This is the worst possible mindset you can possibly have, man. You will have ZERO chance to be with her if you have this mentality.
You have to believe that YOU are the prize, that YOU are the catch, that she is lucky to have a great guy like YOU, that YOU are seeing if she is worth being with YOU, not the other way around.
Besides, if she is pretty, chances are she scares off a lot of guys, chances are, many men think like you. As a result, she is lonely and single, just waiting for some guy with the balls to step up and talk to her.
Well my whole life I've just been the most negative person about anything regarding myself.
Wow that's some mindset, not sure I can achieve going into that but will try my best, guess it's finally time for me to be confident.
Listen Groove Jase, he never lies.
Groove is the ladies man. Listen up Jason you mug and harden the fuck up.
He is, and I'll try, but being 'hard' in these regards isn't exactly me.
wise words from JG
listen to him Jase
I will then
Not sure whether to laugh or cry at this, so I'll settle for
Come on, how would you know whether she has a boyfriend if you don't even take the step of getting to know her and finding out? Don't be so scared. At the end of the day she's just a girl.
You're right, so yeah I will get to know her more and see what happens.
If I am that girl, I will smack you for this
(the bold part). She has a brain so let her do the thinking/feeling for herself.
But I bet she doesn't even do any thinking of me whatsoever, it's probably like as soon as the convo ended she forgot who I was again...
i can help you Certinfy... i can get to know her for you... i will even throw in a free test drive for free... i'll test drive both of them, it's no problem... no charge... this thread has been pulling on the heart strings a bit lately... that way, when i'm done i can let you know which one goes all right if you know what i mean... you dont have to do a thing, and your shy nature can remain as it is... johnny groove is starting to tell stories again, so i just wanna get this message out there before the trouble starts... i have a feeling he is gonna test a few scripts in here...
Well you know what, you do that mate and report back to me the pros and cons of the both of them.
I'm a bit confused about how this is a bad thing. You approached an attractive girl and had some good conversation with her.
The fact that it wasn't the same girl you originally wrote about doesn't really matter. It's always good to keep your options open and make many friendships.
As others have said, the mentality of "she's too good for me" has to go. There is no point in you thinking that way. Even if she happens to think that she's too good for you, who the fuck cares, just move on to the next girl. That's the nice thing about building a large network of friends and keeping your options open. You know the old saying, "if you throw enough mud at the wall, some of it will stick." You're bound to find someone if you just keep trying and get rid of that attitude.
Also, what is this thing about not being able to see them for 50 days? Are they putting you in solitary confinement?
Well maybe not a bad thing but a weird thing for me at least. Never really had a good confident conversation with a girl when I've wanted to be in a relationship with her whereas with hooking up I am a lot more confident as it's also not in school which helps (that life definitely over though).
Just it's not really wanting to be with someone, but more like wanting to be with one of them, I don't specifically want a girlfriend or anything, just want one of them, not even I can explain the logic behind that.
Just everyone has exams coming up these next 3 weeks and mine are at completely different times so I won't see her (wish I had at least one with her as then I could ask her if she wanted to go do something after). After that I'll probably spend the next week at RG and the 2 weeks after just at the tennis at Queens, Eastbourne and Wimbledon Qualies. Then may even call it a day and just go miss class for the remaining few weeks too and go to Wimbledon near every day. So yeah, I might not ever see her again if I choose that route.