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post #16 of 62 (permalink) Old 11-14-2006, 10:01 PM
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Re: Long distance relationships, can they work?

that's a great story deb

I think it would be possible. It would be hard though but if both parties put an equal effort into it, and if there's complete trust, then why not?

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Re: Long distance relationships, can they work?

It really depends on which stage of a relationship you are and what stage of life you are.
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short-term...yes, long-term...no

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Re: Long distance relationships, can they work?

From personal experience I'd have to say no.

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i believe they can
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Re: Long distance relationships, can they work?

From my experience, I voted no. But, I was younger, and there were issues. If you're really dedicated and actually get to see the person, then there might be a chance. I'm somewhere between a realist and a pessimist with this one!

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Re: Long distance relationships, can they work?

I'm in a long-distance relationship and from my personal experience I can say that they can work out. Trust is a very important factor in a long-distance relationship, just like communication and openness.
Support also plays a big role in our relationship. We know that it is impossible for the 2 to be together all the time because we are both pursuing a career that is the number one priority in our lives at the moment. Instead of frowning on this we have always been supporting each other at any cost.
There have been plenty of ups and downs but we have somehow managed to learn all the rules that need to be followed in order to keep a long-distance relationship alive.

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Re: Long distance relationships, can they work?

I think it is possible, would you really want to throw away something that could be the best that ever happened to you just because it's long distance? If there's trust and feelings then it's just an obstacle like any other in life that you can overcome if both are on the same page and work for it.
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are you having a long distance relationship ??
Yes, I am, and even though we've known each other for a long time we just started dating almost 2 months ago. We live 3 hours apart, but because of our jobs we can spend as much time together as we will like. It can get a little lonely from time to time too.

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I'll agree with this and share the story of one of my best friends and his girlfriend and how they have made it work for years. They started dating in high school around age 16 or whatever. He's a year older than she is and when he went to college (about 90 min from where we grew up) they broke up pretty quickly but missed each other too much and got back together. Then she went to school several hours away (couple hour plane ride), they were still together and what they did was try to see each other once a month. They opened a small bank account and they put money in it and it was just for travel. So one time he could see her, and then the next month she could see him, etc. from money in this account so they wouldn't have to worry about the cost of the trips. On all long weekends and school breaks they saw each other. This lasted the whole time they were in college. They just both finished up this past year and are still together - so they've been together over 5 years from now and are total high school sweethearts and will be married soon. From their experience, which I know is a bit special, it says to me that if people make the effort and really put everything they can into it, it can most definitely work
That's a beautiful story Deb .

It also sort of confirms what I believe, if you start dating and get to spend some time together before moving apart things are easier, because you can get a better sense of each other.

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I'm in a long-distance relationship and from my personal experience I can say that they can work out. Trust is a very important factor in a long-distance relationship, just like communication and openness.
Support also plays a big role in our relationship. We know that it is impossible for the 2 to be together all the time because we are both pursuing a career that is the number one priority in our lives at the moment. Instead of frowning on this we have always been supporting each other at any cost.
There have been plenty of ups and downs but we have somehow managed to learn all the rules that need to be followed in order to keep a long-distance relationship alive.
I agree on that, comunication is very important.

In my case, our job is the #1 priority atm. I think we both have a good comunication, but I still think there's something missing.

I think I'm just a bit afraid to be spending time in something that won't probably go that much further

Maybe I'm looking to far ahead of things also.

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99.99% No

damn even short distance relationships rarely work, imagine if you can see and have sex with your gf/bf once every 2/3 months

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From personal experience I say yes - providing you totally trust each other as Princesa says. And also as she says - you have to be able to communicate and be open with each other.

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Re: Long distance relationships, can they work?

There are always exceptions to the rule, but as others have said, I think these relationships can work if they were already well-established in person and there's a real commitment to each other. If they are just beginning, it's much harder to maintain.

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That's a beautiful story Deb .
Yeah, isn't it? I mean, once I told him that I really admired what they were able to do and he got all embarrassed and just said he didn't think they did anything special at all. I think to them it was just normal to be so smart about it.
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It also sort of confirms what I believe, if you start dating and get to spend some time together before moving apart things are easier, because you can get a better sense of each other.
Yeah I mean, before he went away to college they had been together at least a year I'd say. Mind you they were young, in their teens, but they still made it work. I guess the trust aspects went without saying and she had helped him through a really horrible time in his life (his dad passed away right before his high school graduation, etc.). And now his mom has also passed away so he is working and taking care of his little brother and she still lives far away working in a 2-year internship, it might be even harder now because they're not in school anymore so they don't get as many breaks, but yet they're still making it work

Maybe they're a special case but they've made me believe it can work when people put in the effort.

Merce, I think the fact that you guys have known each other for so long helps. If you really care about him and really want to put the effort in and go through the hard times in order to make it work, then I'm sure you can I think the important thing is to not let the times of loneliness and stuff really get you down and make you think it's not worth it. If he's worth it and if you feel the relationship is worth it, then the things you have to do along the way are also worth it On the other hand if you really don't think it's all worth it, then I'm the type who doesn't see the need to unnecessarily prolong things....

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Re: Long distance relationships, can they work?

They can, depending on how the parties met in the first place and if both parties are willing to pay the price of not getting involved with other people in between, like Adam said. I have never been on a long-distance relationship before, but I imagine it must have the benefit of being much less stressful than a 'short-distance' relationship.

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damn even short distance relationships rarely work, imagine if you can see and have sex with your gf/bf once every 2/3 months
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