Okay here goes;
Most of my teenage and adult life I have had very little luck with the ladies unfortunately. But throughout it all the last many years there has been someone very special in my life who I always talked to, we'd never met however (she lives in a different country) and you could not imagine how close we became.
You need to work on ways to improve your chances with the ladies and not leave it to fate if it doesn't favor you. That internet stuff is more common than what you think.
I know so many people would mock the credibility of an internet friendship, but it's true, we talked for hours and hours almost every day for about 4-7 years. Even though she wasn't single for a lot of that time, there was always this feeling of great hope when we talked, and I don't believe it was just in my head, as if you know "I wish guys/girls around here were like you" etc and just a very deep connection, much deeper than I could ever illustrate here as she made read this site and I don't want to be declearing too many personal things we have said.
Something similar to you happened to me years ago and she ended up being a fake. After that i found a perfect one but couldn't work because of the distance. Not recommended...
Stop taking women personally and seriously
It's for your own health and good...don't try to be nice at all costs. Are you religious?
Anyway over the last few years I had thought so much about going over and visiting her, and finally last month I did it, after so much anticipation we met in January 2010. It was absolutely amazing the entire time I was with her, the first few days we were so warm to each other, did everything together and I have zero regrets, but as time went on it just became obvious that she just did not feel the same way I did about her..
This is default with girls(especially hot ones). Just think...you are a guy that has been desperate, sorry to say it like that. And she is a woman who has no problems getting any guy she wants for anything she wants. So you cannot expect her to think like you.
It's just so difficult to get past it, not only did I build this up in my head but my life had got so unsatisfying to me here that I was pinging all my hopes on this girl basically, was going to move overseas etc if if all worked out and yeah..I mean I just have to work on things in my life here and try and make them better, and It looks like I still have her as a friend so thats a plus (although it's still weird but were working through it).
You see that's a big problem...why are you supposed to work hard or sacrifice yourself for women when they wouldn't lift a finger for you?
The last part is correct, work on yourself. You should be thinking about nothing else for now
. To be honest any guy with a decent income and say a car could get girls even with a horseshit face. So that tells me that you should just put the focus on work, maybe go to a gym and a clothes store.(yes i know this is hideous douchebaggery...but unfortunately that's what average girls love). I personally send most of these girls to fuck off
It's just so sad, it's hard to get motivated for anything anymore..everything I built up so much is crushed and I came back feeling like I had little to live for. I lost a fair few close friends before I left and i'm trying to mend those fences now and focus on some of the few good friends I do have, but I find it so hard to meet women..even when I go out clubbing they wont dance with me and it's just so hard to keep their attention..the few relationships I have had have never lasted longer than a few weeks (that was back in school, so only even saw them a few times)..I just find it impossible..the girls always say "you'll find someone perfect for you one day"..but it's just so patronising..those are the women who dismissed me as an option so it's like hearing someone say "you weren't good enough for me but someone else will take ya"..it just sucks so much.
That absolutely sucks...it's these same type of girls that want to be with you after they get tired of everyone else. Put female friends at their place when they say that sort of thing and never get attached.
What advice do ya'll have to get past this? I know there will probably be not a day in my life I won't think about her till I die..I think about her all the time and have for so long now..I do have hobbies and sports I play (only watch tennis, but play other sports) and I am looking forward to getting back into these..it's hard because I used her as motivation/inspiration too.
Nothing a few books won't solve. I for myself learned to never give a shit about these things anymore. Hobbies and sports are a great thing, time is for yourself
not for careless/hypocrite girls. Oh yeah you can get over the initial period of a heartbreak with masturbation/sex well doh. Just make sure you reject her a few times for another friend
Listen don't force things, always go casual. Chill and always relax
Never take them personally because they always out there for their own benefit...So benefit yourself bro. Do such things as hiking and mountain bike(ask CD the guy is master).
Also go to the castle if things are wrong...good people there
good luck old sport