I don't get all this subtext stuff. If I say I miss someone it just means I miss them??
If you believe everything that is said to you has some hidden meaning you'd just go mad.
I think its just due to me getting played a few times in high school and I try to find some hidden meaning in some things that are just straight up.
Something to work on, for sure.
For every strange habit someone has in regards to relationships, there is a crazy ex behind it.
Absolutely, goes both freaking ways.
We are both probably victims of the types we have encountered...
Yep, we're very similar, you and me, in more ways than I originally thought
YES, and thanks for reminding us of the things that are really important in life!
To answer the question - What to say when a girl says she "misses you":
It depends on what YOU feel. If you don't miss her, but she's a friend you don't want to lose? "Awwww" is good enough. Even if you don't miss her specifically, a response like "Yeah, we had fun over the summer" should work fine, or reminiscing about some time that you hung out and enjoyed yourself.
If you don't miss her and you don't want to talk to her, well then, say nothing or tell the truth (tactfully). You could even tell the truth and say "I don't know what to say."
If you miss her, well then you know what to say.
Like partygirl said, it's not like there's a formula, you just go with how you feel in that moment about what she's said and whether or not you care about her (as a friend or more).
Now this is some good advice, thanks much
I thought you were controlling the chronic, now that you're playing tennis. This post concerns me. Go play more tennis and send over more videos!
I told Mary Jane I had to break up with her. But she is like the crazy, sex obsessed ex that I know I need to leave alone but just can't seem to.
I've been cheating on her for Tennis
That would be my first question- how/why is this a struggle?
Cause it happens all the time and I dunno what to do about it. To be honest, I wasn't really feelin' any of these girls in terms of sex, but at the same time, didn't want to hurt them and keep the friendship going.
It's hard out here for a......guy that knows lots of girls
No, I don't feel ya homie. If you don't miss someone, don't respond. You're not under any obligation to take care of another person's emotional needs.
I hadn't considered that option.
You are habitually attracted to wack-a-doos. This above nonsense is no shocker. Pick a nice girl next time, just for kicks.
A nice girl? Do I have to?
Any girl who asks you a question only to put you on blast afterward is a dick. Don't talk to this one again without some immediate, on the spot payoff.
Dead giveaway that you're not that interested, but still not your problem.
I'm beginning to favor the awwwww response, it gives me some leeway either way.
This is of little consequences, as long as you don't lie to her. Lies cause more bullshit.
"I miss you."
Nothing in it, really.
So you're telling me I just need to get used to breaking hearts
Originally Posted by dunlopkickserve
There is only one correct answer:
I missed you too.
That is the only answer she is looking for and you have to tell her what she wants to hear if you like her. Tough luck bro. I hate when girls do that but they want to know that you think of them and all that stuff and by not saying I missed you too then you are almost rejecting them.
I think the problem was that all 3 of the girls I referenced in the opening post, I only had marginal attraction for and they liked me much more than I them
If one of the girls I REALLY liked told me she missed me, that's basically my green light to go in, and go hard.
depends on my end goal. If I want her, I missed you too, gotta play that straight up. If I want to keep her on the dangle course you do, I'm very missable. Nothing a chick who wants you hates more than not getting the answer she wants so make her work for it. And if i dont care then its do I know you?
I'm very missable is a fucking awesome response, thanks dude
That works too
Originally Posted by Henry Chinaski
If an ex says it to you, best advice I can give is ignore it and get the fuck out of there as soon as you can.
Even if she's drop dead gorgeous and all I wanna do is get in and get out?
Not that that is my M.O., I'm more of a romantic, but for reference