well some people have pretty basic weddings and they don't go into all that stuff, and I guess some brides just let the dj/photographer/caterer/etc. run wild... but I've seen even the most laid back and calmest of girls get worked into a frenzy by their own families and friends. also for some reason on the east coast it seems weddings are a lot more involved than on the west coast or midwest, I went to two weddings in california where there were adult
guests at the church wearing shorts, I almost fell over.
edit: oh yeah, also at least one in california where they had plastic knives & forks at the reception, personally I don't give a shit but I kept thinking I would never in a bazillionty years see this in NY.
but my least favorite regional wedding tradition of all is in new england where they have cash bars