A new survey has found more than half of women feel so overweight they avoid having sex with their partners, according to a recent story in the Daily Mail, 'Not Tonight, Dear, I'm Feeling Too Fat.'
Yes, you read that right. The lack of confidence that accompanies perceived imperfections in appearance is causing more than 50 per cent of women to deny themselves one of the great pleasures in life.
The survey quoted by writer James Tozer, Sex in the Nation, polled 4,000 people and found that 29 per cent of women listed feeling fat as a reason for avoiding sex. Another 23 per cent blamed embarrassment about their 'wobbly bits' for a slow sex life.
"Experts said the poll showed many women were suffering from a combination of unrealistic expectations about their appearance and increasingly busy lives, and warned relationships were inevitably suffering as a result," Tozer writes.
Of the women surveyed, 13 per cent also reported having sex with the lights off because they feel ashamed of their bodies, and 10 per cent said that they avoid trying new things in the bedroom because they worry about how they might look.
Unsurprisingly, only eight per cent of the men surveyed responded that concerns about their appearance would prevent them from pursuing sex with a partner.
Of course, as many of us already know, sex isn't really the time to keep up appearances. Despite television and film images of alluring women with bedroom eyes and perfectly tousled hair, by the end of it most of us look like we were caught outside in a rainstorm without our clothes on and then forced to dry off using a wind machine.
Women feel pressure to live up to an unrealistic vision of perfection, psychosexual specialist and Oxford lecturer Catherine Hood says in the article. To rediscover confidence in the bedroom, she suggests women "wear a sexy camisole top rather than being naked."
Sex should make women feel sexier, more desired and more confident, no matter their size. Women who are already feeling bad about their bodies inflict a sort of self-punishment by preventing themselves from feeling desired, because they feel undesirable. For now, the only comfort offered by the survey is the knowledge that if you're feeling unsexy because of your weight or how you perceive your body, you're not alone by far.
What a pointless fear with such simple solutions.
a) Lose weight and get more fit
b) Gain self confidence to be okay with your body
It is pathetic fears like this which keep women from reaching their intellectual potential.
Only good thing is I asume this is more the case for older or American women and therefore wont affect most men.