I was reading the beauty thread and my mind wandered to this all important aspect of our lives as humans on this planet.
There comes a time in all of our lives when we begin to ask ourselves what we are doing here. What is the purpose of life? To get your genetics into the next generation? Certainly it is one of the many purposes of life, most would agree.
I have been thinking of this sort of thing for many years, but only now really started considering. I found a few interesting articles. Before this, I was of the opinion that a woman's prime time is 20-30 in terms of fertility and chances of a healthy baby, and 30-35 is something of a "last call" time, and after 35 it is very very difficult. Not only to conceive, but the chances of many diseases and disorders grow with age. Her coccyx finishes fusing at 30, and her eggs especially after 32 decline in fertility.
A woman?s age affects her fertility
For us men, there is a misconception out there that we are somewhat indestructible and we can father children well into old age. The truth is that is somewhat true, but, like women, the older we are, the more difficult it becomes. For a man, our 35 is like her 30. After 35, our sperm naturally begins to decline. By 40, we are similar to a woman at 35. We may still be able to conceive with a younger woman, but the chances are higher of health problems with the child.
A man?s age matters
Now this does not mean that automatically if you are 40 and she is 35 that you won't be able to conceive or that you will have an unhealthy baby. People have children older all the time. And healthy. But is it more of a gamble? Will it take longer to conceive? Will you be stressed about a miscarriage or how healthy the baby will be? Yes. Yes it is. And yes you will.
Now then, when is the ideal age? A 25 year old man with a 21 year old woman may seem logical in terms of biology, but realistically neither of those young people are mature enough or financially secure enough to become parents. For a woman, really, between 25 and 30 one would imagine would be ideal for a young woman to become a mother for the first time. 30-35 can still be done, but if a woman is in this age bracket, she might want to do her best to try to conceive with a man around her age or younger for the best chances. Again, a 35 year old woman and a 40 year old man is not a death sentence, but it is riskier.
For a man, really it all depends on when you have you maturity and finances in order. Generally 30-35 is a good age for a man to have children for the first time, as you would imagine he has his shit together by that time, both personally and professionally. For some men it is late 20's even. For a man in this age bracket, your options are pretty wide open. If you want a child and a family, find yourself a woman around your age. Not too much older, and preferably younger by a few years, 5 years, no more than 10 years though. It is a bit much. A 34 year old man fathering a child with a 28 year old woman? Now that is like almost perfect. 33 yo man with 23 yo girl? I don't know. She might be too young and immature at only 23 for all that. 26 yo woman with 36 yo man? Well if she is ready, and he is probably also ready, that can work out.
For women, 25-30 or so is prime in terms of biological, personal, and professional readiness. Age 30-35 is also do-able, but the clock is ticking.
For men, 28-35 or so is prime in terms of biological, personal, and professional readiness. Age 35-40 is also do-able, but the clock is ticking.
Fertility and Baby Health at birth have long been discussed just in terms of the woman. And she remains the #1 most important part of this equation. But it takes two to tango, and the man must keep his sperm in fine condition, and not wait too long to start his family.