I don't know what forums have you moderated but speaking of tennis forums, you should go sometimes to Tennis Warehouse (Second to MTF arguably) and see what relaxed moderation really looks like.
I've been a mod on a couple of Serbian IT forums in the past. Also one or two english-speaking gaming forums. And I'm reading TW time to time (tried to register even, but spam filter rejected me
). Anyway, nothing special there, still prefer this place