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post #31 of 62 (permalink) Old 11-15-2006, 10:48 PM
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Re: Long distance relationships, can they work?

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this is very true.

my personal experince didn't work, we tried and we were together for a long time when he moved, but things never worked out. love, respect, commitment, we had all that...but the daily life, the lunches, the dinners, going to the movies, doing simple things together, all was gone. the daily routine was gone, and that killed us.

But one of my friends is dating a guy who lives in Australia, they are together for quite a long time now and things seem to be fine. And even though i don't see myself dating a guy who lives on the other side of the world, i'd say it is possible, there are many cases to prove it.

Deb, that was a beautifull story. Good luck to them.
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Yeah, isn't it? I mean, once I told him that I really admired what they were able to do and he got all embarrassed and just said he didn't think they did anything special at all. I think to them it was just normal to be so smart about it.
Yeah I mean, before he went away to college they had been together at least a year I'd say. Mind you they were young, in their teens, but they still made it work. I guess the trust aspects went without saying and she had helped him through a really horrible time in his life (his dad passed away right before his high school graduation, etc.). And now his mom has also passed away so he is working and taking care of his little brother and she still lives far away working in a 2-year internship, it might be even harder now because they're not in school anymore so they don't get as many breaks, but yet they're still making it work

Maybe they're a special case but they've made me believe it can work when people put in the effort.

Merce, I think the fact that you guys have known each other for so long helps. If you really care about him and really want to put the effort in and go through the hard times in order to make it work, then I'm sure you can I think the important thing is to not let the times of loneliness and stuff really get you down and make you think it's not worth it. If he's worth it and if you feel the relationship is worth it, then the things you have to do along the way are also worth it On the other hand if you really don't think it's all worth it, then I'm the type who doesn't see the need to unnecessarily prolong things....

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Deb your friends story is amzing, there are ppl that are simply meant to be together.

Your last lines worries me a little 'cause I still don't know if it's really worth it .

So come on woman first you give me the high hopes and then you take them out (j/k) . Thanks for your thoughful comment

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this is very true.

my personal experince didn't work, we tried and we were together for a long time when he moved, but things never worked out. love, respect, commitment, we had all that...but the daily life, the lunches, the dinners, going to the movies, doing simple things together, all was gone. the daily routine was gone, and that killed us.

But one of my friends is dating a guy who lives in Australia, they are together for quite a long time now and things seem to be fine. And even though i don't see myself dating a guy who lives on the other side of the world, i'd say it is possible, there are many cases to prove it.

Deb, that was a beautifull story. Good luck to them.

Isn't it weird how somethings work for some ppl and not for others?

You had a special relationship and still got killed by the distance and your friend is dating a guy all the way in Australia and things are working alright

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Re: Long distance relationships, can they work?

From my experience,I say both Yes and No.

I had been in love with a guy who lived on the other side of the world for more than 7 months,but it suddenly ended after an arguement because of my stupidity and immaturity.I'd say it can work when both are mature enough to understand and care about each other's feelings,not using time to argue over trivial things.And the most important is that treasure and trust him/her.I think distance is not really a big problem when you are in love with someone you truly love,for theres no distance between hearts.The 7 months were the most happiest time in my life,which I will treasure forever.I also learned many valuable things from that relationship.

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yes they can. i had one and it worked well. we split up for other reasons.
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I voted "yes" for the poll.
I'd say that it depends on the 2 persons... Long distance is a problem that not everybody can support.. But if you really love the person, you'll be ready to wait and stay faithful. But if you begin to wonder if it can work or not, it means that you have doubts... a little doubt...
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I think it can work, in fact I know two people making it work. It takes hard work and a lot of dedication but they really love each other.

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They can work, it depends on the individuals, but all relationships have problems, it's just the long distance ones can be magnified, though there are certain advantages to long distance relationships.

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yeah, maybe the whole distance just magnifies everything.

The yes option is actually beating the no one by 30 %

I thougth it was going to be a closer result.

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The yes option is actually beating the no one by 30 %

I thougth it was going to be a closer result.
coz people like to be in a dreamland

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no, cos i need to touch skin and i cant sleep alone

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last day of the poll

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no, i would get concerned that my b/f was working himself off to porn, not me

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no, i would get concerned that my b/f was working himself off to porn, not me



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I am just starting one. We are going for it. We have known each other for a month and I visited her this weekend for the first time meeting in person. She lives in East Lansing Michigan. 12.5 hour drive. I'm approaching this was optimism cause we both could not be happier right now .

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