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Many Women Feel 'Too Fat' for Sex

Rafa = Fed Killa
11-20-2011, 07:32 PM
http://www.thatsfit.ca/2011/03/23/sex-women-feel-too-fat/

A new survey has found more than half of women feel so overweight they avoid having sex with their partners, according to a recent story in the Daily Mail, 'Not Tonight, Dear, I'm Feeling Too Fat.'

Yes, you read that right. The lack of confidence that accompanies perceived imperfections in appearance is causing more than 50 per cent of women to deny themselves one of the great pleasures in life.

The survey quoted by writer James Tozer, Sex in the Nation, polled 4,000 people and found that 29 per cent of women listed feeling fat as a reason for avoiding sex. Another 23 per cent blamed embarrassment about their 'wobbly bits' for a slow sex life.

"Experts said the poll showed many women were suffering from a combination of unrealistic expectations about their appearance and increasingly busy lives, and warned relationships were inevitably suffering as a result," Tozer writes.

Of the women surveyed, 13 per cent also reported having sex with the lights off because they feel ashamed of their bodies, and 10 per cent said that they avoid trying new things in the bedroom because they worry about how they might look.

Unsurprisingly, only eight per cent of the men surveyed responded that concerns about their appearance would prevent them from pursuing sex with a partner.

Of course, as many of us already know, sex isn't really the time to keep up appearances. Despite television and film images of alluring women with bedroom eyes and perfectly tousled hair, by the end of it most of us look like we were caught outside in a rainstorm without our clothes on and then forced to dry off using a wind machine.

Women feel pressure to live up to an unrealistic vision of perfection, psychosexual specialist and Oxford lecturer Catherine Hood says in the article. To rediscover confidence in the bedroom, she suggests women "wear a sexy camisole top rather than being naked."

Sex should make women feel sexier, more desired and more confident, no matter their size. Women who are already feeling bad about their bodies inflict a sort of self-punishment by preventing themselves from feeling desired, because they feel undesirable. For now, the only comfort offered by the survey is the knowledge that if you're feeling unsexy because of your weight or how you perceive your body, you're not alone by far.

LOL

What a pointless fear with such simple solutions.

a) Lose weight and get more fit

or

b) Gain self confidence to be okay with your body

It is pathetic fears like this which keep women from reaching their intellectual potential.
Only good thing is I asume this is more the case for older or American women and therefore wont affect most men.

Time Violation
11-20-2011, 07:37 PM
Lol :D Well, I guess it shows the difference in priorities for certain people, though not sure whether that was the goal of the study. Men think about the sex, women think about how they look :p

star
11-20-2011, 08:16 PM
Lol :D Well, I guess it shows the difference in priorities for certain people, though not sure whether that was the goal of the study. Men think about the sex, women think about how they look :p

Correction: About how they FEEL.

fast_clay
11-20-2011, 11:55 PM
just slap a leg and catch the next wave in... too easy when you know how...

leng jai
11-20-2011, 11:59 PM
I avoid sex because sex avoids me. It only seems fair.

Sham Kay
11-21-2011, 12:23 AM
It's all a part of one cruel conspiracy. Find a sap, wrap him up in an exclusive relationship and then decide to feel too fat.

EddceLLent
11-21-2011, 01:22 AM
It's all a part of one cruel conspiracy. Find a sap, wrap him up in an exclusive relationship and then decide to feel too fat.

lol!

shiaben
11-21-2011, 01:27 AM
These same women who feel "too fat" for sex are usually the same ones who fall victim to anorexia. Sickening.

Pirata.
11-21-2011, 01:59 AM
They probably say that since statistics say that most men have no idea how to properly satisfy a woman and that more woman end up having self-induced orgasms through masturbation than they ever do with their partner :lol:

Bilbo
11-21-2011, 01:15 PM
They probably say that since statistics say that most men have no idea how to properly satisfy a woman and that more woman end up having self-induced orgasms through masturbation than they ever do with their partner :lol:

It's not about men don't know how to satisfy a woman sexually (I think that's what the statistics want to say) because it's not something you can forget to learn or something that has changed since the industrialization. The problem lies somewhere else. It's that men are not men anymore but on a psychical level not on a physical level. They way men live, feel, think, act and treat women has changed and that's the core problem especially in relationships. And all this is related to sex as well but it's not the sex itself.

