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He keeps LYING to me!!!!! (need advice)

Ok, this is about a guy I met two Saturdays ago. Let's call him Mr. C. I met him at a charity benefit, and we hit it off. He seemed to be into me, asked for my number and asked if we could get together that next weekend. We made plans to go out on a group date Friday and he seemed really excited about it. Yeah, to me and my friend, he seemed to like me. I'm taking interpersonal communication and there was a lot of non-verbal communication indicative of attraction on his part He sat down at my table and introdcued himself to me, he asked for my number, he texted me first, he called me first. That's what guys do who like you, right?

He's from a town about 45 minutes away so he asked me to text him who was going because he might know them. I told him this girl, let's call her Miss L, was going. Almost immediately, he texted me back, saying he couldn't go, his "adoptive" parents reminded him of something he had planned for the weekend. So I was kinda upset because I felt like he blew me off with a BS excuse Turns out, he had gotten Miss L's phone number at the benefit where I met him from her aunt, so I guess he didn't want to be in the same place as both of us at the same time.

Well, he calls me tonight and tells me he was at this seafood festival this weekend. His "parents" (old family friends who he's known almost all his life) invited him because the wife invited this girl who she says likes him and she wanted them to get together and talk there. He says Miss L blew him off and was cold to him, saying things were awkward, asking him, "I thought you liked Danielle, and she's my friend." (I wouldn't say we're friends. Acquaintances, but that's moot). He says she had been talking about him to all these people, about how excited and nervous she was.

Well, our mutual friend talks to Miss L and Miss L says she is not interested in him nor was she ever, he's lying to me and he was grabbing on this married woman at the festival (which explains why this man wanted to beat him up. He says he had no idea why the man was mad at him. ). He says he had been drinking and not drunk, which might explain his behavior but definitely does not excuse it in MY book.

I'm leaving some stuff out, but their stories are 100% different form each other. I'm not trying to date him, at least not anymore I just want to hang out and get to know him. I know you can't change a man and I don't want to and I know I can't stop him from telling me what he thinks I want to hear, but I don't want him to think he can tell me just anything and I'll believe it. I am usually a pretty gullible person, so I am taking everything he says now with a grain of salt.

I guess I have no questions to ask. I might have answered them all myself. I just don't have a lot of experience with guys, at least not with guys this hot who seem like womanizers and keep lying to cover their lies. Can you guys just give me advice about how to handle this. I feel like he's playing me for a fool. As my friend said, "How can someone we've known for only one week cause so much drama in out lives?"

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Ok, this is about a guy I met two Saturdays ago. Let's call him Mr. C. I met him at a charity benefit, and we hit it off. He seemed to be into me, asked for my number and asked if we could get together that next weekend. We made plans to go out on a group date Friday and he seemed really excited about it. Yeah, to me and my friend, he seemed to like me. I'm taking interpersonal communication and there was a lot of non-verbal communication indicative of attraction on his part He sat down at my table and introdcued himself to me, he asked for my number, he texted me first, he called me first. That's what guys do who like you, right?

He's from a town about 45 minutes away so he asked me to text him who was going because he might know them. I told him this girl, let's call her Miss L, was going. Almost immediately, he texted me back, saying he couldn't go, his "adoptive" parents reminded him of something he had planned for the weekend. So I was kinda upset because I felt like he blew me off with a BS excuse Turns out, he had gotten Miss L's phone number at the benefit where I met him from her aunt, so I guess he didn't want to be in the same place as both of us at the same time.

Well, he calls me tonight and tells me he was at this seafood festival this weekend. His "parents" (old family friends who he's known almost all his life) invited him because the wife invited this girl who she says likes him and she wanted them to get together and talk there. He says Miss L blew him off and was cold to him, saying things were awkward, asking him, "I thought you liked Danielle, and she's my friend." (I wouldn't say we're friends. Acquaintances, but that's moot). He says she had been talking about him to all these people, about how excited and nervous she was.

