Since I must inevitably generalize, I will say than more often then not, women - unlike men, are looking for something they specifically need. There are many things, but usually there is the main thing that varies with different women in different times. With time and experience, I came to call that thing "the hook". It's a very difficult thing to describe, being so very flexible and volatile, even when the one and the same woman is in question, because the same woman needs different things in different times, without necessarily being aware of that herself. Even without the clear picture she will respond immediately when she encounters the hook.
The important thing is that initially it must be a game, an interesting, adventurous, rule-breaking game
Shinoj, what I want to say is that you need lots of luck to be honest.
You need to appear interesting to her and you should possess that specific thing that she needs at this moment. She also must be attracted to you at least to some degree. If all that clicks the success is guaranteed. Unfortunately, this is very often not the case. HOWEVER,
You still have good chances without it. Most woman can see things projected into future, i.e your "potential". So, if you don't have "the hook", if she recognizes the potential that you might have, this is as good.
don't waste your time too much, most women perform very quick and accurate screening if they are confident and have even the slightest idea about what they are after, so if she happens to be like that you will very soon find out what she thinks about your prospects
If you spot a door for you, however small it may be, go for it and just be yourself. If the girl is insecure, (often the case) then it's a completely different story .
Men usually put themselves into the position not to choose, but to be chosen. Therefore, they-women choose, not us. Now you're toying with the idea of being with her and only her, while she is probably used to think in terms of OPTIONS much more than you are. There is a big difference, it helps a lot if you are aware of that. I am not offering a recipe, because there is not one, and it is impossible to have one, I just offer some things to think about. If I knew her personally I might be more specific though.
OK, just for the sake of fun in this serious thread: if she shows you even the tiny door where you might sneak in, if she is younger than 25 ask her out and take her to a good noisy club where you will have to get very close to her to whisper into her ear so that she can hear you, and use the convenient situation for your dirty ends. If she is older than 30, take her to a good restaurant, have dinner and order some wine, if you are screened as a potential candidate she will happily drink and afterwards she will be able to blame it all on the wine.
If she is 25-30 ask her where she would like to go and let her decide.
But after all that, if and when you hook up
, you will enter into a new world called a relationship with some other rules and things to consider. Then you're done, and your wooing career is over