out she told our mutual friend she didnt consider me because "whoever she dates must be taller than her".

Im about 5'8 shes about 5'7.

I mean what the fuck? If guys were that openly shallow..look out.

2003
01-28-2012, 10:01 AM
You always take it too far mate.

Meh, zoophilia, necrophilia whats the difference

Gagsquet
01-28-2012, 10:41 AM
I can't stand women who don't even consider some guys because they are not tall enough.(even if the guy is taller than her). So dumb.

Bilbo
01-28-2012, 11:12 AM
I would say women because they rate personality first. Therefore, women are also more cautious when it comes to choose a partner for a relationship, which isn't a bad thing after all. This is because women can get pregnant and have to trust their partner to stick with her.

Bilbo
01-28-2012, 11:15 AM
On the other hand, I have often been rejected by girls who obviously flat out feel they are out of my league.

In which direction? Above or below your league? I've heard girls even reject you when she thinks YOU are to high for her.

Some girls have high expectations but seem to settle more often than not for someone who is quite rugged and whilst exciting, seems to contradict what they often say they look for in guys.

what they say = logic
what they feel = emotion

emotion > logic (for women)

Hope that explains it for you.

Harmless
01-28-2012, 01:51 PM
It all depends on the culture and the personality.
As far as physical appareance goes, it also depends on cultural influences. See women in Mauritania (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Women_in_Mauritania) ie, where forced feeding is practiced for aesthetic reasons.


what they say = logic
what they feel = emotion

emotion > logic (for women)

Hope that explains it for you.
Yes, of course, because women are by default just overly emotional, overly hormonal, silly dependant creatures that must rely on the aid of the superior, dominant, logical males to make it through life. :awww:

Join the rest of us in the 21st century some time soon.

Sham Kay
01-28-2012, 02:03 PM
Basically standards cannot be generalised between men and women, and just depends on the person rather than their gender. A bit like pretty much everything.

In which direction? Above or below your league? I've heard girls even reject you when she thinks YOU are to high for her.



what they say = logic
what they feel = emotion

emotion > logic (for women)

Hope that explains it for you.

Having said that, this man is a legend. The rest of us should just shut up and take notes.

Harmless
01-28-2012, 02:06 PM
Having said that, this man is a legend. The rest of us should just shut up and take notes.
In red marker pen. And then tape it to the closet door. :p

leng jai
01-28-2012, 02:56 PM
If I had 1% of Bilbo's sex brain I'd be having sex 24/7

EliSter
01-28-2012, 03:25 PM
If I had 1% of Bilbo's sex brain I'd be having sex 24/7

:lol:

Johnny Groove
01-28-2012, 03:30 PM
Everyone is different.

All generalizations are dangerous, even this one.

GOAT = Fed
01-28-2012, 05:39 PM
Disregard females.

Acquire dance moves.

Naudio Spanlatine
01-28-2012, 05:49 PM
GOAT=Fed:haha:

Anyways women have so many options and wants and needs to have in sex, we tend to want more variety and more satisfaction from men. However men tend to want to be the leader in every way, which is fine yes, but sometimes they expect way too much from a women to give them sexual desires. Sex has always been a trend for many many centuries i mean think about it, whats more fun than having sex, who doesnt wanna have sex, sex is a beautiful thing whether you're gay, straight, bisexual, transexual or any other orientation. In the end the women will always top the men when it comes to sex because women have more power to get men and/or women with their seductive tricks while the men will always have more power to spice up everything with men and/or women in the bedroom:smoke:

EDIT: Any YES im off topic but i dont care:devil:

Jimnik
01-28-2012, 05:50 PM
I'll settle for anything from any species.

What if it didnt have a pulse anymore?

You always take it too far mate.
:haha:

I love you guys.

Jimnik
01-28-2012, 05:54 PM
I would say women because they rate personality first. Therefore, women are also more cautious when it comes to choose a partner for a relationship, which isn't a bad thing after all. This is because women can get pregnant and have to trust their partner to stick with her.
This.

Although it does vary a lot. Girls can afford to be more careless putting their trust in pills and condoms.

Sauletekis
01-28-2012, 05:57 PM
I would say women because they rate personality first. Therefore, women are also more cautious when it comes to choose a partner for a relationship, which isn't a bad thing after all. This is because women can get pregnant and have to trust their partner to stick with her.

Wrong!

Sauletekis
01-28-2012, 06:03 PM
what they say = logic
what they feel = emotion

emotion > logic (for women)

Hope that explains it for you.

Agreed, but also for guys. I mean, I don't know about the others, but I can speak about myself and I think exactly like this.

Gagsquet
01-28-2012, 06:06 PM
Wrong!

Are you questioning Bilbo's women knowledge ?

http://troll.me/images/brick-tamland/you-are-so-crazy-lol.jpg

Sauletekis
01-28-2012, 06:10 PM
Like it's been said here, Men have high standards, but in the end they will settle for the medium/low "stuff".

Women are a bit different. They (like Men) will always look to your looks, but it can happen with many frequency that they don't get interested for that not that pysically interesting guy, but that same guy can turn around girls mind, with talking and being funny. The guy can't show too much interess in the girl, but have to show that he at least is interesting in talking with her. It's hard to explain, really, specially with english not being my first language.

Sauletekis
01-28-2012, 06:14 PM
Are you questioning Bilbo's women knowledge ?

http://troll.me/images/brick-tamland/you-are-so-crazy-lol.jpg

Sometimes I agree, sometimes I don't. Specially when he generalize too much, it's the times I don't agree more. It's not like Bilbo is the male Oprah...

GOAT = Fed
01-28-2012, 06:16 PM
Honestly let's not delve too much into the psychological side of how men and women think.

I just go all in with my lines.

It equated to success every single time.

The secrets will come out when I publish my book.

Bilbo
01-28-2012, 06:57 PM
Agreed, but also for guys. I mean, I don't know about the others, but I can speak about myself and I think exactly like this.

Not true. When you see a beautiful women it is your visual brain that is saying to you how beautiful she is. Men look for things like hip-waist-ratio and other shapes in her body. It is not an emotional process. Not at this point.

Wrong!

Proven by science and psychology my friend. If you don't believe me, go out and ask women. You will get the same answers.

arm
01-28-2012, 07:12 PM
Higher standards for what? A one night stand or a relationship? You can't even begin to answer the question if you don't clarify that. :shrug:

Kat_YYZ
01-28-2012, 08:31 PM
you two using the same avatar is very confusing :facepalm:
every so often I fear that arm has lost her mind before having a 2nd look at the usernames.

Naudio Spanlatine
01-28-2012, 09:04 PM
i jus realized that arm and bilbo have the same avi :superlol: :o

2003
01-28-2012, 09:50 PM
In which direction? Above or below your league? I've heard girls even reject you when she thinks YOU are to high for her.

Well, yes, thats happened a couple times.

Not on first sight though, after we been courting a while.

She feels shes a bitch and im too nice, or she could cheat or go back to her old bf and im too nice and kind for her so were not balanced.

I wonder if its not an excuse though.

But they had been with mostly assholes in the past.