Well, our mutual friend talks to Miss L and Miss L says she is not interested in him nor was she ever, he's lying to me and he was grabbing on this married woman at the festival (which explains why this man wanted to beat him up. He says he had no idea why the man was mad at him. ). He says he had been drinking and not drunk, which might explain his behavior but definitely does not excuse it in MY book.

I'm leaving some stuff out, but their stories are 100% different form each other. I'm not trying to date him, at least not anymore I just want to hang out and get to know him. I know you can't change a man and I don't want to and I know I can't stop him from telling me what he thinks I want to hear, but I don't want him to think he can tell me just anything and I'll believe it. I am usually a pretty gullible person, so I am taking everything he says now with a grain of salt.

I guess I have no questions to ask. I might have answered them all myself. I just don't have a lot of experience with guys, at least not with guys this hot who seem like womanizers and keep lying to cover their lies. Can you guys just give me advice about how to handle this. I feel like he's playing me for a fool. As my friend said, "How can someone we've known for only one week cause so much drama in out lives?"
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I just want to hang out and get to know him.
¿WHY?

does he have a 10 inch cock? drive a pantera? is he in your favorite boy band? can he get you free drugs? do you have really low self-esteem?

if the answer to all of these questions is no, why the fuck would you want to waste your time with him
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Fuck him off, next please.

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The hottest the guy the more slut he is, the same goes sometimes to woman .


Simply BGT, forget the gye, try to get an average guy who you feel will really like you and not use you just like another one. Or maybe an uglier one that you think is acceptable. LOL
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¿WHY?

does he have a 10 inch cock? drive a pantera? is he in your favorite boy band? can he get you free drugs? do you have really low self-esteem?

if the answer to all of these questions is no, why the fuck would you want to waste your time with him
well said and stated. that pretty much spells out what needs to be done.

i know bgt. she is an attractive girl who is cultured, refined, and relatively intelligent.

if it doesnt feel right then get rid of him at once and move on.






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You guys are right, and I know that's what I should do, but it's hard. He has good aspects about him and bad ones and REALLY bad ones and those outweigh the good. I probably know the answer to this one too But I'll ask it anyway. Can't I just talk to him? Not about people, not gossiping, not trying to hear his explanations, but just talking because he makes me laugh with everything he says?

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You guys are right, and I know that's what I should do, but it's hard. He has good aspects about him and bad ones and REALLY bad ones and those outweigh the good. I probably know the answer to this one too But I'll ask it anyway. Can't I just talk to him? Not about people, not gossiping, not trying to hear his explanations, but just talking because he makes me laugh with everything he says?
we can make you laugh as well and without the emotional investment.

move on. you have too much on the ball to waste your time.





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If all you want is listening to his funny chatter then why all the drama and expectations FFS. Go out with him and laugh let him know you believe none of his BS if his probable thinking you're stupid enough to fall for his traps worries you.

I just dont get what's the question about. You might not be telling the whole story me thinks, you seem to have a crush on him.

Have you ever stopped to ponder the question of why you always seem to go for the not really interested type?
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Ok, this is about a guy I met two Saturdays ago. Let's call him Mr. C. I met him at a charity benefit, and we hit it off. He seemed to be into me, asked for my number and asked if we could get together that next weekend. We made plans to go out on a group date Friday and he seemed really excited about it. Yeah, to me and my friend, he seemed to like me. I'm taking interpersonal communication and there was a lot of non-verbal communication indicative of attraction on his part He sat down at my table and introdcued himself to me, he asked for my number, he texted me first, he called me first. That's what guys do who like you, right?

He's from a town about 45 minutes away so he asked me to text him who was going because he might know them. I told him this girl, let's call her Miss L, was going. Almost immediately, he texted me back, saying he couldn't go, his "adoptive" parents reminded him of something he had planned for the weekend. So I was kinda upset because I felt like he blew me off with a BS excuse Turns out, he had gotten Miss L's phone number at the benefit where I met him from her aunt, so I guess he didn't want to be in the same place as both of us at the same time.

