You're going to have to force a situation where you two are together alone. I don't know, stalking her until you get the perfect situation may be a good option.
When this moment arrives, you just gotta take the initiative and start a conversation, no matter how painful and embarassing it may seem. It's going to be a lot more painful in the long run if you let it pass by.
After this first step it will be easier to build a "friendship" and then eventually ask her out. Be careful not to be too nice so she ends up seeing you as a friend only.
Well I tried to 'stalk' her today but I couldn't even find her in the first place.
How can I not be too nice though? I mean what do I have to do to not seem too nice?
if you ask me then honestly going around with her girls setting you up aint the way. from what i read about your personalitty id say you already blew it there
relax dude, their just...girls.maybe drink a couple of shots before approaching, will ease down all the braining
I guess you're right, really just need something to calm me down.
It doesn't have to be before the exams, just don't wait until it's over. Might be too long! If you two study in the same library that will create dozens of chances for you to approach her!
I only have 2 other chances to see her again now before my exams. If I don't see her then the next time I would see her would be mid June and even then I'm questioning whether I want to go back after my exams, so maybe never even see her again. We do study in the same library but I'm only in that library for around 20 minutes on Monday and about 2 hours on Wednesday while she's there.
Exactly what I was going to say
She may be shy as well Jase! And it would ultimately be less awkward.
Well I've heard she's quite a shy person but still I doubt she's as shy as me, but yeah I think that's the way I'll go about it next week if I see her.
Oh you can never be too nice; just don't be too boring
Which you Renato would never be
I guess boring would be talking about myself? I suppose just being myself and talking about her wouldn't be boring?
Good luck man
just walk up and talk to her, she's a human not a monster, ffs. Women love confidence, so just step over your imaginery boundaries and go for it. If you get rejected, who cares? There are about 3 more billion women in the world to choose from. I guarantee that eventually a girl you like will also like you. But nothing will happen if you put zero effort into it and can't even talk to her. It's like wishing to win a lottery without ever buying a ticket.
I don't see her as a monster but more of a princess, so it's hard as I don't feel I'm worthy enough to even talk to her. That's a nice way of putting the situation, just the last girl I told I liked at Uni didn't like me back and people took the piss and now she doesn't even talk to me, don't want the same happening here.
Stop hating Federer and things will go well automatically.
If supporting Federer for the rest of the year got this girl to be my girlfriend, I would do it.
Just don't be a white knight beta brah and all will be fine.
Okay I won't... I think.
Difficult situation. I'm shy too and unable to ask out girls in uni. I did it once, it was fucking awkward but it worked. (But I made so much eye contact before, a normal girl would have called the police).
Second option, meet her in party --> way more easy.
You joker. But I guess I'll follow your ways.
Don't go to the same parties she goes to, and none of my/our friends seem to either.
You are a hugue 'pagafantas'. I don't think there is a proper English translation for that term.
I think there's something you might want to think about before you make this such a big deal in your own head - what do you
really want out of this? And why do you think it's so difficult?
You might never know her thoughts, but you can work on understanding yours.
Question your own feelings/thoughts first. When you're clear about what you want with yourself, things have a tendency of falling into place and being much easier.
Also, since you have exams coming up, why don't you ask her to study together? There are few things that bring people closer together than a shared stressful experience, and exams definitely fit into that category.
Maybe ask her opinion about a problem that you genuinely don't understand from your studying material. If she gets it, ask her to explain it to you, if she doesn't, laugh about it together. Either way, you can ask her if she wants to study together some time.
Well I guess from getting to know things about her I just somehow realise she's just my perfect girl, she's beautiful, has the same background and what not but maybe it's more of just wanting to get to know her if anything, I don't even know because I've never felt so connected to someone before without knowing them.
Well the next time I'll probably see her is next week and then I would only have a few days more to study, so I guess it might be kind of weird to her leaving it so late. But yeah will definitely try asking her a problem or something and see if she can help me.
Thanks so much guys.