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University Friends, are they for life?

I've started University in September last year, and I've met a lot of nice people in my halls etc. There a group of about 12 of us who hang out, go out clubbing with each other etc. There are 1 or 2 people who I have become really good friends with, who I would call my "best mates" here at Uni. But sometimes I feel like I have two different lives, my friends at home who I have known for years and years, and then suddenly the same kind of friendships I have with them are here with a couple people and I've only been here 6 or 7 months, and they have their own total life at home where they obviously prefer to be, with their mates theyve known for long times too. Obviously I can't mix them both as they all live in different parts of the country, but do friends at University really last after it finishes?

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Re: University Friends, are they for life?

in my experience, some do some don't.

It's like any friendships. They change as you get older. I lost touch with most of my school friends pretty quickly. Kept a few close friendships which I still have. With uni, I lost touch with a few people I was close to, but the majority I've stayed in touch with and meet up with on a semi regular basis still.

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in my experience, some do some don't.

It's like any friendships. They change as you get older. I lost touch with most of my school friends pretty quickly. Kept a few close friendships which I still have. With uni, I lost touch with a few people I was close to, but the majority I've stayed in touch with and meet up with on a semi regular basis still.
So you've finished Uni now?

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Re: University Friends, are they for life?

yup - twice.

I'm more in touch with people from course number 2 but that's also because a few of them are more local to me, so easier to meet up with.

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yup - twice.

I'm more in touch with people from course number 2 but that's also because a few of them are more local to me, so easier to meet up with.
Yeah that's cool. There are just one or two people I want to stay in contact with after Uni. I don't know why I'm even thinking about this, I'm still only in my first year, but Uni is a very different and difficult environment, especially making friends.

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Re: University Friends, are they for life?

By the end of uni you might be friends with completely different people anyway. 3 years is a long time and the first few months are pretty frantic. Just enjoy it!

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Re: University Friends, are they for life?

True, but I doubt it will be with completely different people. Firstly because I like everyone who I'm with at the moment, I wouldn't want to be with another group of people.

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in my experience, some do some don't.

It's like any friendships. They change as you get older. I lost touch with most of my school friends pretty quickly. Kept a few close friendships which I still have. With uni, I lost touch with a few people I was close to, but the majority I've stayed in touch with and meet up with on a semi regular basis still.
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I've gradually lost contact with many of the people with whom I interacted in college. However, the close friends I gained during that time remain important to me to this day; I still consider them to be good friends.

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Re: University Friends, are they for life?

Yeah, I can envision that to happen. Some people here, if I see them around the campus or in town I'd say hello, you alright ? ,and just keep walking. However there are a couple who I'd stop and chat too.

Fensler - are they ones you kept in contact with and consider "good friends" living distances away from you?

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Re: University Friends, are they for life?

I have good friends that don't even live in the same country now.

A good friend is one that you don't see for 6 months then within about 10 seconds it's like you've never been apart.

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I have good friends that don't even live in the same country now.

A good friend is one that you don't see for 6 months then within about 10 seconds it's like you've never been apart.

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Fensler - are they ones you kept in contact with and consider "good friends" living distances away from you?
Yes. They live many hours away. We don't meet in person very often, especially now that we each have more responsibilities compared to our college days. However, we have met up occasionally, and the internet enables greater interaction beyond that.

Overall though, I have actually communicated more frequently with people whom I first met when I was in elementary and middle school - generally more so than my friends from college.

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A good friend is one that you don't see for 6 months then within about 10 seconds it's like you've never been apart.
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Re: University Friends, are they for life?

Not really, I get on great with all the people at uni but wouldn't call them close friends.

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Re: University Friends, are they for life?

Hey, I'm in the same boat as you. Just started uni and have already met some fantastic people. But I think I'll always be closer to my school friends just because I've known them from like the age of 5 and I'm just so comfortable around them, conversation flows easily, we all know each other extremely well, trust has been established. Even if we're scattered all around the country we meet up and everything is just like before.

I haven't really experienced much of uni yet, so maybe it'll be like that with my "uni" group in the future.
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Re: University Friends, are they for life?

It depends. You may develop strong friendships with students you meet later. You may have different friends next semester. I developed strong friendships with a few students. We met in the final years of study.
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