Well, he calls me tonight and tells me he was at this seafood festival this weekend. His "parents" (old family friends who he's known almost all his life) invited him because the wife invited this girl who she says likes him and she wanted them to get together and talk there. He says Miss L blew him off and was cold to him, saying things were awkward, asking him, "I thought you liked Danielle, and she's my friend." (I wouldn't say we're friends. Acquaintances, but that's moot). He says she had been talking about him to all these people, about how excited and nervous she was.

Well, our mutual friend talks to Miss L and Miss L says she is not interested in him nor was she ever, he's lying to me and he was grabbing on this married woman at the festival (which explains why this man wanted to beat him up. He says he had no idea why the man was mad at him. ). He says he had been drinking and not drunk, which might explain his behavior but definitely does not excuse it in MY book.

I'm leaving some stuff out, but their stories are 100% different form each other. I'm not trying to date him, at least not anymore I just want to hang out and get to know him. I know you can't change a man and I don't want to and I know I can't stop him from telling me what he thinks I want to hear, but I don't want him to think he can tell me just anything and I'll believe it. I am usually a pretty gullible person, so I am taking everything he says now with a grain of salt.

I guess I have no questions to ask. I might have answered them all myself. I just don't have a lot of experience with guys, at least not with guys this hot who seem like womanizers and keep lying to cover their lies. Can you guys just give me advice about how to handle this. I feel like he's playing me for a fool. As my friend said, "How can someone we've known for only one week cause so much drama in out lives?"
Is a few laughs with someone you just met worth all the associated drama?
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The hottest the guy the more slut he is
Not in my case.

I find it the hottest the guy (me) the more decent he is.
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In a more serious note.

He is playing you for a fool. I know my ex was playing me for a fool time and time again, but I always went back to her because the head jobs were fantastic. But then I got sick of that after what she did (when i posted it on here) and no amount of head job was worth going through that, so I ditched her.

In this case, if you know the guy is dishonest, try not to get too emotionally involved. Not worth it. Hang out with him if you want a laugh, which is what you wanted, but keep your emotions far out of it.

Or alternatively, you can find another guy
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Danielle, I guarantee he isn't thinking about you nearly as much as you are about him.

In fact, if this guy is as you describe him, I wouldn't be surprised at all if he was already with another girl. He sounds like me when I was 17, trying to hook up with every single girl possible and not giving a shit about anything else.

Not worth it. I don't give a fuck how hot he is, that's a really stupid reason to try to keep talking to a guy that clearly has no interest in you as his primary girl. You're a holla-back girl.

Like, "I'll get with all these girls first, then, after that has bored me, I'll holla back at Danielle and see what up."

The more you try to initiate conversation with the guy, the more you are seen as an easier catch. I'd imagine he has you in his back pocket for whenever he wants to try to proceed with you, if he is still thinking about you at all.

Impressive, I'll give him that, but its not worth your time.

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Mr. C is Groove Dude, right?

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Danielle, I guarantee he isn't thinking about you nearly as much as you are about him.

In fact, if this guy is as you describe him, I wouldn't be surprised at all if he was already with another girl. He sounds like me when I was 17, trying to hook up with every single girl possible and not giving a shit about anything else.

Not worth it. I don't give a fuck how hot he is, that's a really stupid reason to try to keep talking to a guy that clearly has no interest in you as his primary girl. You're a holla-back girl.

Like, "I'll get with all these girls first, then, after that has bored me, I'll holla back at Danielle and see what up."

The more you try to initiate conversation with the guy, the more you are seen as an easier catch. I'd imagine he has you in his back pocket for whenever he wants to try to proceed with you, if he is still thinking about you at all.

Impressive, I'll give him that, but its not worth your time.
Yeah, I was thinking, "I bet Jon could give great advice. He probably was this guy." But the suckiest part is that he lives in another town, about 45-50 minutes away from me, so I don't know any of his friends or family. I couldn't "check" up on him to know whether he was legit or not.

Also sucks because I made plans with him this weekend. Maybe I should cancel on him and go with the guy friend who I know likes me.

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