With all due respect Francis, you don't have the right to bash (because that's what you're doing) people for having choices different from yours.
I'm not bashing the choices of others, because I know, if a person is happier in an exclusive, committed, monogamous relationship than the other possible alternatives, that's their life and their choice. But that doesn't mean I don't think it's disgusting for me, because it is disgusting for me. It does repulse me, and has basically since I was a pre-teen. It's a personal opinion and not meant as an attack on others, but I will also not lie and say that yeah, I think people are making a mistake and wasting their life by getting in a relationship. But I can't make people see things the way I do.
Have you ever been in a committed relationship? (a really committed one, not someone you had slept with a couple of times) if you haven't then how can you tell they are bad? you cannot judge by what you see in others, you have to live it and if it doesn't fit you then ok, move on and have tons of meaningless hookups.
No.................because literally the idea has disgusted me since I was 13. I've ALWAYS said, since little, I will never be in a relationship, I hate the idea of it, I hate the concept of it, and it's not for me. I've consistently said this throughout my life and it's something I've asked myself, why, exactly do I feel this way? It's not a conscious choice I've made, it's just a natural inclination.
I had a fair share of boyfriends and hookups when I was younger and those felt ok at the time, I sow my wild oats and know both sides of the coin, I chose the one that I thought it was best for me.
Great for you, glad you're happy, do what is good for you. That's life.
To you the concept of love is so "bullshit" because you're not even able to love yourself completely besides your looks, so you cannot understand how people can love others, it's a foreign concept to you.
The concept of love isn't bullshit to me. Love exists. I love love and I love to be loved. I love a lot of people, I have people in my life who I care for deeply and certain passions that are very important to me. I'm not just in love with myself, although yes, I do love myself, and that shouldn't be an issue or derided. We all should be in love with ourselves, and love ourselves first and foremost, and put ourselves above anyone else. Me, myself, and I, that's all you have in this world at the end of the day because, ultimately, your body is your body, your life is your life, and you only have one. Is that me being stuck up and conceited? Not really, just brutally honest. If you have a heart-attack, being in love with someone ain't gonna fix your heart. If you get in a car accident going to work, being in a relationship won't heal your injuries any quicker. That's just how it is.
I love myself beyond my looks. I'm thoughtful, I'm courteous. I give back to my community and realize there is a bigger picture in the world outside of me and my life. But are my looks and my appearance in general my #1 priority? Yes. Having that as a priority of mine, being attractive and having an appearance that gives me what I want, doesn't mean I don't have other facets to my personality as well. We all have certain segments to our being that are most central to who we are as individuals as a whole, and for me, that just happens to be my appearance. Being looks-centric isn't something that should be derided or criticized.
Marriage is an option, it gives you many legal benefits in the long run if you share space with someone
Marrying for legal benefits=not a real relationship, in my eyes. That is NOT a reason to marry someone whatsoever, a couple with true love for one another doesn't feel a need to slap the title of marriage on their relationship and don't need to have government define and validate their relationship. And why people would seek increased government intrusion in their lives intentionally, I have no idea.
At the end of the day, it's a matter of choice and no one should feel pressured to stay single, have a relationship or get married, you do what makes you happy.
I agree. No matter my opinion, I can't force an adult human being to do something against their will, anyway. Their life, their choices.