that's a great story deb
That's a beautiful story Deb
Yeah, isn't it?
I mean, once I told him that I really admired what they were able to do and he got all embarrassed and just said he didn't think they did anything special at all. I think to them it was just normal to be so smart about it.
It also sort of confirms what I believe, if you start dating and get to spend some time together before moving apart things are easier, because you can get a better sense of each other.
Yeah I mean, before he went away to college they had been together at least a year I'd say. Mind you they were young, in their teens, but they still made it work. I guess the trust aspects went without saying and she had helped him through a really horrible time in his life (his dad passed away right before his high school graduation, etc.). And now his mom has also passed away so he is working and taking care of his little brother and she still lives far away working in a 2-year internship, it might be even harder now because they're not in school anymore so they don't get as many breaks, but yet they're still making it work
Maybe they're a special case but they've made me believe it can work when people put in the effort.
Merce, I think the fact that you guys have known each other for so long helps. If you really care about him and really want to put the effort in and go through the hard times in order to make it work, then I'm sure you can
I think the important thing is to not let the times of loneliness and stuff really get you down and make you think it's not worth it. If he's worth it and if you feel the relationship is worth it, then the things you have to do along the way are also worth it
On the other hand if you really don't think it's all worth it, then I'm the type who doesn't see the need to unnecessarily prolong things....