Time Violation
11-21-2011, 05:18 PM
They probably say that since statistics say that most men have no idea how to properly satisfy a woman and that more woman end up having self-induced orgasms through masturbation than they ever do with their partner :lol:

Well, if most of them didn't just lie down like a log, perhaps they could get satisfied :p

Roger the Dodger
11-21-2011, 05:52 PM
Is it true that women even 'feel it' as physically as men do?

clandis
11-21-2011, 06:14 PM
What does that mean?:confused:

vucina
11-21-2011, 07:33 PM
Fat bitchez should lose some weight then. Problem solved.

paseo
11-22-2011, 01:27 AM
I avoid sex because sex avoids me. It only seems fair.

:lol:

Filo V.
11-29-2011, 12:23 AM
They probably say that since statistics say that most men have no idea how to properly satisfy a woman and that more woman end up having self-induced orgasms through masturbation than they ever do with their partner :lol:

So true. 80% of women fake it on the regular. And guys want to act as if women are the one with the problem.

Of course, I totally profit from this sexually. Sexually frustrated straight guys will do anything to get off.

MTwEeZi
11-29-2011, 12:25 AM
Their loss.

Filo V.
11-29-2011, 12:27 AM
The unfair and unrealistic standards women are forced to adhere to, to be seen as sexy (to themselves and their partner) is the reason for both the weight issues and the sex issues.

Topspindoctor
11-29-2011, 12:28 AM
If they feel "too fat", perhaps it's time to stop eating KFC every day and hit the gym. Whining about it won't do anything.


The unfair and unrealistic standards women are forced to adhere to, to be seen as sexy (to themselves and their partner) is the reason for both the weight issues and the sex issues.

Incorrect. Most reasonable men don't expect women to look supermodel thin. They just don't want them to be grotesquely overweight. A woman that is 170cm for instance, should NOT weigh more than 65kg.

Saberq
11-29-2011, 12:40 AM
I didnt know there was a weight limit

Filo V.
11-29-2011, 12:45 AM
Not supermodel thin, but supermodel looks. The weight issues are an extension of that. It's being shown men have more eating disorders these days than in the past, for the same reasons. People place an extreme emphasis on appearance.

Saberq
11-29-2011, 01:00 AM
Not supermodel thin, but supermodel looks. The weight issues are an extension of that. It's being shown men have more eating disorders these days than in the past, for the same reasons. People place an extreme emphasis on appearance.

I just lift weights and look great those women that are stressed about their looks so much are crazy and insecure

Filo V.
11-29-2011, 01:13 AM
Well, there are some people, like me for instance, that are naturally beautiful. But even then, there is a worry about keeping those looks up, about competition from others, most people want to be seen as the hot new piece of tail, the person all the boys and girls have their eyes on. People desire that. And women especially, because of the global society and it's preconceptions of what makes a woman desirable, play into this. It fosters the insecurity and the desire to be attractive. It's not really crazy, it's common sense, people want to be hot. It's just gone too far and leading towards people women (and many men) having low self-esteem.

Saberq
11-29-2011, 01:16 AM
Well, there are some people, like me for instance, that are naturally beautiful. But even then, there is a worry about keeping those looks up, about competition from others, most people want to be seen as the hot new piece of tail, the person all the boys and girls have their eyes on. People desire that. And women especially, because of the global society and it's preconceptions of what makes a woman desirable, play into this. It fosters the insecurity and the desire to be attractive. It's not really crazy, it's common sense, people want to be hot. It's just gone too far and leading towards people women (and many men) having low self-esteem.

first of all are you a guy or a girl.....

second of all I was also born good looking and improved it with sports and training and I agree that you need to keep the looks up on a certain level...it's a habit

Filo V.
11-29-2011, 01:43 AM
first of all are you a guy or a girl.....

second of all I was also born good looking and improved it with sports and training and I agree that you need to keep the looks up on a certain level...it's a habit

I'm a guy, rated exactly a 9.0 on the beautiful people forum :)

Looking good is a habit. Once you do the appropriate things to keep the looks up, like exercise, eating right, not damaging your skin in the sun, then it's something that becomes second nature.

Saberq
11-29-2011, 01:49 AM
I'm a guy, rated exactly a 9.0 on the beautiful people forum :)

Looking good is a habit. Once you do the appropriate things to keep the looks up, like exercise, eating right, not damaging your skin in the sun, then it's something that becomes second nature.

9.0 not 10 LOL

yeah I guess shame ugly people get it the worse....nobody is nice to them all the time :cool:

Filo V.
11-29-2011, 02:08 AM
I don't think I'm a 10. I think I'm a 7.5 or 8. But most people say I'm extremely gorgeous, and I get a lot of compliments and people who hit on me. So, it is what it is. At least I'm hot, though.

