I wondered if you would crawl out from under your stone for this one Reggie!
ok I'm just picking this quote as an example so I'm not having a dig at specific individuals but I am really sad that this forum has descended to such a level of bitterness where everyone is having a go at each other. I would imagine the majority of people here are adults and I think that I wouldn't be expected to be spoken to in such a manner in real life. I would hope that people could get along or simply avoid each other.
I realise racism is a sensitive issue so feelings are running high and people have strong feelings on the matter but I think that a measure of respect is required.
Also, I admit that I’ve been hanging around less because the discussion seems to become more about sex than about tennis. I realize that there are cultural differences here too, but I think that things have gone overboard for a while. The sexually graphic commentary isn’t something with which I’m interested in engaging/reading for a number of reasons. I certainly don’t mind the witty, semi-covert comments (Example – Les’ style of lusty commentary
self-victimization much? Good grief! you have been spouting your boring explicit fantaisies ad nauseam all over this board since you came in, without giving a damn about other members being repeatedly upset, how was that respectful of others? Keep on displaying your self-righteous indignation and buying into being the victim if you will, you're only fooling yourself about the reason why you're leaving.
As regards to sexualised posts I am probably guilty of this in a joky way but if anyone had said or even PMed and said they found it too much I would have toned it down straight away. Or maybe kept it in one thread.
ok, firstly i feel really sad that we as people who have something in common (a love/like of gilles) cant be inspired by that. whether we be men, women, black, white, gay or straight we all share something in common which i find personaly great about forums. i personaly love that we are all different and feel it should be embraced.
i've read through a lot of what passed when i wasn't here and i feel its such a shame it happened. to the poster who called tsonga a monkey, it is racialy offensive and you may very well have posted it unwitting of its impact, but its impact is clear to see and a big 'sorry' is needed. i feel you shouldn't continue to try and defended what you posted just accept its offensive to some and is unacceptable, you made a mistake in posting it and putting your hands up to it is needed.
to people who were offended by others not pointing out it was wrong, i think in this case posters need to give some lea-way. i personaly know calling someone a monkey is wrong and i think most others do, but some may not be so informed as to how offensive it can be and their lack of pulling the poster up on it might be a reflection of this.
to whomever was offended, i firstly want to say im sorry to you, i see myself as a valid member of the gilles forum and i don't want anyone to feel offended from posting in something i belong to and hold so dearly. you have every right to be upset and post your feelings on this, i just hope you can look past it and will continue to be valid members of this simon forum. i also think rather than just saying its unacceptable, giving your reasons why the word offends you may help people who don't realise what impact such insults can cause.
as for the poster/s who were uneasy with the more rude (sexual) side of some posts thanks for letting me know. i know i have posted posts about my sexual feelings towards gilles and i will tone it down if that helps.
just my 2 cents.
ok Sammy's post pretty much says everything that I would want to say so I'm just going to say ditto rather than typing something rambly and incoherent.
Finally i would like to say that I don't like the idea of people posting what is in their PMs. PMs are private messages and I think that if you have a problem with something that is in a PM then it should be reported to a moderator. Posting single PMs doesn't give the context of the conversation and I think that this makes it easy for people to form opinions without all the facts. There is enough tension on this forum already.
I know I am far from a prolific poster here but I would like to carry on speaking with other people that like Gilles and am hoping that the atmosphere in here becomes less hostile.