Ok, this is about a guy I met two Saturdays ago. Let's call him Mr. C. I met him at a charity benefit, and we hit it off. He seemed to be into me, asked for my number and asked if we could get together that next weekend. We made plans to go out on a group date Friday and he seemed really excited about it. Yeah, to me and my friend, he seemed to like me. I'm taking interpersonal communication and there was a lot of non-verbal communication indicative of attraction on his part
He sat down at my table and introdcued himself to me, he asked for my number, he texted me first, he called me first. That's what guys do who like you, right?
He's from a town about 45 minutes away so he asked me to text him who was going because he might know them. I told him this girl, let's call her Miss L, was going. Almost immediately, he texted me back, saying he couldn't go, his "adoptive" parents reminded him of something he had planned for the weekend. So I was kinda upset because I felt like he blew me off with a BS excuse
Turns out, he had gotten Miss L's phone number at the benefit where I met him from her aunt, so I guess he didn't want to be in the same place as both of us at the same time.
Well, he calls me tonight and tells me he was at this seafood festival this weekend. His "parents" (old family friends who he's known almost all his life) invited him because the wife invited this girl who she says likes him and she wanted them to get together and talk there. He says Miss L blew him off and was cold to him, saying things were awkward, asking him, "I thought you liked Danielle, and she's my friend." (I wouldn't say we're friends. Acquaintances, but that's moot). He says she had been talking about him to all these people, about how excited and nervous she was.
Well, our mutual friend talks to Miss L and Miss L says she is not interested in him nor was she ever, he's lying to me and he was grabbing on this married woman at the festival (which explains why this man wanted to beat him up. He says he had no idea why the man was mad at him.
). He says he had been drinking and not drunk, which might explain his behavior but definitely does not excuse it in MY book.
I'm leaving some stuff out, but their stories are 100% different form each other. I'm not trying to date him, at least not anymore
I just want to hang out and get to know him. I know you can't change a man and I don't want to and I know I can't stop him from telling me what he thinks I want to hear, but I don't want him to think he can tell me just anything and I'll believe it. I am usually a pretty gullible person, so I am taking everything he says now with a grain of salt.
I guess I have no questions to ask. I might have answered them all myself. I just don't have a lot of experience with guys, at least not with guys this hot who seem like womanizers and keep lying to cover their lies.
Can you guys just give me advice about how to handle this. I feel like he's playing me for a fool. As my friend said, "How can someone we've known for only one week cause so much drama in out lives?"