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Omgosh a black guy asked me out today. Advice needed. Should I call him?

First time for me . I was on the bus today and this guy beside me asked me all of a sudden if I wanted his phone number. I was listening to my ipod and only took my headphones out when a lot of people got out at a place that wasn't a usual stop. I just wanted to see what was going on when this guy started talking to me. I had seen him on the bus several times before. At first I couldn't hear what he was saying, but then I realized he was asking me if I wanted his number. I was just thinking "wtf?".

I couldn't believe he was interested in me before because it would have never occurred to me that I was his type. I ignored him at first because I thought he was just trying to be an asshole but he kept on asking me and then he kept on saying "You don't have to take it" every time I ignored his question and so I just kind of brushed him off. Then he proceeded to show me his phone number anyway and I couldn't ignore him anymore and I wasn't sure whether not taking it would be rude (I'm really bad at this kind of thing) so I just asked him why he wanted to give it to me and he said "I've seen you on here before, I think you're pretty".

I was really flattered because he looked like he was in his mid to late twenties and he was hot so I told him OK. He gave me his number and he told me to call him, I told him I would (even though inside I was thinking no way) and he asked me when so I panicked and told him tomorrow (hoping he would forget by then) and then he told me "don't take my number if you're not going to call me, can you call me today?" and I just said "Oh, I'll see". He then asked me if I had a boyfriend and I said no (I should have said yes but I wasn't really thinking and I thought it would be stupid to say yes since I had already taken his number). Then he asked me if I wanted a boyfriend and I just said "I don't know" (I feel really embarrassed now at how stupid and naive I probably seemed). He then asked me how old I was. I told him I was 18 and I asked him how old he was and he said he was 27. He then asked me whether this was too old for me. I just said "oh no" softly.

Thankfully the bus came to my stop by then and I got off, I can't really remember what happened after then. I was pretty embarrassed about the whole situation. We were the only ones talking on the bus, so everyone probably heard us and I probably sounded like an idiot.

Either way, I don't know whether or not to call him. I see him on my bus like once a week or once every other week so I can't just completely ignore him. He seems pretty intimidating . I think he is attractive but I mean I have to doubt his motives in hitting on me. I wouldn't even know what to do if I called him.

Can someone tell me how I should have reacted in this situation? I never know what to say in these kinds of situations. I feel like I always end up coming off as naive and stupid.

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Ask Tommy Vercetti, he will give you the best advice possible.

This guy motives are the same as any other, he wants to bonk your brains out.

On Nadal bumping him on the changeover, Rosol said: "It's ok, he wanted to take my concentration; I knew he would try something".


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Forget that moron and go out with me instead.
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Forget that moron and go out with me instead.
If you lived near here I would in an instant .

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If you lived near here I would in an instant .
That's a good answer.
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Either way, I don't know whether or not to call him. I see him on my bus like once a week or once every other week so I can't just completely ignore him. He seems pretty intimidating
generally it's not really a good idea to call a dude cuz you're afraid of him
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generally it's not really a good idea to call a dude cuz you're afraid of him
Well I'm not afraid he's going to come after me or anything but I don't want to sit in the same bus as him after I've turned him down.

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18+7 = 25...so this guy is too old...

use 7 to see how much younger the other person can be...use your age divided by 2 + 7...so for me its 23/2= 11.5+7= 18.5 is the youngest i would date and 30 the oldest (well probably 25)

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Ah, 27 is too old for you, I'd say.
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Maybe too old. There are a lot of guys out there for you.
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Ah, 27 is too old for you, I'd say.
Yeah I think so too. 23 is perfect .

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Never call a guy first.

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Yeah I think so too. 23 is perfect .


Yeah, 23 is reasonable... I'd say it's a bit of a threshold for you.
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Well I'm not afraid he's going to come after me or anything but I don't want to sit in the same bus as him after I've turned him down.
Tell him your parents won't allow you to date someone so old. He'll understand that.
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