My dear, I always take your opinion into consideration,even on the one topic you are completely wrong about (Nole). You're an old soul.
Well, thank you, I guess.
(Not sure I want to be an old soul, though.
) Oh, and one thing you should know: even as a "Nole tard" I can be far more objective when it comes to him than you can.
But in this case, it looks like you have only the experience and view point of a kid. When you get into parenting, you got so many factors in the mix right. If good values are at the core, I have no problem with punishment. He did not beat her, and I still feel that this is not humiliation. I think posting the video on her wall is actually great parenting, because it makes the other kids who might have agreed with her think a bit about it.
But are you a parent? I guess it's normal that you would assume I only have the point of view of the kid, but I beg to differ. I have a 15 year old sister, we're 6 years apart, and she's is pretty much the most important person in my life and I look at her not only as a sister, but also a bit as a mother. It has always been like that, and although I am aware that it does not qualify me as a near-mom (not even close), it does give me a different perspective.
How is this not humiliating for her?
Come on, you have been a teenager too! Can you imagine how embarassed she must feel when going to school knowing that all her friends and colleagues have watched that piece of art?
Getting rid of the computer is also a great move. You might disagree with how he did it, but understand that the guy is an American. Some people over there think carrying guns into University classes and bars is a constitutional right. Considering he did not shoot her but used it to take the computer away for good, destroying any hope of future negotiation to get it back, is a good message.
While I agree that getting rid of the computer is indeed a great move, the method couldn't be worse. I couldn't care less if he is american, chinese or lives in antarctica, you do not stop your daughter from using the computer by shooting it. It ridiculous in so many levels that I don't even know how to describe it!
I think many parents who are unable to say no should look at this. A good chunk are not parenting one bit. You're a parent not your kids' best friend.
But here is the thing, does he know how to say no? If he did, he wouldn't have to shoot the computer. Just punishing her and forbiding her to use it should have been enough.
I disagree about that. And you last paragraph.
You're still one of the best posters around. Too bad about your flaw.
that's sweet, thanks.