Less attractive people definitely do have it harder, in society, in the workplace, making friends, finding partners. It's unfair, because personality should come first, not physical appearance. At the same time, people can make themselves look more attractive than they may naturally be with some work, and if you allow your self-esteem get low and not do what you can to look your best, then it's hard to have sympathy.

Saberq
11-29-2011, 02:20 AM
I don't think I'm a 10. I think I'm a 7.5 or 8. But most people say I'm extremely gorgeous, and I get a lot of compliments and people who hit on me. So, it is what it is. At least I'm hot, though.

Less attractive people definitely do have it harder, in society, in the workplace, making friends, finding partners. It's unfair, because personality should come first, not physical appearance. At the same time, people can make themselves look more attractive than they may naturally be with some work, and if you allow your self-esteem get low and not do what you can to look your best, then it's hard to have sympathy.

give me a break man when you approach a girl in some bar you go by looks and then personality comes into play but only so so depends on her looks LOL :devil:

Filo V.
11-29-2011, 02:24 AM
Looks are definitely first in terms of the initial spark, but if that good looking person can't carry a conversation, has no personality, and is an all-around uninteresting/immoral/etc. person, then the attractiveness fades. A good looking person on the outside can look very ugly very quickly if they're ugly on the inside.

Saberq
11-29-2011, 02:32 AM
Looks are definitely first in terms of the initial spark, but if that good looking person can't carry a conversation, has no personality, and is an all-around uninteresting/immoral/etc. person, then the attractiveness fades. A good looking person on the outside can look very ugly very quickly if they're ugly on the inside.

yeah I agree with that ....given that you are from US you will understand this ...I met my current girlfriend on the night Aaron Boone hit that HR against the Red Sox in 2003 in Game 7 of ALCS....I am a die hard Red Sox fan and she was a Yankee fan jumping up and down...at first sight I didnt like her very much but after an hour talking(and arguing about the game) I fell for her...so yeah looks as you say isnt everything but at first it matters more

Smoke944
11-29-2011, 02:37 AM
yeah I agree with that ....given that you are from US you will understand this ...I met my current girlfriend on the night Aaron Boone hit that HR against the Red Sox in 2003 in Game 7 of ALCS....I am a die hard Red Sox fan and she was a Yankee fan jumping up and down...at first sight I didnt like her very much but after an hour talking(and arguing about the game) I fell for her...so yeah looks as you say isnt everything but at first it matters more

I knew it, but you're not actually Serbian, are you? :lol:

Filo V.
11-29-2011, 02:37 AM
That's an awesome story, I'm happy for you, and yes, it's totally representative of the fact if you give a person a chance, you may end up liking them more than you ever thought possible.

Of course, the story is made even greater by the fact the Yankees won!!!!

Saberq
11-29-2011, 02:41 AM
I knew it, but you're not actually Serbian, are you? :lol:

How did you know? My Father is my mom is an American from Boston

That's an awesome story, I'm happy for you, and yes, it's totally representative of the fact if you give a person a chance, you may end up liking them more than you ever thought possible.

Of course, the story is made even greater by the fact the Yankees won!!!!

no story was greater when Yankees choked in 2004 ALCS and I didnt get laid for 10 days after that :devil:

Smoke944
11-29-2011, 02:55 AM
How did you know? My Father is my mom is an American from Boston


I saw you post before saying that baseball was your favorite sport :)

Roadmap
11-29-2011, 02:56 AM
Saberq has discovered Non Tennis :worship: :devil:

Saberq
11-29-2011, 03:01 AM
I saw you post before saying that baseball was your favorite sport :)

I hate winter :mad:

Saberq has discovered Non Tennis :worship: :devil:

LOL I discovered it a long time ago but now with ACC and stuff I started to post and the season is over :cool:

Roadmap
11-29-2011, 03:05 AM
Saberq, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-J4O2-nsFBA&feature=player_detailpage ;)

Saberq
11-29-2011, 03:12 AM
Saberq, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-J4O2-nsFBA&feature=player_detailpage ;)

:haha:

wee
11-29-2011, 09:24 AM
just slap a leg and catch the next wave in... too easy when you know how...
as busy as the "great leader" Kim Jong-Il?

jmjhb
11-29-2011, 09:25 AM
How did you know? My Father is my mom



Now that's a story worth telling.

Time Violation
11-29-2011, 09:31 AM
Lol, Panda eats, shoots & leaves :lol:

Commander Data
11-29-2011, 11:10 AM
Does not make any sense - Sex burns off more calories then Pilates.