Well, I wasn't talking about their actual personalities, but their public personas. In any way, they conduct themselves higher than the average joe. Must be because of the sacrifices and hard discipline they get as kids.
The public persona is what I meant by a mixture of marketing and media. That's all we get to see and of course it's designed to portray players as larger than life personalities. Or rather, the top players. The lower-ranked players have worked just as hard for their careers but who cares? My point is that we see in players what we want to see in them. But that doesn't make them higher (or lower) human beings.
Agreed, I dont get this obsession with Feds personality present in fans and especially haters. I am his fan and like his game and root for him to win but couldnt care less whether he is a saint or not, couldnt give a flying monkey how great family man and person is he in day to day life, or if he was torturing flies when he was a 6 year old...
I dont know him, and he is not part of my life and i dont analyze his every interview (dont read them even) or stalk him every step of the way. That so many haters like Munze or heya are collecting quotes going back even several years, thats a bit worrying in itself...
I think fans (as well as haters) like to believe that they know what a player is really like. And nowadays, thanks to the internet, you can endlessly rewatch and discuss all the little details that seem to give it away. You can analyse and dissect every word, every gesture, every handshake at the net, everything that players (publicly) do outside of tennis - and then regard it as proof for what you've known all along.
I don't think there's anything wrong with seeing what you want to see in a player. I just think it's good to be aware of it and to not take these things too seriously. And I agree with you about the haters, I can't seem to understand it, myself.