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post #16 of 35 (permalink) Old 11-18-2011, 12:34 AM
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I've been in a lot of beneficial relationships that have lasted a long time. And am glad to say I still am.
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This is the way it works for me. My BF is clearly an 'opposite' when it comes to our characters, but it's our common interests, morals, and general feeling about 'what truly matters in life' that has kept us going for over ten years now.
the power of emotional connection. this is what truly connects. the core of each relationship.
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the power of emotional connection. this is what truly connects. the core of each relationship.

Indeed. I'd like to just elaborate a bit further on this.

You tell your BF/GF something funny/stupid/embarrassing you've done/happened to you that day (which I think happens to most of us most of the times), and the first reaction from said BF/GF is something like -

Next stage - mutual

Thereafter -

And finally - both together:

The whole point of true emotional connection is being able to reach that final stage over-and-over again.

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You need superficial differences to add spice & fundamental similarities to avoid resenting each other in the long run. Superficial attributes in this context are things such as political outlook, cultural background, race, nationality, interests, & hobbies. These can be as different as you want. Fundamental attributes include need for pleasure (sex, drugs, sleep, food, etc.), ambition in the broadest sense, degree of openness & honesty, level of individuality, & attitudes to others' faults. Big differences in any of those and the relationship is doomed in the long term.
Agree. I'd bet that most couples who see themselves as "opposites" actually share most of the fundamental attributes as stated. Either that or they're just insecure people who are stuck in an unhappy relationship because they're worried they can't do any better .

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you need to have a balanced relationship, take things slow, dont rush into a relationship, try to get comfortable and get to know a person more, the more you feel right with that person most likely you will get into a deeper relationship, if the person wants to get married to you after less than a year, then thats a problem, you dont want to get married right away, it ruins the mood of the relationship and it puts pressure on you and your partner, so jus take things slow and moderate, its better that way, no one will have a perfect relationship everyone will have their flaws, just be sure to stay well connected and love thyself and your partner
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hmm... yes... hmmm where have i heard that before...

oh yes... Chapter 5, paragraph 22 of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus...

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Indeed. I'd like to just elaborate a bit further on this.

You tell your BF/GF something funny/stupid/embarrassing you've done/happened to you that day (which I think happens to most of us most of the times), and the first reaction from said BF/GF is something like -

Next stage - mutual

Thereafter -

And finally - both together:

The whole point of true emotional connection is being able to reach that final stage over-and-over again.
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Not necessarily, but a female companion should be roughly your intellectual equal, or the relationship will fail.
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Not necessarily, but a female companion should be roughly your intellectual equal, or the relationship will fail.
Agreed and that's where it hurts, hard to find someone pretty, intellectualw who shares your opinions etc ... and single ...
Not to mention intellectual females don't go out.
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I've only ever been in one serious relationship that lasted 8 years - we had a lot in common, but were also close to beating the shit out of each other towards the end. I still voted yes.
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