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View Poll Results: Is it a burden?
No way, im not a narcisist, im always happy if a guy likes me! 1 7.69%
Yes, a real burden, just ruins the friendship a lot of the time 10 76.92%
No guy friend has ever told me that 2 15.38%
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The poll results suggest only two people are actually being honest. The other 8 are lying scum.

Honesty reduces my RAGE - I dislike those two people.

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The poll results suggest only two people are actually being honest. The other 8 are lying scum.

Honesty reduces my RAGE - I dislike those two people.
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Hilarious contributions left and right in this thread for sure, but I for one will give my 2 cents seriously.

This is what I want to say, 2003:
I don't think you are asking the right question. Of course the ladies will feel awkward and weird if someone they get confessed to by someone they consider a friend.
The question you SHOULD be asking yourself is: are the feelings you have for the girl so strong that you cannot enjoy spending time with her as only a friend any longer? Because if that is the case, then sadly your friendship is already ruined (in the way that it will never be the same again, that is). And you will only torment yourself by keeping that stuff a secret for too long.

Yes, I have fallen in love with a female friend. I confessed, fully aware that she might not feel the same (not 100% sure though since there were certain signs). Eventually I got turned down.
Today we are friends again. Not as close as we once were (and I don't think we ever will be), but I still think it was worth confessing. How so, you ask? Because acting like I wasn't in love with her would have been too painful and, in the end, wouldn't have been fair towards her either since I was only pretending.

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Ive had that plenty of times, it wasnt great and it wasnt comfortable at all, i mean the guy wanted to have sex with me, and he was one of my bestest friends
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when I was in high school I had a male friend who said he liked me. I was just starting to be a bit interested in this other guy, so I told my friend I wasn't really feeling it and just wanted to stay friends. He said okay and he never acted any differently with me. We are still friends now, 20 years on. He never lost interest in being my friend and was always there for me. Even when that boyfriend left me and I was crushed, my male friend was very supportive and never tried to "move in" on me in a weak moment or anything like that.

It's a great feeling to know you can trust someone completely; you can trust them with your life. They don't desert you and they don't take advantage. Guys seem to understand this in guy/guy friendships: you see those movies with two guys in some war zone or burning building. No matter how bad it is, when you turn around... the other person is there; they have your back. They will never sell the other person out or betray them. When girls look for this kind of loyalty from men (either in friendship or marriage), the guys just look totally puzzled, like we are not even the same species.

Everybody just wants someone they can trust who won't disrespect them or sell them out (and of course you would do the same for them). I don't know why it's so hard to understand.

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Ive had that plenty of times, it wasnt great and it wasnt comfortable at all, i mean the guy wanted to have sex with me, and he was one of my bestest friends
So much for BFF

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So much for BFF
Why would i have sex with a guy i considered to be like a brother more than just a friend, i mean if i had sex with a guy who is considered to be a brother to me the sex will feel awkward and just plain wrong really
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At first I was unsure whether this was sarcasm or not. 2003 is a decent chap though so I'll go with "not". Anyways I might be an okay guy and I have lots of female friends but no girlfriend at the moment. I tend to end up in the friend zone a lot. Which btw is not something I'm bummed out about at all. I really like it there 99% of the time.

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