Is it really? Doesn't it look rather stupid to have to type r@pe even when you are trying to have a serious discussion about a tragic reality? Should women who have been r@ped also blank out the word?
Your point is valid, but again, the main way individuals use the word r@pe is not meant in the specific sense. It's trivialized and used as a pejorative. Which is why it has been blanked out, since the word wasn't originally blanked out. It became blanked out after I and many other complained.
Which is as it should be, I'd really be worried if it was used in relation with having fun.
True, but again, it's about how the word is used, the manner in which it's used. It demonizes r@pe. And by extension, demonizes r@pe victims. That is the problem. R@pe and r@pe victims-----are taken negatively. Instead of being taken as a severe trauma in an individuals' life. The word isn't taken seriously enough.
Would you please explain which part of a sentence like "The r@pe of Africa by slavery" is derogatory of Africans? Doesn't the use of the word actually help to convey the tragedy and appalling injustice of the slave trade? What's disrespectful of women in that sentence?
Maybe you are referring to some other form of usage of the word in US slang, like in "Nole r@ped Nadal" or something like that, which would indeed be a trivialization of r@ape. If that is the case, well, all I can say is that I don't think it is much used in that sense in other languages.
I said the use of the word r@pe CASUALLY. Obviously, there is a difference between using the word casually, and using the word when it would naturally apply. As for the word not being used in other languages, I know that is false, since on a different forum it was a French woman who started a thread describing this. And how she always heard it (real life) and saw it (virtual world). The word is not taken seriously, that's just what the deal is, tragically.
Trivializing r@pe is also disrespectful to men, since there are billions of men who are r@ped. Again, sexism comes in where r@pe is 100% attributed to femininity and therefore, denigrated.
Well, homophobia is a very real problem, but in the case of the word 'gay' there may be another explanation. For many people, including me and even most of the homosexuals I know, the words homosexual or lesbian refer to a very serious issue of human freedom and demand great respect, while the word 'gay' (meaning happy, merry, joyful, wild) unavoidably is often perceived in a much lighter tone.
Maybe in Spain, that's how it is, but that's not how it is in America. American gays and straight supporters do not use terms like homosexual. Homosexual and lesbian, um, first of all, LESBIANS ARE HOMOSEXUALS. That's the entire stupidity about it. Homosexual=sex with the same sex. We're more than sexual beings. Homosexual is a clinical term and dehumanizing.
Now, as for gay being perceived in a much lighter tone, I'm not exactly sure that's the case, again at least in America. No, in America, a lot of people think gay just isn't a "homosexual" word. They think it's just a word. And a word that has evolved into an all encompassing slang term. The problem is that the word has become an insult and a negative when there is ZERO history behind such a definition of the word gay. Gay either means carefree and light, or it means homosexual male. So for the word to have transformed into a negative is for ONE reason only-----because of the connection to homosexuality. Let's get real about that.
It's beginning to change, mostly because people are being checked when they do this. Because kids/teens aren't just being allowed to use gay as a pejorative. Because the connection with homophobia has gotten more ingrained in the psyches of people as there has been more visibility brought onto these concerns. But it's still a problem and it's not acceptable.
I mean, defenders of women's rights would surely have shot themselves in the foot if they had chosen to call themselves 'bimbos' or 'fannies' instead of feminists.
If you're saying gay people stole the term gay, that is false. Straight people called gay people gay, due to gay stereotypes. Gay men being feminine, flamboyant queens, you know
We TOOK the word for ourselves. We took control of the word from bigots who threw it onto us. Now, we have others acting as if they can take it back? No. It has too much history with our community. It's our word now. It can't be stolen from us. And it will not be used as a pejorative because gay is not an insult.
As a Spaniard, I have been very much supportive of the legalization of homosexual marriage in my country, which includes the right to pater(mater)nity.
Accepting gay rights and accepting the gay community aren't the same thing.
However, at the same time, the word gay for me mostly brings up images of drag queens in a parade (charade) and of seedy bars. Maybe you should consider changing your name. No sense protesting that others don't take you seriously if you don't respect yourselves.
If you don't respect yourselves? You really just threw that one out there? Let me tell you something, fucker. What a way to paint a wide brush over an entire group based on the actions of a few (which, BTW, first of all, most drag queens identify as STRAIGHT. Secondly, STRAIGHT people make up at least 50% of gay pride parades in general. Thirdly, there are STRAIGHT bars that are extremely seedy. NOTHING you have said cannot be unconnected to straight people, either, but I KNOW BETTER than to judge an entire community on the actions of a few) Maybe you should consider changing your mentality. It's not I who needs the changing. It's not my community with the problem. It's you.