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Disgusting----keep it in the bedroom! 2 14.29%
It's fine in moderation, within reason. 9 64.29%
Don't care either way. 2 14.29%
It's a beautiful expression of affection. 0 0%
It's sexy if the people kissing are hot!!! 1 7.14%
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PDA. Yea or Nay?

Kissing. It's something that everyone, at least once in their lives, have experienced. Whether it's an innocent peck by a father on the forehand of his child, or a makeout session on the dancefloor of a nightclub, having kissed/been kissed is one of those rare commonalities all human beings share.

However, when kissing between two individuals occurs in public, quite often there is backlash against those who engage in it, and negativity surrounding the idea of it. Usually feelings of disgust or a violation of social decency.

Personally, I couldn't care less about PDA, I don't care if two people fuck in public. It's not about me or whether I enjoy or hate seeing 2 people kiss, it's about those two people, who feel a connection, showing affection towards one another. With that said, I realize there is a time and place for everything, and recognize there are certain lines one simply shouldn't cross.

So, with all of this said, everyone............what are your thoughts on PDA? It doesn't have to be just kissing...........every and all forms of PDA. Let's see where MTF stands on this subject.
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Don't care.

And those that do are merely jealous that they don't have anyone to smooch on in public.

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I agree to a certain extent, Jonathan. I do think for some people, it's jealousy. I think that for a lot of people, they're just sexually repressed and extremely emotionally guarded, and insecure, so they recoil at natural signs of emotion and affection between two people.
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The problem I have with the issue of PDA isn't the PDA itself, but the inconsistency. What do I mean? Read this story and you'll see what I mean:
latimesblogs.latimes.com/gossip/2011/09/leisha-hailey-southwest-airlines-lesbian-kiss-girlfriend.html
latimesblogs.latimes.com/gossip/2011/09/leisha-hailey-southwest-kissing-the-l-word.html

Stories like this are common. Whether it be two girls, two guys, two people considered unattractive, there is NO CONSISTENCY when it comes to PDA. Some couples are allowed to get away with anything. Including hands in each others' pants, making out publicly and completely falling all over each other while walking. Yet, if 2 guys did the same exact thing, they're libel to get the shit kicked out of them in many places.

That is where I have a problem with PDA. A lot of people seem to have this "it's OK, as long as the people doing it I'm attracted to/are attractive." People who say they don't like it only seem to get in arms over it when 2 people they aren't into, do it. Otherwise they're silent. I've seen couples making out while they having a baby with them or a child, and I don't see people going out of their way to make a dramatic issue of it. It's hypocritical at the very least, and plain bigoted in it's core. Either it is or it isn't OK to do PDA, bottom line. But to act like some people are making a spectacle while others, it's oh whatever, who cares..............is 100% bullshit.
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don't generally mind but it can make the guy look like a real pathetic whipped piece of shit a lot of the time and in such instances I am filled with pity, revulsion and disgust.
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I saw more PDA in Italy in 1 month than I have seen in 20 years in America.

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It doesn't bother me. Somewhat declasse, however.

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A lot of people seem to have this "it's OK, as long as the people doing it I'm attracted to/are attractive."
So? People have much the same attitude to anything. Take graffiti. If it's Banksy, everybody loves it. If it's tagging, then everybody hates it.

That's life. People want to look at attractive things and avoid looking at unattractive things.

I mean, if there was some sort of law against unattractive people making out that didn't apply to attractive people then I'd agree you have a point. But if your problem is that people enjoy looking at some people and not at others... well, you can't change that.

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No, it can't be changed. That also doesn't make it acceptable. It's still inconsistent. It's still fundamentally discriminatory to have a different standard for one person/couple in comparison to another person/couple.
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People have aesthetic preferences. If I see two fat old guys going at it on the train then I'm going to find that pretty gross and not want to watch. If I see two hot young girls making doing the same then I'm going to be less revolted.

I'm sure you yourself find two attractive people going at it more pleasant to watch than two ugly people. That's just the way people are constructed. I don't think it's discriminatory unless you try and restrict the rights of one group in favour of the other.
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I honestly couldn't care less.
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People have aesthetic preferences. If I see two fat old guys going at it on the train then I'm going to find that pretty gross and not want to watch. If I see two hot young girls making doing the same then I'm going to be less revolted.

I'm sure you yourself find two attractive people going at it more pleasant to watch than two ugly people. That's just the way people are constructed. I don't think it's discriminatory unless you try and restrict the rights of one group in favour of the other.
Of course, we all have our preferences. I'm not going to pretend I'd find it pleasant to see two fat ugly dudes making out. I wouldn't. The thing is, though, I'm not going to even allow that situation concern me to the point where I'd feel revolted. I'd block it out if I wasn't liking what I was potentially in line to see. That's where the big issue is. It's like some people can't help themselves, and must let it be known what they "want" to see or don't want to see. And go out of their way to make an issue, make comments, call management/security in public building, etc. They don't let it go and ignore it, they turn it into an issue. In many cases, a persons' radar is more focused on the people they find unappealing, and that's a reality.

Yeah, obviously, people engaging in PDA which we individually find attractive, for whatever reason, will not create the same negative reaction within ourselves. But that doesn't mean that one should complain or embarrass those we aren't into on a visual level. If a person doesn't react when two women they find hot are engaging in PDA, then that person should have the respect to not react if 2 fat old dudes make out. Just keep it moving. Like you said, it's restricting the right for one group to do the same another group is allowed to that is discriminatory.
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Re: PDA. Yea or Nay?

many ways to see this

i dont mind a peck on the cheek with the wife if we are outside (when we were younger we would sneak around a hidden corner and have a full on kiss and grope)

but i wouldn't go all crazy with her in a public place

i try to look away when other people are kissing in public

around these parts gays are shunned- but if i saw 2 men or even women kissing i'd be disgusted- i dont mind how people live their lives but homosexuality is wrong in my opinion (i dont mind what people do in their own time in their own homes)

just my honest opinion- PDAs should be cut down

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Oh yeah this thread. I really don't have much else to add to what I already have, I just don't really see the issue. I also think even if you're religious or have moral principles that lead you to having an anti-gay position, you shouldn't be affected by 2 guys or gals kissing. It's a kiss. All of it is just kissing. Some people treat kissing like it's sex, when clearly it isn't.
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and i appologise if anyone is offended- I love homosexuals because i feel like they have to go through so much BS from haters- they deserve more of a break than anyone else- especially since they are the most open and kindest people usually

i just- wouldn't be comfortable having dinner at a restaurant with the wife (and future) kids and seeing 2 men/women overly PDA

i hope i dont come across as a bigot- i promise i am not- i would never want anyone to suffer any type of hate especially if its something they had no control over in the first place

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Speaking as a gay I appreciate the kind and seemingly very genuine praises for the people in our community, but with that said the whole "I disagree with homosexuality, it makes me disgusted" or "I'm against gay PDA because 2 men/women make me uncomfortable" are bullshit excuses based on bullshit, and the whole "it's gross" crap is the only reason homophobia actually exists. That isn't a defendable position. And I could explain why but I'm not going to derail the thread.

Everyone should read up on the term PROJECTIVE DISGUST. Type that into your search engines and you'll learn a lot revolving around this and other relatable issues.
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