You are biased, incapable of being objective and clearly know zero on the subject matter at hand.
Me biased? I'm sorry, who is the one who mindlessly makes the inept and shallow statement that Tomic should "just make his own decisions and grow up?". Wow, where to begin with such an intelligent, sophisticated and astute response! This is superficial thinking for those who clearly have an incompetent understanding on the issue we're discussing. Please elaborate how I am "incapable of being objective". I'm the one trying to dissect the situation rationally and you are the only providing half-witted, dumbfounded "suggestions" like "grow up and make your own choices". Life isn't that simple, pal.
Stop reading your pop psychology books and get out into the real world.
This is what I do for a living and you know what? Reality disagrees with you. I've witnessed the instrumental effect of parenting and peer pressure firsthand. I've seen how a dysfunctional and taxing childhood can indirectly shape the behavioural framework of a grown indivisual. Am I saying these people are incapable of making choices? No. They CAN fix their problems, but some problems are much more complex and intricate. Not like I'd expect you to understand that.
Problem with you "psychologists" (if you even are one) is that everything is an excuse or a justification.
I'm not a psychologist (I majored in it), but from your post, I am getting some implication that you've had a bad, somewhat unsteady history with shrinks. You clearly do not understand what the subject entails. I am providing a plausible and rational theory on why Tomic is the way he is. You are ineptly telling him to "grow up and make his own decisions" - what are you doing? Trying to give the illusion of being pragmatic, experienced, realistic? It's this type of superficial, shallow thinking that worries me, especially if you want to moderate this forum.
Please explain in-depth how Tomic's behaviour both off and on court when his father is not around also happens to be John's fault.
As I said earlier, Tomic is not incapable of making his own decisions and attempting to change his behaviour. He can. However, there are certain traits and features within his behavioural framework that can not just "change", like that, overnight. But I already see something awfully problematic with your post. Just because Tomic does something irrational without his father's physical presence doesn't mean it's not John's fault. This is all speculative at this point, but clearly John is an aggressive, determined and bellicose indivisual (from what we've heard and seen). Tomic must have grown up with this type of assertiveness, and has an underlying obligation to try and win and become, as he notoriously pointed out, "the best of all time". This type of unparalleled pressure can build up and be behaviourally released in many different ways. This is a psychological fact.
And you still don't understand my point. I can not analyse the merit of Tomic's behaviour since there is a large handful of insufficient details. It's a theory. My initial point, which you are ignorantly overlooking, is that to place the full blame on Tomic, and not even accepting the fact that parents and childhood development can have an instrumental and integral effect on your mental health as an adult is ignorant and shallow. I am in no position to judge Tomic's behaviour and understand the psychological intent. I am telling you that you are merely dead wrong in thinking, as I just said, not even accepting the fact that parents and childhood development can have an instrumental and integral effect on your mental health as an adult.
But it's obvious his father is an assertive person and many of Tomic's existing problems could
be directly related to his upbringing and all the variables within.