Thanks. I used to never be honest with myself and rarely with others, so I've looked to change that over the last couple of years. Talking about things can only help. People share advice, thoughts & opinions. It's good.
I imagine, despite your parent's divorce, that you are on good terms with everyone, and there is a good aura surrounding your family? I really don't mean any harm in blindly speculating.
You see the problem now is my dad has re-married and my mum effective has, she's with a new partner. My dad married a Korean-Russian lady who already had two kids, there's a big Austrian influence on my stepdad's side of the family, his mother is Austrian, and one of his siblings has married a foreigner. My mother is of Irish origin, there's a big Catholic influence on her side of the family, not that she personally is religious. Then my dad is originally of lower middle-class origin and worked really hard to be very successful.
I don't mean to bore you with my family history, but I'm trying to make a point. I can't think of one person in my family who's been affected positively by the recent shuffling around. There's tonnes of different cultural influences on the family, it's too complicated. If I have children, I will do my utmost to try and make life as simple as possible for them. Not necessarily easy, but no needless complexities like I have suffered.
Yes, we are all on reasonably good terms. Obviously it's always a bit awkward when I am with both my parents at the same time. Not because they don't get along, because they get along fine, but it's not that old you, know. They have been divorced for like 3 years, separated for 4... It may sound like a lot, but it's not like I don't remember everything
about our life together, the 4 of us.
But we all get along fine (including uncles, etc...), although of course there are some minor conflicts. Nothing big though. We do have a chronic problem with an uncle of mine, who has been unemployed for like 6 years, and has been living with and of my grandparents. That is a huge problem there, but I don't wnat to get into it.
But summing up, I am very happy with the family I have, and I feel lucky.
Why do relationships have to be so hard?