Originally Posted by silverwhite
Wow, that's unusual! I don't mean to stereotype, but I've never heard of a male pro having a female coach.
Yeah! That's what i thought learning this. Pretty unusual. I don't think it changes anything, and normally there shouldn't be any problems. I think a woman can coach a man as men coaches women etc... As long as both person agree to see themselves respectively as coach and player, just focus on the fonction. Sex doesn't matter at all if this is clear for everybody. I'm actually surprised there are not more male (and female that's even more surprising...) players coached by women as you can often see it in other sports.
But the problem with Haehnel and his coach is that's she's also his wife. One of the unofficial "rules" that allow a good coach/coached relationship to be (as said by coaches in an article i scanned and posted recently that i should begin to translate...
hum...It's like "don't be nor their "guru", nor their "doggy", nor their "nanny", nor their (too close) "friend" "... ) if not many of them are broken because of this.
That's like in any work. It's often hard to work around someone from your family even more if it's someone very close as a wife or an husband. And when it's about learning stuff it's almost impossible. Not like businesses where it's often a family affair without any problem because in this case there's all the advantages of what family relationships can bring like easing the creation of a team spirit in the group, easing team work, being able to work late hours because your family understand the situation, children being in touch with the field since they were born through their parents' experience so being very competent and efficient etc...whatever...without that many disadvantages. There's the Mirka Wavrinek/ Federer exemple to show it can work in tennis too with her managing his carreer, all his affairs etc...
But as it's unbearable in the long term when one of your parents is one of your teacher for exemple (i know someone who was in this situation when he was younger and hated it...), i don't think this will work. I believe they'll have to stop one of the aspects of their relationship (i hope for them she'll only stop coaching him and not the other option...) or it's going to get hard to deal with (almost schizophrenic...) and not because she's a female coach but because she happens to be too close to him.
It's like players being coached by their father or brother etc...with it being even harder to deal with (your father or brother doesn't live with you...). That doesn't work for long generally (there are still the cases of Paradorn Srichaphan but he changed from his father to his brother to coach him, Davydenko with his brother Eduard, a lot of female players like Sharapova and Yuri Sharapov, Marion Bartoli and her father Walter, Emilie Loit is coached by her husband too plus many other exemples in the present and the past...but those kind of collaborations are bound to stop after only a few years as it has often been seen already...).
Maybe they'll proove me wrong and manage to separate very stricly their family relationship from their professional relationship and manage to get only good things out of this collaboration for years and years. But i think it will only be a fantastic experience for a few years that will make both of them progress and learn a lot but that it won't work in the long term. Maybe it will work perfectly and they'll start a new trend in tennis, who knows?
I'm too talkative...And as always when i make a giant post: sorry if there is any mistake...