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Good to know you share my pain.

But it's kind of difficult to me right now, because I need her to act like a grwon up but she has no clue how to do it. But at the same time she doesn't act like a child either! And that is why I fisrt started to expect her to be a grown up in difficult situations.

Bah, it's difficult. But they will get over it soon.
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Good to know you share my pain.

But it's kind of difficult to me right now, because I need her to act like a grwon up but she has no clue how to do it. But at the same time she doesn't act like a child either! And that is why I fisrt started to expect her to be a grown up in difficult situation.

Bah, it's difficult. But they will get over ot soon.
Well, let her choose to be whoever she prefers right now. It's a pretty difficult inbetween period. I think there is time she wants to be a child and then turn around, prefers grownup.

My son has acted like this for more than a year. Sometimes, he's very articulate and suddenly, he acts like an idiot, giggle like a 5 years old. But he's progressing slowly toward more adult than a kid.
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Well, let her choose to be whoever she prefers right now. It's a pretty difficult inbetween period. I think there is time she wants to be a child and then turn around, prefers grownup.

My son has acted like this for more than a year. Sometimes, he's very articulate and suddenly, he acts like an idiot, giggle like a 5 years old. But he's progressing slowly toward more adult than a kid.
But the thing is, we're ahving some family problems, it's difficult for everyone, but I need her help, I need her to be a grown up once in a while. Sometims I think I shouldn't expect that from her and put her under so much pressure, but the thing is, I really need her help, and it's not only my problem and I can handle it on my own. I know she tries, but sometimes I get so mad at her , I know I shouldn't but it's really difficult.

Also, there's the fact that I have always been very matture for my age, even when I was 6 or 9 or 10, I was always very matture for my age, and I keep making the mistake of expecting her to do, think and react like I did when I was her age. I know I can't and shouldn't expect that from her.

But don't get me wrong, we fight all the time, but have a great relation ship, she looks up to me for some reason, and that has always helped our relation ship. She is the most important person for me in the world.

Did your son become 13 this year or he is still going to become 14 in 2009?
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Raquel. He turned 13 in Jan this year.

I understand your feeling. My husband and I are both close to perfectionist. When we pick on a job, we put every effort to get the job done perfectly. We may not be the most talent but we put 110% effort. My son, on the other, is happy to just get-by. He has been told by almost all his teachers that he has the ability to be a straight A student but he's happy with B and that's his grades these days *sigh*
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Raquel. He turned 13 in Jan this year.

I understand your feeling. My husband and I are both close to perfectionist. When we pick on a job, we put every effort to get the job done perfectly. We may not be the most talent but we put 110% effort. My son, on the other, is happy to just get-by. He has been told by almost all his teachers that he has the ability to be a straight A student but he's happy with B and that's his grades these days *sigh*
So he really is my sister's age. She turns 13 in August.

You really do understand me. My sister has always been a great student, I think that I have my share of responsability in that, because as I have always been a good student, she had me like a role model to follow. In terms of school she is very grown up.

But apart from that... nothing. She doesn't get dressed by herself in the morning, she doesn't know how to act with people. And what annoys me the most is that she doens't think about other people, she doesn't worry, you know? It's not that she does it on purpose or that she is a mean girl, not at all, she is just so childish that she doesn't even realize she has to think and look out for people... Because she is really sweet.

About your son, has he always been like that in terms of grades? Or has he had a different behaviour towards school and grandes? because that could just be because of the age you know... I know I am nobody to advise people about raising their children, but I have watched my mum raise my sister and I know how she did it with me, and what I could tell you is: insist, be a pain in his a** . He'll thaank you later.
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He was a straight A students in elementary school where he could easily "get-by". The class size is smaller and one teacher for each class so the teacher got to know the around 30 students pretty well in the class. In middle school, it's more like a manufacturing plant. Students moved from one classroom to another for different subjects. Each subject teacher has to deal with about 140 students and they really don't have the time to understand the students especially those with special needs. So my son turned from loving all his teachers to hating all.

edit: Raquel, my son has been constantly complaining his parents being a big pain in the ***
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He was a straight A students in elementary school where he could easily "get-by". The class size is smaller and one teacher for each class so the teacher got to know the around 30 students pretty well in the class. In middle school, it's more like a manufacturing plant. Students moved from one classroom to another for different subjects. Each subject teacher has to deal with about 140 students and they really don't have the time to understand the students especially those with special needs. So my son turned from loving all his teachers to hating all.
The transition must have been difficult for him. When was the transition? In which grade? It's funny how our educational systems are sooo different.

EDIT: that is a good sign, when they complain, is because they don't mind so much.
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The transition must have been difficult for him. When was the transition? In which grade? It's funny how our educational systems are sooo different.

EDIT: that is a good sign, when they complain, is because they don't mind so much.
To make things more complicated, here, it's different for different school districts and in the Phoenix metro, we have more than 20 school districts

My son's school district and some start at 6th grade while the rest starts at 7th grade. So elementary school is from kindergarten to 5th or 6th, middle school from 6th or 7th to 8th. And high school is 9th to 12th.
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I have to leave now Raquel!

Hope your problem within the family will be solved soon.
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Americans really are complicated.

Here Primary school is from 1st to 4th grade (including), and during these years they are like 25 per class and have only ONE teacher to teach him everything they are supposed to be taught. Then there is 2º Ciclo with is from 5th to 6th, only two years. Normally there's a change of school here, the calss is about 30 people and they start having a different teacher for each subject and changing classrooms, etc. After that its the 3º Ciclo, from 7th to 9th grade, still more or less 30 students per class, and almost the same as 2º Ciclo. After it's High school, we call it secondary school, and it is from 1th to 12th. From 1st to 9th grade the subjects and programme to be tought is the same for every student in the country, but when you finish 9th grade you have to choose an area of study: economics, science, literature, arts, informatics, etc, and you have different subjects depending on which are you chose. But people in the same area have the same subjects. It's a strange system, but I must confess, I pretty fair one, as it's the same for everyone in the country. For example to apply for university you ahve to do national exams.

I must go to bed too. And don't worry, I can handle this.
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The residents of Herdwick towers have only just got up and only then cos we were woken by the meter reader. No alcohol either - it must be Raquel's auto-suggestion.

Draw on at present I think? I expect Rafa in the SF and Giraffe in the QF - anything else is a bonus.
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The residents of Herdwick towers have only just got up and only then cos we were woken by the meter reader. No alcohol either - it must be Raquel's auto-suggestion.

Draw on at present I think? I expect Rafa in the SF and Giraffe in the QF - anything else is a bonus.
Such a BAD influence, that Raquel We woke up at about 8.30am, though I admit, didn't get out of bed til about 11.00am I think the draw is 12.00pm, though whether MC time (in which case right now), or our time I'm not sure

Sexy Radek visited me in my dreams last night Though thankfully only fleetingly as a work colleague - no "funny business" thank the Lord - but it was still very upsetting!

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Again a sunny and warm day here.

That draw is taking ages again They mean noon CET, I think, but now you made me doubt Although it might be noon for you guys when it finally comes online.

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Hi Ellen Well they don't say it a lot in the UK without good reason - it honestly does.

Btw - how does everyone feel about the thread title? Do we still want to be in bed with Nole for a little longer? Or do we fancy a change?

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