Originally Posted by Mountaindewslave
i don't know Filo V maybe because people are not all sluts and have hearts and care to an extreme amount about a particular one person?
Sexual doesn't=slut. You can have a lot of sex, and not be a slut. And slut-shaming is wrong, also. There is nothing wrong in being sexually active as long as you're in control of yourself, your body and not harming anyone else in the process.
You can love a lot of people an extreme amount, and care for them deeply, and not enter in a relationship with them; I think we all have many people we love, yet have not dated nor plan to date in the future. I care deeply for my friends, I care deeply for my parents and my family...........but that doesn't mean I'm obligated or desire to be in an exclusive, monogamous relationship with them.
i'm not sure about you, but I definitely don't want my chips to be dipped in everyone else's salsa.
Good, neither do I. I have standards, but I also don't have inhibitions or restrictions. I have freedom. And I wouldn't trade that for anything.
emotionally it's nice to have that one person you're with and you can trust and you can enjoy life with.
Good point.............but you can have that without a relationship. You can have that with a friend or family member. A relationship is not necessary to have this.
see how happy you are if you trade for a different person all the time, because what you will end up with is no great bonds and just a lot of "ok" 'acquaintences'.
Personally, I am friends with several of the men I've been with sexually. I've had sex with several of my friends. I don't have sex with someone unless there is a spark. It's not just hit-it-and-quit-it, with me at least, and not with others either. You're not really trading for a different person because you don't have a commitment. There is no sole "person", there are no strings attached. It's just 2 or more people have a great time and sharing great moments together. And for me, those moments, yeah they may be sexually, but there is an emotional and affectional connection as well. That's what makes it meaningful to me.
in a practical way your opinion of hate for monogamous relationships doesn't even make sense, because if your belief was adopted commonly the # of diseases would spread rapidly if everyone slept and got with different people throughout life again and again. people settling down with one another is healthy.
Not only are there more sexually active individuals without diseases than there are those who do have an STD, but there are people in relationships who have/get an STD, either when their partner cheats and brings an STD home, or if they/their partner had an STD previous to entering this relationship without their knowledge. The risk factor is higher in getting an STD if you're sexually active and not in a relationship, but it's certainly not a definite that one will
get an STD by being sexually active and single. Ultimately, safe sex practices are safe sex practices, regardless if your in a relationship or single, and if you adhere to these practices, you most likely will not get an STD. I've been with over 50 men and never had an STD, so it can and quite frankly, should, be done.
so both because of the value of a special bond and to some degree medical reasons, monogamous relationships rock and are totally good for the world
Do what makes you happy, we're all entitled to our opinions