Agree on the change of subject
And star, there were days I would love to strangle Jr.
Not just spank
You were in a very difficult and challenging position as a parent.
You know, most children don't require so much. They go on easily no matter how their parents screw up.
My brother and I survived chaos just because we had that genetic make up. Problem is you can't be sure which children have it and which don't. There are interesting studies about this. There are a percentage of children who are more greatly benefited from good parenting and also this same group is more damaged by bad parenting.
I do think it is darkly amusing how parents are so ready to take blame for any of their children's failings, but don't take the credit for their children's success either.